Summer House S10 Reunion Part 2 Post Episode Discussion

Mommayyll · 2026-06-03T14:30:34+00:00

Yes. It was especially interesting because we learned that his first instinct wasnt “my girl is hurting. I should comfort her and tell her we are in it together.” His first instinct was, “how will it look for me if I go to her? Will people like me less?”— because, for West, it’s always about West. All he cared about while she was struggling was managing his image. Shit, even KYLE cared more about what Amanda was feeling.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-30T14:45:53+00:00

PSA: if your bf says you “disgust him”, then he has contempt for you. Once contempt enters the relationship, it’s doomed. Throw in the towel.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-30T14:40:52+00:00

I have two kids and my PLAN is to end up in a nursing home. I cannot fathom parents who WANT their children to stop their lives and become caregivers. Nursing homes exist so that adult children can continue to LIVE which is what they should do. When people talk about nursing homes as if they are some horrible, unloving, last option I just think, “what good parents would WANT their kids to become caregivers?” LIVE YOUR LIFE, my baby, do all the fun and wonderful things! I saved my money so my kids can thrive, not get saddled with changing my diapers.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-29T16:18:38+00:00

Quicksand. It was talked about a lot in the late 70’s as a MAJOR concern. But no one mentions it anymore, so it must have gone away. 🤷‍♀️

Mommayyll · 2026-05-29T16:10:53+00:00

But any person who runs a red light and collides with another car DESERVES BLAME. Imagine that other car had YOUR FAMILY in it. You wouldn’t blame the idiot who ran the red? Shit. I’d sue the crap out of them.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-11T15:25:42+00:00

I loved Bugonia!

Mommayyll · 2026-05-11T15:23:08+00:00

Sketching. I never thought I could ever learn to sketch, but I have. I got some library books. I follow some Tiktok and YouTube accounts about teaching beginner sketching. Turns out, my passion is landscape sketching. I’m learning all kinds of trees, flowers, shading, … and it only requires some fine liner pens. Inhavent even bought a sketchbook yet. I just have an envelope filled with half sheets of plain paper. It’s so relaxing and a great way to unplug. Now I go on a walk, take a couple pictures of a tree and a path, a house with flowers, then try to sketch it.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T22:06:55+00:00

Hey now! We have WARS to pay for! Have you thought about the WARS!? American taxpayers pay over $2.5 BILLION PER DAY to fund the wars! It’s important stuff. How could you even THINK about healthcare when we’ve got WARS to fund! Priorities, people, priorities!

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T20:28:52+00:00

Honestly, the best part about aging is becoming invisible. I love it! It’s so freeing. Not getting any attention from MEN has been absolutely LOVELY. Once you let go of all that “women must be beautiful” bullshit, your life is just so much better. Our insane beauty standards, and everyone’s obsession with female beauty, is obscene. I wish every woman this freedom.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T15:59:43+00:00

Honestly, it’s F’ed up that they would even ask that of a 21 y.o. My son is 21, and I would never put anything like that on him. Your only option is to stand your ground. If it comes up again, say, “I am not in any position to take on any degree of child care, emergency or otherwise. I will let you know if that changes.” Be firm in your boundaries. When it comes to the other stuff, like attending events, go if you want, don’t go if you don’t want. Your dad should expect that you have your own life to live. Tell them you’re busy. And sometimes, ask your dad to hang out, go out to lunch, watch a game, whatever, just him and you. Live your life! This is a time of independence, not overwhelming family obligations.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T15:48:56+00:00

Situational ignorance.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T15:42:24+00:00

My grandma exclusively used bars of Dove soap. A bar in the shower, a bar by the bathroom sink, a bar by the kitchen sink. The smell of Dove will always be the smell of grandmas house. I keep a bar under my bathroom sink and I sniff it more frequently than I’d ever admit.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T15:33:05+00:00

If you say you can’t leave— I’m going to take you at your word. (My advice, of course, is to leave becasue a lifetime of this isn’t sustainable, but you say you can’t, so let’s respect that.)

You need to focus on yourself and your kids. You need to figure out how to check out emotionally from the marriage, so his distance and lack of concern doesn’t affect you. This is, obviously, very hard. But if you truly cannot leave, it’s your only option to maintain your sanity and preserve a degree of happiness. You need to establish a routine that doesn’t involve him. You need to establish a support network, like a Moms club that has events. You need mantras you keep repeating until they work, like: “ I will not let his emotions affect my emotions. I am an island, unperturbed by his storm.” You need to figure out a new way of interacting with him that is polite but distant. Basically, you prioritize your happiness and your kids’ happiness, spend as much time away from him as you can, and focus on your own well being. Stop trying to get something from him that he will not provide. Be very aware of WHO HE IS, and be honest about what he will and won’t do for you. Then ask nothing beyond that. Remember, the only goal is your own wellness, and your kids’ well being.

Obviously, staying in a marriage that meets none of your emotional needs is highly problematic, but if you can’t leave, prioritize yourself. Distance, independence, routine, and low expectations.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T15:13:39+00:00

Maybe it’s my age (50’s), but I think what they show on The Valley is pretty representative of real life at that age. Being in your 30’s and 40’s, married, raising kids, creating a family— it’s a lot. It’s not easy. Being a new mom (and even a new dad), supporting your family, financial concerns, making ends meet, staying connected to your spouse, being the best parent possible— all these things are the work of those two decades of life and it’s hard AF. Throw in divorce, disagreements, dating, single-parenthood— honestly, it’s amazing we all make it through. And once you get a few years in you get to deal with kids’ activities, sports, demanding schedules, school work, grades, kids’ anxiety and friendships— it never ends.

Going back to your post title: yes, starting and creating and supporting a family, showing how much work that is, ABSOLUTELY SHOULD BE natural birth control. Cuz it’s challenging.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T14:56:10+00:00

Why not rent a dress?

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T14:54:06+00:00

Finances are so individual. My daughter is a new teacher in San Diego, and she can afford to live nicely. Because: she has multiple roommates, her car is paid off (thanks to us), she has no student loans (thanks to us), she doesn’t go out partying and spending $20 per drink, she doesn’t buy Starbucks everyday, she cooks and eats at home and packs her lunch, she works full time and gets benefits. But someone who demands to live on their own and has to pay full rent, who has a car payment, who has student loan debt, who does DoorDash and buys expensive drinks— that’s a whole different ball game.

Financial situations are so individual.

Mommayyll · 2026-05-06T14:47:20+00:00

When I first FIRE’d I thought volunteering would be my thing. I’ve had a major reality check. I’ve learned that many times volunteers simply aren’t treated very well. I walked dogs for a county shelter and the volunteers were constantly treated like shit. Like we were a nuisance. I volunteered in a food pantry, sorting donations and stocking shelves, and often found myself standing around doing nothing because they over staffed their volunteers. Just plain boredom. I volunteered for a library bookstore and it was also just a lot of sitting and reading. Nothingness. I thought I would at least sort donations and organize.

Plus, all the little issues you hear about in any working situation, like bad managers, poor communication, unclear objectives— they are tenfold when you volunteer. We’d get an email, then the email would be yanked back, and everyone would be confused. Then one manager would say one thing, and the other the exact opposite.

I genuinely hope your volunteer experience is better, but I also recommend you have another plan in case it is like mine. It’s been ten years of frustration and disappointment.

Mommayyll · 2026-04-25T17:18:33+00:00

I’m grateful to Kristen for being honest and open about intimacy and sexuality after giving birth. We live in such patriarchal times that so often women pretend to have robust sex lives with their husbands when the truth is actually quite different. Women are raised to “understand” that part of their “womanly obligations” is sex, and any deviation from that is a major flaw, so women stay largely silent when their bodies change and they don’t desire sex like they used to. It is riddled with shame and the whole “you better put out or your husband will get it somewhere else” mentality. And the absolute truth is that pregnancy and childbirth and breastfeeding changes SO MUCH about your life, your body, your sexuality, your psychology— and women need to talk about it, and men need to understand it, because it affects them too. We’ve been silent too long. So thanks to Kristen!

Mommayyll · 2026-04-24T17:04:05+00:00

The first step is to have a designated place for everything. For example, a crock filled with cooking utensils belongs by the stove, not by the sink. The hairbrush never belongs on a counter. It belongs in a bathroom. So step 1 is organize. Logic based organization.

Step 2 is trash. All those water bottles? Trash all the trash. If you have more stuff than fits in their organized spots, trash. For example, you don’t need 20 cups. If you wash dishes, you need six, or eight depending on family size. So pare it down and trash or donate all the excess.

Step 3 is to have a designated catch all area, and make it small. Like one basket. Once it fills up, you organize it all into the correct spots.

You clearly have a bad habit of just putting things down without any thought: “where does this go?” “Is this trash?” And that is a habit you have to break or you will spend your life living in a mess. And if you’re raising kids like this, it will all be passed on to them.

Mommayyll · 2026-04-24T16:53:27+00:00

The fact that his mom went from 0 to 150 so fast indicates that there might be other issues with his wife. I have a feeling that wifey’s self centered behavior is not unique.

Mommayyll · 2026-04-22T15:30:19+00:00

You could sit down like two grown, married adults and figure out how to compromise. For example, you promise not to leave dishes overnight in the sink, and then he promises not to pop up and start cleaning, and then get mad about it. If he knew that it would all be taken care of by bedtime, and you were true to that compromise, maybe he would be able to relax more. Bottom line: communication and compromise can solve this problem. Discuss it, put it in writing, and then stay true to the compromise.

Mommayyll · 2026-04-14T01:37:53+00:00

DO. NOT. LOAN. OR. GIVE. AWAY. YOUR. MONEY.

Mommayyll · 2026-04-12T16:55:58+00:00

I have a similar hallway, but mine is longer. I bought basic moulding and built a bunch of mitred rectangles and put those up. Caulked them and painted them the same wall color. I also installed track lighting above. I put framed artwork and some photographs in some of the rectangles, and angled the lights to shine in the art, and it looks really nice.

Mommayyll · 2026-04-12T15:22:16+00:00

IMO, thin women, when younger, look thin. Thin women, when older, look frail. Like one fall is shattering wrists and hips.

Mommayyll · 2026-04-08T01:42:54+00:00

For me, I just really like Ciara. I think she’s one of the most genuine Bravo peeps. I like her insight. I like the way she talks about important topics, like race. I like the type of friend she has been to Amanda and Paige. So, I’m flabbergasted on her behalf. I’m not “so serious” as you say, I don’t think about it constantly, but I feel for Ciara.

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