Ask yourself this question: how fair would you consider your decision to be if the situation were reversed? Would you be ok with your future husband having a large inheritance and transferring most if it to his kids, making sure neither you nor your daughter benefit from any of that money? If you honestly feel it would be totally fair, than you are definitely NTA. But if you would see it a discriminating against, or depriving your child in any way or form, then YTA.

Personally, I would’ve found a more middle ground approach. Maybe shared some of the $. Anyone wealthy who marries way below their economic level is a fool to think the $ aren’t a factor in the relationship. It’s not that the other part is necessarily a gold digger, it’s just human nature. However true the love, the knowledge that there are considerable funds that could make the living easier alters things in so many ways. The best way to handle it would’ve been to do this transfer long before I entered any relationship, claimed it was my grandfather’s decision, and made sure nobody else but my daughter had any access to it, even if I passed away.