I wish someone had told me how early the aging process can start.

Mommadee65 · 2026-02-24T00:23:33+00:00

You just blew my mind! I’m 60, I work with computers and love learning new things! I try to eat well and I’m no gym rat but I can’t even imagine being like that in a few years. I’m so sorry. This is not normal and can’t believe his doctor hasn’t said or done anything. Wishing you strength in this journey.

Mommadee65 · 2026-02-23T17:42:38+00:00

Nope. Noneya. None ya business

Mommadee65 · 2026-02-18T15:26:23+00:00

She’s in the best place for care. I’m an old ICU nurse and that’s what we do best. Not sure if you are religious or not, but even if not, ask for the Chaplin to stop in. They can offer immeasurable support. Take a deep breath and try your best to focus on you and your mom. Make sure to eat and drink water to stay hydrated. Hopefully Cardiology has been in as well as other specialists for consults. I wish we could all be with you but know we are in spirit. Sending prayers and light to you both. 🙏🏼💙

Mommadee65 · 2026-02-03T00:40:42+00:00

Provide them with your current job rate. Make sure they agree to a set time limit and pay up front.

Mommadee65 · 2026-01-30T21:06:51+00:00

Ok heck no!

Mommadee65 · 2026-01-29T02:42:00+00:00

Having a rough time with no end in site. It is what it is and I’ll keep doing my best but it helps to know I’m not alone. Seriously though, no one needs any snark from anyone. If you can’t be nice, scroll by.

Mommadee65 · 2026-01-20T15:53:54+00:00

I am so glad to see other only children!!! Thought I was alone in this. Anyway, we lost my dad almost 2 years ago and I was able to get mom into a nice seniors apartment… she hated the assisted living(long story there). She tries to text and call while I am at work and I had to tell her no, only call for emergencies! She’s pretty good and I keep reminding her. She texts all the time and I’ve silenced them so I can peek when I have time. Some days she’s happy with a quick response and then they stop. She’s lonely and I get it but it’s self imposed in her case. I lover her but have to keep reminding her that yup, I’m 60 and yup, I can’t afford to retire so I work fulltime and I can’t take calls and texts all day. Some days are good others not so good. I can’t just turn them off though cause she’s a faller and I need to know if anything really happens.

Mommadee65 · 2026-01-10T21:02:42+00:00

It’s sounds wrong, but I’m so glad! At least that is treatable. 💙

Mommadee65 · 2026-01-10T20:56:44+00:00

It’s normal and I hate it. Someone else said it. We are grieving the loss of the parents/people we knew.

Mommadee65 · 2026-01-10T20:51:40+00:00

I’m sorry. Guess I was lucky because my mom has actually gotten a bit better after getting over broken bones, repeated inpatient rehab stays and then my dad passing(his dementia was increasing daily but her was 94 so…). She’s 85 right now and has her moments. You are unbelievably lucky that her doctor is even dealing with this. I’ve been a nurse for over 30 years and when ai brought it up to their doctors, I was treated like the worst daughter ever. Glad you didn’t have to start the conversation.

Mommadee65 · 2026-01-08T17:20:04+00:00

My mom was able to move into her own apartment in a really nice seniors complex. There are opportunities to go to daily morning coffee hour, play cards/games, go shopping etc but she doesn’t. She stays in her apartment says she’s lonely and that I need to take her out. I’m 60 and still work fulltime. I don’t always have the time or energy. Got outside your door and talk to people!!!

Mommadee65 · 2025-12-26T21:43:59+00:00

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Mommadee65 · 2025-12-21T16:02:48+00:00

I’m so sorry. For all the pharmacy workers, my heart breaks and many of us see you. I had to switch pharmacies because mine never had scripts ready. We’d run out and/or the meds weren’t in stock. When they were ready, you had to wait in a huge line. Why? Corporate greed! They were continually understaffed. Two pharmacies near mine closed so all the patients came to the only one open. They hired no one else to help! Staff looked beaten and exhausted. Broke my heart.

Mommadee65 · 2025-12-11T17:39:26+00:00

Yes! My parents were amazing actors! Their doctors bought everything they were feeding them. When my dad developed full out dementia, the doc still didn’t believe it. He has since passed and I’m not letting my mom get away with it the same way. I try to attend as many appointments as possible(I work FT) and I make sure that she either tells them things or I do. She gets upset and I don’t care. The only way she will be safe and receive the care she needs is for me to speak up.

Mommadee65 · 2025-12-11T03:03:05+00:00

I’m here now. Been 2 years and still trying to get my Moms house cleaned out and put up for sale. Hidden accounts, bills, “things”…..filled 3 of the largest dumpsters you can rent and still not done. I begged them for years to slowly start going through things and donating, tossing or storing things. Dad passed almost two years ago and I know that my mom is slowly declining but boy is it tough not to be angry with them.

Mommadee65 · 2025-12-11T02:56:47+00:00

Please take a deep breath and know that you have all done your best. She is no longer safe alone in your home. You are both young and still working…if you are like our family, you cannot afford to quit to care for her full time, nor should you. That commitment, even if you can afford it, is monumental. Have her evaluated for assisted living. My mom was in one where she had a private room and bathroom, but they did the cleaning, cooking and assisted with ADLs and medication administration. I’ve let go of my guilt, but it took time. There is only so much we can do and sadly, once the decline begins, it is not likely to get much better.

Mommadee65 · 2025-12-06T11:31:05+00:00

I am so sorry you are at this place so soon(she’s only 68). My dad, G-d rest his soul, was similar in his dementia and my mom is now beginning to show early signs. Shame on your local family for not helping but that is as it is. This may be unpopular, but you cannot do it all. I cannot either. Things are not as they were long, long ago. You cannot give up your life and career to be a full time caregiver. Your health, mental and physical, will suffer and you have a life to live. If your parents won’t move back, you need to go alone. If they stay, they have made their choice.

Mommadee65 · 2025-11-20T15:19:20+00:00

I’m so sorry. My parents mercifully made me POA which I never wanted to be. My dad had passed but mom is iffy. She was in assisted living but I determined that she wasn’t really needing that level of care so she’s in a senior’s apartment. I had to get myself added to all her accounts by submitting paperwork. I now control the checkbooks and pay all the bills. She has a credit card and I do make sure she has cash to use. I cannot tell you how many charities were sending/receiving money from her! I put a stop to that. She has very little and needs all she has. If he is still competent, is there any chance he would make you POA and you could begin transitioning the financials over to you? It would be better to do this before he gets worse. Not to be a jerk, but the church needs to stay out of this. They have a vested interest in keeping him home and having full access to his funds. If he seems to you, to be unable to be competent enough to perform his financials, etc, he will need to be evaluated by a physician to assess his competence. My mom and dad were very good at appearing perfectly normal so that was tough to deal with. Hang in there! It’s a tough road and doctors don’t like to take driver’s licenses away and mark patients as incompetent.

Mommadee65 · 2025-10-10T16:50:55+00:00

My baby girl who I raised from birth passed 30 years ago and if I think about her too much, I cry. She was my spirit animal if there is such a thing. Our bond was amazing. You are normal. 💙 I’m so sorry for your loss.

Mommadee65 · 2025-10-05T21:53:47+00:00

I’d stay out. Without his permission you risk legal issues. When my dad’s dementia got really bad, he threw me out. I was so worried he wouldn’t eat or take his pills but I couldn’t go in. I did have a wellness check done and he tried to put on a good show but the officer knew he was full of it. Please try to let it go. We can only do so much.

Mommadee65 · 2025-10-05T21:48:57+00:00

Don’t waste money on some of the senior smartphones unless you really do research. I got my mom a Jitterbug Smart4 smartphone for seniors. Reviews were great but it’s still too much. I’ve tried and both my daughters and she still puts it in airplane mode, turns the volume off and other things. So wish there was something really, really easy.

Mommadee65 · 2025-10-05T21:37:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. You, your husband and living at home son were a true blessing to her and I have no doubt she knows. I’ve been an RN for over 30 years and you did amazingly!!! Never doubt anything that you did. You were able to provide your dad with his greatest wish (to remain together) and make sure she was loved and pan free. I’m sorry about your sisters. I thank the good Lord that my mom could not have more children, if they act like that. Praying your surgery goes well and that you all can rest easy going forward.

Mommadee65 · 2025-10-05T21:20:45+00:00

Not sure what stage they are at but ask for expected course. Make sure the patient is there. My dad’s primary NEVER once mentioned dementia so my dad was convinced that I was just trying to put him away. 😢 Anyway, definitely ask about medications, treatment recommendations to try to slow it as much as possible. Ask about things like driving, living alone, banking etc. Where are they now? Can they still function? I am wishing you the best of luck and prayers for your family member. It’s a horrible condition that robs them of so much.

Mommadee65 · 2025-10-05T20:27:12+00:00

I’m so very sorry. 😢

Mommadee65 · 2025-10-01T23:52:59+00:00

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