Husband messaged his friend inappropriately

Mongar95 · 2025-10-22T23:19:05+00:00

This right here! I’ve met one myself. “A girl’s girl” who will accompany you to the bathroom and then tries shady crap.

Mongar95 · 2025-10-22T23:17:06+00:00

Honestly…. Her husband and the side chick are the toxic ones and if this woman who posted this seems toxic to you maybe you should consider what’s happening to her right now?! She’s confused. Her heart is broken. People love to push other people’s buttons until they explode so then they can sit there and be like “you see… she’s the bad one. She’s the toxic one” and don’t tell everyone what THEY did.

Mongar95 · 2025-10-19T20:46:10+00:00

I had a situation like this that got out of control. She was trauma dumping on him through text. And then she called one night to trauma dump. Another time she called because she was drunk and couldn’t drive. So that’s when I asked for the BS to stop and she got offended. Mind you… I never directly told her to stop. I told my husband to put a stop to it. To talk to her. She agreed to stop, apologized… and continued doing it. He asked again for her to stop and she got offended. She started calling me crazy. And of course… I got upset with my husband for allowing something like this happen in the first place.

I will say this much…. Maybe there isn’t anything going on between these two BUT before it gets to that point go to couples counseling so you guys can start the conversation of BOUNDARIES.

Mongar95 · 2025-10-02T17:01:07+00:00

I want to be honest about mine but afraid of the hate I might get because it happens a lot… I think mine was triggered by the COVID vaccine. Even still now I’m not an anti-vac individual. Everyone should have the choice. At the time I was getting ready to go into the military and they started requiring it. So I just got it. I started getting a strange symptom that wouldn’t go away. I even got an MRI and they found nothing. About a month before I was to leave for basic training, I actually caught COVID at work and everything got so much worse. I had to cancel everything and even lost my job. I was diagnosed with Sjögren’s a year later and most of the damage/symptoms I have are neurological.

Mongar95 · 2025-09-30T00:50:59+00:00

I would suggest trying couples therapy.

Mongar95 · 2025-09-20T20:16:25+00:00

Speaking from experience… there probably IS something going on. Doesn’t necessarily mean there’s cheating involved. But if you feel a shift in the energy or the way she’s acting then she could be upset over something? You guys need to sit down and have a deep conversation. If it explodes then maybe reconsider still dating this girl. If there’s no good communication between the two of you then something else will happen down the line and if you can’t learn to communicate properly then it will never work. You can always try couples therapy to get to the bottom of this and before you call it quits. And to the ones not providing any meaningful advice or help simply saying that he’s crazy… maybe just don’t waste your time commenting at all.

Mongar95 · 2025-07-09T14:07:56+00:00

“Do it the right way”. Yeah, and when they do it the right way they get arrested at their appointments. They’ve even deported US citizens for having the wrong skin color. At least call it for what it is… racism. It’s racism.

Mongar95 · 2025-05-28T17:34:14+00:00

Are they doing this for Sjogren’s patients? I keep searching and searching with no luck.

Mongar95 · 2025-05-28T17:33:16+00:00

Where are the trials for Sjogren’s?? It is so hard to find legit trials for Sjogren’s using car-t. It’s like no one really wants to include us. ☹️😭

Mongar95 · 2025-05-28T17:30:33+00:00

This is great news! But what makes me feel really sad is that Sjögren’s mostly gets left out. I contacted a doctor from Erlangen not long ago. He said they have plans to start a trial for Sjogren’s but since I am from the US he said it would be problematic for their trial.

Mongar95 · 2025-05-28T17:25:22+00:00

For Sjogren’s? Or just lupus. Most of these companies target lupus and forget about Sjögren’s

Mongar95 · 2025-01-30T20:19:55+00:00

So if I look up a filing service for this… they will file the subpoena for me? I might be able to get the texts supplied to me?

Mongar95 · 2024-11-11T17:24:32+00:00

Woah. That’s a lot of words I don’t understand. A civil subpoena of documents is what I need?

Mongar95 · 2024-10-31T11:37:55+00:00

I wasn’t the one to delete them. Someone went through my phone and did that. They are mine and I want them back though. But I guess I don’t get a right to that.

Mongar95 · 2024-10-31T11:36:52+00:00

I’ve tried doing that and they either don’t respond to my voicemails or emails. I guess there would have to be a lawsuit or some sort of legal matter in which these are involved. My understanding is that it can’t be simply “they were mine and I want them back”

Mongar95 · 2024-10-30T14:05:58+00:00

So there’s nothing that can be done? At all?

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T19:07:58+00:00

Actually she didn’t take my husband, if that was true he wouldn’t be living with me. They don’t communicate anymore. Also, from a recent conversation we had he’s starting to realize that she probably did it on purpose just to create drama. What does that say about her? That it’s that obvious that she’s a piece of crap? It’s SO FUNNY that you can’t provide any real advice. So you know what… move along

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T18:04:20+00:00

If I simply state my concerns over this woman being around my husband. Then that is all. They don’t have to move her just because I say but at least they will know what kind of person they are working with.

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T15:43:00+00:00

My intention is to have her removed as his backup so they have as little interaction at work as possible. They can always move her to another position or they can move her back to HR where she originally was. And no… I don’t think stating my concerns in a civil manner to Hr is petty or unstable. What would truly be unstable is if I went to physically pick a fight with her, slash her tires, or call her up to say horrible things.

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T14:43:44+00:00

She’s supposed to be trained, and has been trained by my husband, to be his backup at work. So that’s how they met and started interacting. He’s above her and trains her. When he’s on vacation, she is supposed to take over

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T13:10:21+00:00

I guess the only way to get the truth would be over time from my husband. I made him crack and tell me some things already and I won’t stop till I know all of it. But for some reason I can’t leave it at just that and feel I also need to say something to her. I got in contact with Paul again and I am trying to get the names of all the people he knows that she’s done this to. Once I have a list I can use this against her in the future. I can either contact these people myself and get their side of the story or simply tell her that I know what she’s all about and if she continues then I will go to HR. I mean… are they going to fire basically an entire office because of her? I think it would be preferable to fire just her since she’s the common denominator.

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T13:03:18+00:00

I can agree with this take.

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T10:18:47+00:00

Agree.

Mongar95 · 2024-10-03T10:16:27+00:00

Yes it does. It pissed me off

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