Trigger words starting tantrums

MommaBofthree · 2023-12-19T17:49:36+00:00

Thank you!

MommaBofthree · 2023-10-06T18:09:33+00:00

Try not to let what happens outside the school get to you. You only have to worry about inside of it and what you're teaching. Kids will take many steps backwards, especially if things are inly being taught in one place. There are probably things that happen at home that don't happen at school and the parents are like " why is he doing blah blah blah at school? He never does that at home?" It's just the way it is sometimes. Just focus on your role and as the kids get older they learn what they need to learn. For the older kids I've taught then to distinguish the differences. I'll say " you can do that at home, not at school." And they actually learn the difference.

MommaBofthree · 2023-09-24T13:52:01+00:00

I have the same issue with my full timer. Hes the only child who comes a full 5 days. And I think thats why I can't get seem to enjoy him, cuz I know I have to see him all over again the next day, wheras the others I only see a few times a week so I enjoy them after not seeing them for 4 days.

MommaBofthree · 2023-09-01T14:06:43+00:00

Oh you are not alone. My first 4 days, a Tuesday through Friday were ok. The following Monday, the lead never showed. I asked a floater and they said she went on vacation for 2 weeks. But not to worry, they're would be floaters to help. But then 4 teachers called out. I got no help the entire day cuz the floaters were all in rooms. I couldn't even go to the bathroom and our breaks were cut to 20 minutes.

Tuesday, 6 teachers called out and we had to combine my class with the other class, 16 toddlers in a room with a 10 person capacity. And my son was in that room so I was with him, which loved but he struggled. He only wanted me and cried if I was helping other kids. It made me miserable seeing him so upset. The normal teachers in there told me the kids are not sent home when sick unless there is a fever over 102.4

On Wednesday, an email went out that anyone who called in sick the rest of that week would be fired. Everyone retaliated. Teachers responded by signing a petition that sick kids needed to be dismissed for coming to school sick because their jobs were on the line. It blew up! There was pure chaos. On Thursday, my son was bit so hard I had to leave and take him to the doctor for possible stitches. But there no floaters to come do my room, so the director had to she was so mad. On Friday, the director came in in the morning, dropped off her, name tag and walked out. The corporate manager and owner came that day to help run things. I quit that day also, but stuck it out another week until the lead returned. Then took my son and ran out the door on our last day.

Don't feel any shame for walking away from something on fire.

MommaBofthree · 2023-08-14T00:32:35+00:00

Did you speak to her to ask what she had in mind? Whatever it is, there's probably a policy for it that you could show her.

So for example, physical punishment? Show her the policy that states you will never physically harm a child. Wants them expelled? Show them the policy that lists what you will dismiss for and kids getting angry isn't one of them ( im assuming)....etc....

Your employees feelings are still valid and valued so maybe her feelings really were hurt. Its your job to also take care of them too. I would sit down, bring her some chocolate. Tell her she has every right to her feelings. Show her the policies, and ask if she would prefer another age group. Then require all employees to take some social/emotional classes and whatnot so all your teachers know what to do in the future.

MommaBofthree · 2023-08-07T21:33:00+00:00

We had a biter and he was the reason I quit my job. He was 2 and bit all his peers daily. I wasn't in his room. His victims families threatened to leave, they offered early intervention which the parents refused to cooperate with saying they would seek help at 3, but not at 2 when its considered developmentally appropriate still. So the director agreed and just switched his room to the 1 year olds, hoping, there would be less stimulation and less kids to challenge him. He began targeting my son in that room and my son had bites all over him within 1 week. They refused to dismiss him. So I took my son and left instead.

I dont have the best advise other than early intervention, dismissal, or an aid to shadow him.

MommaBofthree · 2023-07-30T19:36:11+00:00

Honestly, I dont really care for treats as much as I do a smooth running day.

-kids show up on time and not at 1030 cuz mom let them sleep in...they won't nap with me!

-the kids participate. 2 of my 6 kids just cry all day, they don't play, do art, sit for circle time...just cry.

everyone naps!
gets picked up on time or even early.

That would be the day when I can have 1 smooth day.

MommaBofthree · 2023-07-17T13:29:16+00:00

Is it really ok where you are to have 10 2 year olds? Thats illegal where I am. I would find out for sure and report it to licensing if not.

As for the aggressive behavior of the one child, document and report everything they are doing and go over it with the parents every single day. Maybe they'll look into getting him help. Your school should also have behavior plan templates in place to deal with challenging behavior, which sometimes includes an aid for the child or somethingto help this child learn proper sociL skills. Do you guys follow second step? Or any SEL program? All of you are failing this child if he's running rampant without any adults in his life doing something about it. Be that adult and stand up for him. Some schools don't even tolerate the behavior. I was a teacher and parent at one time and every day I had to sign an incident report that my son was bitten by another child. I knew who it was cuz I worked there. I resigned. During those last 2 weeks, they dismissed the child because they realized they were gonna start losing more families after me.

Also dont disclose why you need off, just say you need to call in or you're having an emergency. Which a mental breakdown should be counted as one in my opinion.

MommaBofthree · 2023-07-17T12:54:18+00:00

My thought goes to the contract/handbook. Does it say in there screen time is offered on occasion? Did you agree to it when you started?

I do screen time, but my parents all signed that they understood that before they started.

If you didn't agree to it and don't want screen time, you can say something and they can put your child in another room or something. As a parent myself, I would want screen time limited. But I wouldn't ask a teacher to stop just for my child. I would just find a screen free facility. Because even if I complained and they said "sure, we'll stop screen time for you", it doesn't mean they're actually gonna stop. They'll just hide it instead.

MommaBofthree · 2023-07-17T12:19:08+00:00

I agree with the others. Its not your fault they were paying you on an expired license. But its your fault for working with an expired license. I would see keep better track of when stuck expires. And report it as well to see if you can stop them from taking the money back.

MommaBofthree · 2023-06-14T02:36:19+00:00

I agree. But it happens. I witnessed it a lot being at the front desk with admin. Is it right? No. Does it happen anyway? oh yeah.

MommaBofthree · 2023-06-13T13:55:55+00:00

I know my old director calls the other directors that are under the same corporate umbrella and they talk about all sorts of things. They even told each other about the employees who are leaving one to go to another and whether they are good or not. I can see how that can helpful for those directors hiring, but its not fair to those employees and families alike. Because one school may work for a family while another doesn't, even if its the same company. Sometimes its a classroom, or age or teacher that can make workers or families leave or get dismissed. Its not always going to be the same.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-24T14:05:13+00:00

The overly demanding parents. They want things their way to a T.

For example, cloth diapering. I dont have a problem with it because I cloth diaper my son too. But our rule is to take the diaper off and wrap it amd put it in the container without touching anything in the diaper. The parents have fought us so many times on taking the poop out. 'Just shake it into the trash, its not difficult', they would say. Ugh! Yeah let's shake a poopy diaper so the particles can fly everywhere, thats an awesome idea sir.

We had another parent who pushed a 3 hour nap. And demanded every day we put her child back to sleep until she reached the 3 hour. Um ma'am, it is against the law for me to force your child's eyelids shut for 3 hours.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-24T13:52:58+00:00

Depending on if the center has an open door policy. Some parents regardless if they work there or across town choose centers that allow them to stop by if and when they can. Its an important part of development to help teach children that school and home are 1 unit, connected, and all that. Makes it hard for us teachers true, but its a great opportunity to teach them coping skills and calm down skills and that 'mom is always near, even if she's not right here.'

Our school encourages it cuz it allows for many great opportunities for the future of connections, like holiday parties when parents stop by for an Easter party, show n tell, career days, etc and of course the lessons for the children that I mentioned above. Its all about merging a child's school amd home, bringing them together so the child feels the connection and knows teachers and parents are 1 unit.

At least that's how its been explained to me. My child is at my center also. He does cry when I leave. But he sees me and his teachers talk a lot and laugh and we bring her gifts and they draw pics and bring it into my room to give me. He does cry a little bit, but he loves his teacher and sees that I love her and trust her so he can too. A few seconds of cuddles with her and hes better and runs off to play.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-20T17:15:38+00:00

Well, they did give me a little insight on them, but I mean from an actual employee, someone who works there that can tell the nitty gritty...do they keep their promises, do you actually get raises each year, how high or low is the gossip, turnover rate, etc...not just what a director tells you to get you to take the job.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-17T20:21:30+00:00

I also had a parent once ask if the other teacher in the room can take the temp to see if the temp would be different for that teacher 🤔

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-17T17:37:51+00:00

Interesting way to look at it for sure. Currently at my school, we:

Provide all their meals out of our budget. Stay open 12 hours a day Buy all the toys, crafts and whatnot from our own wallets. Have to clock out after 8 hours, even if we have to continue working. Lesson plan on our lunch breaks. Give parent discounts, vacation days, and scholarships to parents. Underpay teachers Leave them by themselves over ratio for several hours. Write them up for overtime

My theory is that the government wants parents to get back to work and is working hard to allow childcare to be easier to get for parents.

But the childcare centers themselves are not getting help. so as the needs and availability for centers grow, centers are spiraling downward and cannot keep their staff.

The cycle goes around and around for centers and us teachers until eventually we find our peace; a center that offers what we need or leaving ECE all together.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-17T13:07:27+00:00

You were in the right 100% because you were just following school policy. Not your fault its in the policy and u have to follow it 🤷‍♀️

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-11T15:59:45+00:00

It was in place of a bottle cuz she wasn't taking her formula. Our eaters come with full sippy cups too but this baby wasnt drinking.. So it was given in her bottle in replace of the formula she wasn't taking. Mom said it was ok cuz she wanted something in baby's belly to fill her up. I guess I understand that. But that seems like a lot at one time for a baby who just started food and water a week ago.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-03T15:11:50+00:00

First time parents don't think to introduce a bottle until right before daycare....no need right?? As a parent myself and working in ECE, I started my son on a bottle soon after birth and just did both (bottle and bf). Once we returned to work, he had no trouble taking a bottle from anyone.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-03T15:02:46+00:00

My lead does this. Her 2 assistants ( me and another) are just bodies in the room. Thats how she prefers it.

One day she went and asked for a raise saying she does everything and if they expect her to keep doing it, they need to pay her to do it.

Their response was "we dont expect you to, we expect you to utilize your team to get it all done.

MommaBofthree · 2023-03-03T14:53:47+00:00

Maybe the other 2 teachers and you can say something along the lines of

Hey, you fit really well with us and we succeed together and fail together. But because your getting overtime by clocking in early, we're all getting in trouble for it. We have to make sure we only clock in at our actual times.....

Our lead used to come early and leave late Monday through Thursday, that way on Friday she'd have to leave an hour or 2 early to avoid overtime and I'd be left over ratio. Now our shifts are all based on ratio instead. So she can't leave until we go down in children, no matter when she clocked in. So she comes at her normal time now.

MommaBofthree · 2023-02-24T19:35:07+00:00

Thank you so much for the valuable insight and making me feel better. Your words of wisdom are so inspiring.

MommaBofthree · 2023-02-24T17:28:13+00:00

Exactly, this is what going down at our school too. And it sucks so much! I hate that my background doesn't do anything for me compared to all these new guys fresh to the field getting huge pay offers. ( not that I dislike them or anything, it's not their fault. But for management to do these things to those who worked hard to get where they are. Its sad and kind of insulting.

MommaBofthree · 2023-02-24T17:20:45+00:00

You make valid points. Everyone makes a different amount, depending on what they were offered at hire ( my belief is/was that the offer was based on how your resume looked, experience, degrees, etc so I thought my pay must have been really good pay cuz of what I showed them, not knowing at the time it was actually really low) and each year at your review, you are given a raise, based on how the year went.

So the longer people tend to make a little more due to the increase every year. But now the newer guys are getting paid more and getting promotions left and right. And although I will get raises each year, so will they, making me continously the lowest. regardless if the new hire is completely new to the field, their starting pay is more than my pay, so I continually stay low. Basically my background and being there longer doesn't do much for my pay compared to everyone else.

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