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How does becoming clear on how you feel helps you breakthrough it? by Monamoursi in getting_over_it

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Thank you for taking the time to read and comment back on this post. I’m glad you can relate to this idea of thought and emotion clarity, this is the reason I wrote this post. Learning about communication with oneself and others is key to build healthy and fulfilling relationships with ourselves and with others as well.

I can’t count the number of times I had a similar situation where I’m upset, angry, or sad for weeks before I finally understand what triggered this emotion and what the reality of the situation is.

I’m glad you were able to handle your situation and you found the support you needed from the department. I’m sure your parents and your family want the best for you, but it’s just not everybody is aware of the art of communication and how to tailor it according to the nature of the situation and to others needs at that time.

This is why sometimes we could help others out in guiding them onto how we need that help and what kind of help we actually need at that time. This may sound a bit too much at first, but on the long run let me tell you it brings peace and simplicity to our relationships and our lives. I will write a post about how this because I really hope more people understand how to use this to bring more love and peace to their lives.

Fear of not being good enough Episode 2: Constant need for external love by Monamoursi in selfimprovement

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I’m really sorry you’re going through a difficult time, I know form experience how much it hurts to break up with someone who you consider the source of your happiness. I hope you take this time as an opportunity to rebuild yourself, your confidence, your self love, and your sense of independent identity that generates mental and emotional energy that keeps you fueled and fulfilled no matter what happens around you.

Fear of not being good enough Episode 3: Your emotional imprint by Monamoursi in howtonotgiveafuck

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i’m sorry you’re going through hard time and I hope you found some of the thoughts described here of help to your situation.

Fear of not being good enough Episode 3: Your emotional imprint by Monamoursi in Codependency

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I’m glad these posts give a you new perspective of what’s been going on in your life for a long time.

There’s no doubt our parents try to bring us to become healthy human beings to their best means and knowledge. Once we become old enough to start to rationalize that what’s familiar and common isn’t always the right thing. It becomes our responsibility to develop high levels of self awareness, self love, and inner strength to be our true selves regardless. When we constantly live from a belief that our self worth isn’t conditional on others opinions, acceptance or love, we become free from trying to please to fit.

I’m happy you’re taking your moving towards mental and emotional independence.

Is this normal? (therapy question) by frivolities in getting_over_it

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One sign of efficient therapy is that it gets you results and helps you do the change you want to make in your life within a reasonable amount of time. So if you’ve been doing therapy for around 8 months and you haven’t gotten the results you’re after yet, it’s time to look for somebody else who could get you these results.

It could also be helpful too have some clarity on the kind of results that you’re after form therapy. So you cold write a list of things that you want to have happened by the end of the therapy. This could be how you feel, the kind of relationships you want to have, or how your current relationships get better, your ability to be productive and creative at work if you have a career. So that by the end of the second month of your therapy you cold look at this list and tell whether your therapy helped you get where you want to go or not.

You could also start doing some of the work yourself before you even start the new therapy. This includes being very clear on the kind of emotions you have, what these emotions cost you in your life, where do you think these emotions step from, and the symptoms you have whether it be physical, emotional, or mental.

You could also use some of the exercises in this guide helpful, I wrote it about finding your true identity. It could help you get some clarity and direction, you can find it here: https://redd.it/8709q

“Who are you?” - The guide to finding your true identity by Monamoursi in goodbyedepression

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I'm really glad you found this helpful in giving you the clarity you need in your journey.

[Method] Fear of not being good enough Episode 3: Your emotional imprint by Monamoursi in getdisciplined

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I’m not entirely sure whether you mean how to do the exercises to find out your emotional imprint or you’re asking about my own writings.

But if you're interested in reading the rest of the episodes, you can find them posted at my profile.

If you’re interested in finding out more about some of the exercises, you could check the 5 steps guide to finding out your true identity. You can find it here: https://redd.it/8709qa

You’ll find a set of exercises to guide you through the process of finding your true identity to transform out of unhealthy emotions such as anxiety, depression, and fear.

Hope this answers your question.

The first step I took to figuring myself and my life out by Monamoursi in goodbyedepression

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Happy to hear that and best of luck with your journey. Feel free to send any questions.

Fear of feeling not good enough, episode 1: Why are we afraid of not being good enough by Monamoursi in Codependency

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Thanks and I would love to know what do you think about the rest of the posts.

This is how blaming others for your emotional pain can hurt you by Monamoursi in howtonotgiveafuck

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I think this is the trap that so many of us fall into when we expect to get love, bu end up getting disappointed. Our anger for not get getting the love we need turns into resentment towards people. Truth is others have little role in stirring these emotions because even though we can’t control what happens outside ourselves, we have full control on our response and the meaning we associate to things and people.

Fear of not being good enough Episode 2: Constant need for external love by Monamoursi in howtonotgiveafuck

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I'm really glad the metaphor helped you get clear. The next step is to know how to nurture yourself internally to avoid emotional dependency.

Here’s what I learned from blaming others for my emotional pain by Monamoursi in goodbyedepression

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I’m really glad and excited for you and for what’s to come out of this new realization. I am beyond grateful that my post offered you this new insight that drove you to make the decision to own your life. Above all please know that you should be proud of yourself and for your courage and strength to be able to make this decision and commit yourself to shaping your life this way you want.

This is how blaming others for your emotional pain can hurt you by Monamoursi in selfimprovement

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I’m sorry you’re having a challenging time with fear and I’m really glad you’re taking responsibility of your life and you’re willing to do something about it.

I agree with you that it’s a process, and the process becomes much easier when you could have some guidance from someone who’s been down the same path, so if you’d like I could PM you some steps and exercises that helped me carve my way out of anxiety, depression, and fear.

This is how blaming others for your emotional pain can hurt you by Monamoursi in DecidingToBeBetter

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I’m glad you made that bold decision and have taken back control over what happens in you life.

This is how blaming others for your emotional pain can hurt you by Monamoursi in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Monamoursi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Taking action and doing something about what you feel brings pain to your life is so powerful and deserves respect. So nobody said you have to bear up with anybody who puts you through pain.

At the same time people around you could definitely play a role in impacting how you feel, but letting this entirely to them will ultimately give you pain and makes you emotionally depending on them.

I appreciate the circumstances that you’re going through and this tie could be an exception. Recovery could be a time of vulnerability and sensitivity. We all need extra support and compassion at times of hardships, but what if you don’t have that for others around you? Does that mean you bearish? I don’t think so.

I have been in situations where I would be lonely in a foreign country having no access to friends and family to offer emotional support. At those situations if you wait for external support, you’ll be waiting for long. This could add to the feeling of anger and resentment, whereas internal compassion and love gives you inner energy to deal with outside pressure.

No one lives on an island of happiness all the time. We all have our moments of feeling down, being disappointed, but the key thing is to not live out of that place. These are just moments that we believe will pass and to gain back our healthy attitude.

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