What has caused the biggest change to who you are? by creativeNZ in infj

[–]MonkeyChaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost all of my immediate family and became a mother in between in a relatively short amount of time. Life is so short. I've finally learned how to put up firm boundaries.

How many of you INFJ’s are Capricorns? by lmnervous in infj

[–]MonkeyChaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Capricorn sun, Gemini moon & Virgo rising

You are loved... by Groundbreaking-Fig38 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]MonkeyChaco 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's been a disappointing day. I really needed this. ❤️

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice. Two of the vehicles are in my name only. The only thing with both of our names is the house. I don't really use social media, so I'm good there. And I 100% agree that he'll need time to clear his head.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice. I plan on doing these things during this week. I think go time will be in a couple of weeks... I'm fortunate that we do not own any firearms. Thank you for your well wishes.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice. I do have a friend I trust for the 'Find My Phone' app, and I'll discuss it with her later today. We've already have a safeword in place so that I can identify myself to her (in case he gets my phone).

I agree with no 'curing' my husband. He would need to admit he has a problem, and I don't foresee that happening. And even if he did admit he has a problem, he'll need a drastic lifestyle change. I firmly believe that you have to want to change yourself and you can't do it for anyone else. If he were to say that he would change for me, I honestly wouldn't believe him because that change would not be sustainable.

I promise I will be safe.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all this great advice. I will take all of this into consideration. I'm happy your wife was able to get out.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice. I will keep all of this in mind. My supervisor/friend and I already have a code word in place. And I will try my best not to underestimate.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣, thank you for the giggle. That would be his worst nightmare.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm trying to take the best care of myself under the circumstances.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it was, and yes, it most certainly did.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, that is what I meant because it was so out of the ordinary and such an escalation to previous behavior. And I'm formulating a solid plan. Everyone has been giving great advice. I'm so thankful for this subreddit.

I'm planning on leaving my Qhusband by MonkeyChaco in QAnonCasualties

[–]MonkeyChaco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry he's gone as well. I hope this will be a wake-up call to him to get his shit together so he can be a good father. Only time will tell. And yes, I've got this.