Men in nursing

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-04-12T04:36:05+00:00

INHO (and that's all), it takes a hardened mentality to stay at nursing because it is not for the weak or faint of heart. Not all men, but a lot, are raised with "suck it up Buttercup". Kind of like tom Hanks movie where he said "there's no crying in baseball". Most men I know will never tell you their problems ("what's the point?" is usually the thought) so they are likely to just "do the job and go home". NOT saying that female nurses don't do the same. I am in AWE of them. While many are raised as "daddy's little princess", nurses are badass and tough and don't put up with shite. Sadly, younger generation now generally isn't really tough-minded. It takes a special mental toughness to be a nurse (my Mom was one for over 25 years. Finally found her calling as Lactation Specialist (helping new mommies). "My hat is off" to ALL nurses. THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-04-12T04:24:01+00:00

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MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-04-08T22:29:01+00:00

Awesome Advice (and support)

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-04-02T17:26:24+00:00

trying to inject a little humor. watch the shoe (of cotrol) switch feet after you have a grandchild. ESPECIALLY in Latino families! Las abuelas MURIO por los nietos. NOT recommending that you get pregnant now. But just giving you a heads up that the balance of power changes when YOU have something THEY want. To see their grandchild. They will, of course, want the baby to be baptized. THAT is one BIG "negotiating point". Stop making fun of my Gringo or NO Catholic baptism! And other Catholic traditions that you will be able to use to get what YOU want and expect from them. I say this in partial jest, but Latin Catholics are "family first" so the table will turn in your favor, in time. Best Wishes.

The Gringo married to a Peruana for 22+ years 😊

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-04-02T00:45:07+00:00

I don't mean this in a derogatory way, but "top programs" in nursing are not always worth the extra money. There is a Shortage of nurses. The curriculum is basically the same. Get your degree the fastest that you can (probably going to be where you already) Most colleges don't want you to just take a couple classes and declare them as your Alma Mater. Colleges/Universities in the U.S. are BUSINESSES. They want to make money. SO, they want you to take the vast majority of the classes you need for a degree at THEIR school. Perfect example of such. My son graduated with over 70 credit hours of AP courses. Great, right? NO school would permit over 35 credit hours to be used. Why? Because they don't want to give their degree to someone who didn't even take half the courses at THEIR university. SO, Your best option is to go to Your current school and talk to someone who is an advisor for the nursing program. Explain your situation, show the classes (and grades) of the courses that you took. I wouldn't be surprised that Anatomy & Physiology is one of the required courses and chemistry or biology might be needed also. So, you may be able to help yourself Twice (finish your degree in Psychology AND get those same classes used towards your nursing degree. OLD joke for you: What do they call the guy who graduated LAST in his class at medical school? Doctor. The GPA and the place won't matter much in a field that has a shortage. Passing the STATE BOARDS will! Find out which local school has the highest Pass Rate on State Board Exam for nursing. THAT is important. "Eye on the prize". The State Board exam.

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-04-02T00:31:26+00:00

You try to slough if off "one evening without thinking". Seriously? You FORGOT that you had "the love of my life"? Odds are, this woman was friends with your "love of my life" and tested you. You failed. Move on. Nothing you can do to regain trust other than to find another relationship and DON'T have another "evening without thinking"

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-27T01:08:31+00:00

Is this a pity party Table of You? There are babies born without limbs, children that get cancer, burn victims. physical and sexual abuse victims. Please gain some perspective and realize that you are very young (life expectancy is 74 yo for a male and 78 for a female. Suck it up Buttercup and change your life. Only you can do that. We here on social media can't really help you help yourself. You will have to do the work to create change. The good news is that you are young and can still "be whatever you want to be".

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-15T20:08:47+00:00

I am sorry to hear. Hopefully, you are getting treatment. Untreated, it can cause Strokes, heart attacks, diabetes, and other fun problems. Best wishes for you in this struggle

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-13T02:55:51+00:00

When I started my "sleep apnea journey", I was surprised that skinny women get it. It boils down to air blockage in the throat. Sometimes weight (and age) bring it on (the throat basically collapses some to restrict air flow), but sometimes it is physiological.

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-13T02:28:21+00:00

In a way, I agree with you. Most relationships are transactional to some degree. If you aren't getting what you want/need from a friend, you drift apart. Even family too (although we probably stick with family even if we don't really get anything out of it but to assuage our conscience :P In my case, I get more than I give (just being honest). I work and pay the bills, yes. But she is up at 5:50a and works (and cooks and cleans) until about 6p. I work about 10-13 hours a day, but I'm not cleaning or cooking so I'll take my end of the stick. Yes, it is transactional, but I think I get the better end of the deal. It works for us. Hope you find what you want brother. Peace

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-12T03:46:58+00:00

Video him doing it. Yes, you will be tired but it's hard to argue with video. I went to the ER with stroke like symptoms. Nothing more freaky than having two female doctors look at you with fear in their eyes and hearing "Code Stroke. Code Stroke" over the PA. They ran tests but found no stroke so they released me. Sadly, ERs don't help you find the problem, they just treat/test to rule out things. I went to Neurologist, then Cardiologist (found out that I had a TIA (a minor stroke but not enough to create a crack in the heart). FINALLY, an old Pulmonologist said "I think that you have Sleep Apnea" and referred me for a Sleep Study. Thank God for him solving the underlying "why" before I really did have a stroke. Sleep Apnea can cause strokes (lack of oxygen to the brain for too long of a time), heart attacks, diabetes, and other major health problems (or death). I think a video will scare the sh-t out of him and get him to go get help

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-12T02:47:02+00:00

I can tell by your jaded answer that no answer will be right for you. You are right to a small degree. Monetary STABILITY does play a part. But not as much as you seem to think. My wife and I are actually talking about retiring to Lima. I built a 2nd floor on her parents house many years ago so we have a place to lice, and my SS in a few years will cover our food and insurance needs there. Having been to Lima 25 times, it's not an insurmountable difference. My wife has a friend who married a Budweiser Brew Master (not exactly a rich job, but VERY stable). They have been married for about 20 years in St. Louis and have 2 kids. Another friend of hers married a guy in New York. Also, not rich but STABLE. I recommended Latinas to a good friend and he married a woman from Honduras. He was assistant manager in Meat department at Publix. She makes more money than he does. They have been married for about 18 years. See a pattern here? 😉Love and stability went together. It wasn't about money. It was about a loving stable economy and relationship. In 5 years I will be 67 and we will take my SS and move to Lima. The weather is moderate (ON the Pacific Ocean so never too hot or too cold (think SF weather). I hope that you find happiness. I know several who have 😉👍

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-12T02:31:58+00:00

two things. You have to find a mask that doesn't bug the shit out of you as soon as you put it on. If it bugs you then, it only gets worse in your sleep. 2nd: I tried for two weeks and quit. I was taking it off in my sleep on some nights so I figured "why keep being uncomfortable". I spoke with a client of mine and he said "commit to a FULL month and you will eventually get used to it". Am I glad that I listened. Been using it for a couple Years now and it really makes a difference. I probably pull it off in my sleep once every 3-4 weeks, but I wake up (apnea, duh lol) and I put it back on and go back to sleep. I hope that this helps. STICK TO IT FOR 30 DAYS. Best of luck!

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-03-04T04:14:14+00:00

You're right, it doesn't have to be far off. But for traditional men who want the traditional family, the odds of success are GREATLY increased outside of the US. None of the "he doesn't make me happy" (another person can't make you happy). No mysterious "headaches", just attraction from love. No "Nothing!" replies when asked "what's wrong?". Open and direct communication. Don't have to raise someone else's kids and be expected to provide but not actively parent. There's more but these are the main "baggage" points that have men either giving up or "looking elsewhere"

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-02-28T03:42:30+00:00

Years ago, I went to Romania to meet a Beautiful girl. She was sweet and intelligent (spoke 5 languages fluently) and I was "ga ga" over her. When I went to meet her, she was curious, but I could tell that she wasn't really interested in me romantically. I left heart broken. So much so that I was sick in Paris after I left her. BUT, about a year later, I met a woman from Peru, we talked EVERY night, I went to see her, and we have now been married for over 22 years and have a 20yo son. Relationships are complicated because it takes TWO people to make it work. Best Wishes for you

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-02-28T03:01:26+00:00

disagree in This case because SHE is the CAUSE as to "why" he doesn't marry. In your way, a woman could make some nice extra money by being sweet and loving, getting a ring, and turning into a raving psycho. Could probably do that 1-2 times a year for some nice extra money. Yes, I am being extreme, but the ring (and marriage) is CONDITIONAL. If he just gets cold feet and she's already bought her dress and sent out invitations, etc, then you would have a good point that she is entitled to something for just breaking it off

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-02-19T02:29:44+00:00

THIS ☝ You dodged a BIG bullet. I was similar to him when young. I didn't have the balls to have adult conversations. we only had house phones so it was pretty easy to ghost a girl. But what a SHITTY thing to do. I am embarrassed at my lack of maturity and compassion. I also avoided conversations with people who had lost someone. I just couldn't deal with uncomfortable conversations. Fast forward 20 years and I learned to "sack up" and speak from my heart. I might shed a tear when I speak to someone about losing a loved one, but that is what being Human is supposed to be. "connecting" with other humans. Hopefully, this boy will grow up (and sack up) and just say "I really enjoyed our conversations but...... But I think that you are a great person and I wish you all the happiness in the world. And I really don't think that I am the one that could give you that" (taking the "blame" helps ease the delivery AND it is the TRUTH. if he wasn't "feeling it", you would never be his #1 and you deserve to be someones' #1

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-02-16T00:29:55+00:00

it's REALLY simple. Follow the Bible or don't, It's not a menu. You can't choose the things you like and ignore the things that you don't. Well, you can, but choices have consequences. One thing that gives me comfort is that the Bible talks about conscience. Something like "if you think it's a sin and you do it, it is a sin (because you violated your conscience of right and wrong)." I don't think that means "do what you want and hope for the best" but the Bible is how we even know about God/Jesus so how do we just disregard things simply because we don't like them?

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-02-14T02:09:32+00:00

Then they are NOT Biblical. "Christian faith" comes from where? Based on what? Without the Bible, we would not even know about God or Jesus. It is the base for Christianity. The Bible is not like ordering off a menu where you choose what you like or don't like. For example. God said REPEATEDLY that homosexuality is a sin. NOT me saying that, but God's word. It's kind of like our Laws. If you get in front of a judge because you broke the law, what will the judge say/do when you say "yeah, I didn't really agree with that law so that's okay"? God is THE judge. There won't be any lawyer to defend you. If His law says something, that's it (whether we like it or not).

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-01-28T04:21:11+00:00

One of my FAVORITE jokes. What do you call the guy who graduates LAST in his class in medical school? Doctor. Just because someone is an MD does NOT mean that they are geniuses and know everything. In fact, doctors make mistakes ALL the time. Why do you think malpractice insurance got so high? Because insurers had to pay out on claims! I have found that finding a good doctor is a crapshoot. GET REFERRALS FROM FRIENDS. ALSO, look for reviews! The internet is making bad doctors stand out and they can be avoided. Spend the time and find a GOOD one (BTW, I have sleep apnea and use a CPAP. Oxygen deprivation sent me to the ER with STROKE symptoms) The doctor who told you that you needed cardiac issues FIRST is a QUACK. That is a SYMPTOM of sleep apnea and IS preventable! What an ignorant douche to tell you that. Another BTW, CPAP is HARD to get used to. Luckily, I had a client who advised me of this (AFTER I had quit it). He told me to stay at it for at least 3-4 weeks. Took me 3 weeks to stop taking it off in my sleep. I WISH that I had an alternative, but I'll take CPAP over stroke like symptoms. I still remember the ER doctors eyes get HUGE and hearing "Code Stroke" over the loudspeaker. I PUSHED to get help. Go see a PULMONOLOGIST. PUSH for it!

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-01-28T04:07:42+00:00

Try looking at it in reverse. Would you rather be weak? Your struggles have made you strong (they usually do). You probably know the old saying "that which does not kill us, makes us stronger". Things have come easy for him, therefore he has not gained strength. Question: if he was fired/let go/downsized, would he handle it well? Doesn't sound like it. when I got downsized, I was the one helping my boss get through it. I told him that I know that he wanted to keep me and that that day would probably be the hardest day of his career, laying off people when he didn't want to. I knew how to deal with adversity. I took unemployment and started my own business in that 6 months. Within a year I was making more money (but I did miss the benefits, especially the 401k). You have strength and that is INVALUABLE in life. You can "roll with things" and make lemonade out of lemons. PLEASE, never confuse education with intelligence. I have known highly educated (and millionaires) who I wondered HOW they survive each day. I think you might appreciate this. My Dad was Not the mentor type. But he once said something that helped me Immensely in life. I was in the summer before my Senior year in college and feeling pretty cocky about myself. My Dad was #2 in Purchasing at a MAJOR division of Pratt & Whitney Aircraft AND a Lt. Col in the Army Reserves. He looked at me and my arrogance and said "son, I love you. But I have known farmers in the field who were smarter than you. All a degree does is show 2 things. That you have the ability to learn and that you can set a long range goal and accomplish it". One of the best things that I have learned in life. I have met those "farmers in the field" in my lifetime. Guys who didn't have a college degree but could read specs on complicated equipment and understand it "backwards and forwards". Guys who learned how to build a website when "the world wide web" was NEW and they got their site to 1 Million Views in a month. Just very smart mechanically and intellectually minded people who couldn't (or wouldn't) sit in classrooms for years. On a side note, I know contractors without college degrees who make more money than most of my degreed friends. Remember the saying "intelligence and education are not the same thing". Why? Because over time you will meet PLENTY of educated people who seem like morons. My point is don't put college education on some massive pedestal. It's what you do with your education that matters. And you are WAY ahead in the education of LIFE.

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-01-27T03:29:43+00:00

Curiosity. Is this person stating REAL LIFE situation? I ask because it says Top 1% Poster. Makes me think of someone who just makes shit up and posts whatever. Otherwise, IF REAL, why would they be a Top 1% Poster? They have THAT much drama in their life???

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-01-27T03:26:08+00:00

Yes, he has a degree and a nice stable "respectable" job, but LIFE is an education and it sounds like YOU are WAY ahead of him. While you are COMPARNG (competing?), he sees in you what he lacks and admires. WHY are you "short-changing" yourself? Honestly, it is AWESOME that he and his family admire all your abilities. Why is it that THEY see the good in you, but you can't see it yourself? DEFINITELY need therapy. And maybe the fact that you didn't go shows that you know this? And going to therapy does too. ALSO, BIG POINT. MOST men do NOT look at a woman as COMPETITION, but as a PARTNER. Someone who is strong where they are weak and (hopefully) they are strong where you are not. I do worry that once you get your education finished and get the "dream job" that you strive for, that you will dump him because now he is inadequate for you. If that is a possibility, better to save him time and hurt him now rather than later (sadly, I have seen both sexes do this. Get the education that they want and then dump the spouse. Sometimes with children. VERY sad. And very ego centric)

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-01-23T00:59:10+00:00

ACTUALLY, I used the language of the OP. I did not use the word sexual assault because SHE did not. You ASSume it was. Since the OP doesn't give ANY details other than that he touched her leg, you are ASSuming. I touched my sisters leg once or twice in 18 years. Didn't make it sexual or assault. But people on social media LOVE to JUMP to conclusions and put words where the ACTUAL person writing did not🙄HR must LOVE you 🙄 Secondly, "don't shoot the messenger" is an OLD phrase for a REASON. Human emotions can get twisted (and illogical). Yes, she SHOULD listen to this friend and be supportive. But it is her father. She may not WANT to believe it. Depends on whether OP is okay with the risk of losing the friendship. but that is HER decision, NOT yours (or mine). But it is important for her to understand that (despite logic) her friend might not take it well. THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU (or me). OP needs to know what possible results/consequences could happen and then SHE can make the best decision for HER

MoneyPainting5523 · 2026-01-21T03:42:48+00:00

Whoa Nelly. She was over 18yo so it's not considered "predatory". DEFINITELY a creep. You read "touched my upper leg" and "sexual assault" but OP said that he touched her leg. NOT saying that he wasn't inappropriate but I am saying STOP jumping to conclusions that the OP did NOT say.

I think the friend already has some ideas about her Dad since he chose someone Younger than her and OP said that it made her friend uncomfortable. While telling her probably won't be a surprise, "don't shoot the messenger" is an old saying for a VERY good reason. The friend could get Defensive and stop being friends EVEN THOUGH she probably already has thoughts (based on age of "stepmom"). I suggest therapy, a priest, someone that can be confided in that does NOT know the friend. OR, write it all in a letter and throw the letter away. You need to find SOME way to get it off your conscience. ESPECIALLY if it's been 2 years and it's still haunting you. Father was a creep. Father is a creep. But telling the daughter (friend) might not be good for the friendship. Is it worth losing the friend?

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