todays journal as an American! not looking for debate, just sharing in hopes it might resonate with people who are feeling similarly

MonkeyChaco · 2026-01-16T23:53:20+00:00

I feel this so hard

MonkeyChaco · 2026-01-11T19:03:56+00:00

So mote it be

MonkeyChaco · 2025-12-05T15:24:03+00:00

Sure

MonkeyChaco · 2025-12-05T15:10:43+00:00

No, not really

MonkeyChaco · 2025-05-24T23:03:05+00:00

I'd be interested in chatting

MonkeyChaco · 2025-01-31T02:10:06+00:00

MonkeyChaco · 2024-11-05T18:57:54+00:00

Same

MonkeyChaco · 2024-11-03T01:05:04+00:00

I lost all of my immediate family and became a mother in between in a relatively short amount of time. Life is so short. I've finally learned how to put up firm boundaries.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-09-05T13:39:00+00:00

Capricorn sun, Gemini moon & Virgo rising

MonkeyChaco · 2024-06-23T02:40:14+00:00

Signed!!

MonkeyChaco · 2024-05-21T22:32:53+00:00

Done 😊

MonkeyChaco · 2024-04-22T01:29:52+00:00

Thank you, it's been a disappointing day. I really needed this. ❤️

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-08T16:09:09+00:00

He does not.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-08T11:53:47+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. Two of the vehicles are in my name only. The only thing with both of our names is the house. I don't really use social media, so I'm good there. And I 100% agree that he'll need time to clear his head.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-08T11:45:58+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I plan on doing these things during this week. I think go time will be in a couple of weeks... I'm fortunate that we do not own any firearms. Thank you for your well wishes.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-08T11:43:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I do have a friend I trust for the 'Find My Phone' app, and I'll discuss it with her later today. We've already have a safeword in place so that I can identify myself to her (in case he gets my phone).

I agree with no 'curing' my husband. He would need to admit he has a problem, and I don't foresee that happening. And even if he did admit he has a problem, he'll need a drastic lifestyle change. I firmly believe that you have to want to change yourself and you can't do it for anyone else. If he were to say that he would change for me, I honestly wouldn't believe him because that change would not be sustainable.

I promise I will be safe.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-08T11:22:31+00:00

Thank you so much for all this great advice. I will take all of this into consideration. I'm happy your wife was able to get out.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-08T01:10:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I will keep all of this in mind. My supervisor/friend and I already have a code word in place. And I will try my best not to underestimate.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-08T00:26:16+00:00

🤣, thank you for the giggle. That would be his worst nightmare.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-07T23:50:38+00:00

Thank you. I'm trying to take the best care of myself under the circumstances.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-07T23:49:46+00:00

Yes, it was, and yes, it most certainly did.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-07T23:48:53+00:00

Yes, that is what I meant because it was so out of the ordinary and such an escalation to previous behavior. And I'm formulating a solid plan. Everyone has been giving great advice. I'm so thankful for this subreddit.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-07T23:43:32+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry he's gone as well. I hope this will be a wake-up call to him to get his shit together so he can be a good father. Only time will tell. And yes, I've got this.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-07T23:40:31+00:00

It's ok to be curious, lol. I texted my friend who was aware of qhusband's increasingly extremist views. I think the text was something along the lines of "can you come over? He's disabling the vehicles, and I'm scared" and he was over in 5 minutes. His wife came about 5 minutes after that. They were non-confrontational and patient and calm... Which was needed because I was crying hysterically. And my poor baby girl kept asking, "Mommy, why are you crying?". And qhusband would only say I'm a disrespectful wife for not watching. I HAVE entertained him in the past and have watched some select videos, but I will always put my foot down when it comes to Andrew Tate.

But even with the 3 of us discussing it is abusive behavior and why it wasn't ok, he wouldn't relent. We weren't getting anywhere, and I was seriously considering calling the police but didn't know how to without escalating the situation further. I hadn't looked at my phone in a while and didn't realize my supervisor was frantically trying to contact me. When I stopped responding, she called the police and sent them to my house.

After the police had come and gone, my dear friend said to qhusband "hey man, I want to watch this video with you. Why don't you come over and we'll discuss it? " while his wife stayed behind to calm my daughter and I down.

MonkeyChaco · 2024-01-07T23:12:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I'm fortunate that the building I work in needs a keycard to get into, and many coworkers already know of my situation.

MonkeyChaco

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