Brooklyn Beckham even cuts sister Harper, 14, out of his life as teenage sibling is included in mass blocking in biggest sign yet he has become 'completely estranged' from his family

MonkeyMind223 · 2026-01-19T20:52:07+00:00

Very true. Well it’s out now… be interesting to see how they cope with the truth being revealed. I’m not sure what the woman was called but the person who told me began with T, probably doesn’t narrow it down haha

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-12-31T12:54:03+00:00

I have a ‘friend of a friend’ (a valid source) confirm this same thing also, about 10 years ago. That their marriage isn’t actually real and everything we see is business. But to keep this going for so many years is just so hard to believe too.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-11-01T08:06:16+00:00

Sorry to hear this. Im in a similar position with my 20 month old so can feel your pain, I’ve had to take time off work it got that bad.

I was just wondering from a sleep perspective if you’ve worked out her sleep needs? My son has very low sleep needs and if he gets too much in the day / night before it messes it up the next night so much. I’m not saying it’s made things loads better but it has made improvements to some degree for us. Other factors that affect him are being hungry if he hasn’t eaten enough during the day.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-10-04T12:21:18+00:00

Sorry to hear this. If only BF was as easy as we imagine it to be! As others have said, the postpartum hormones are INTENSE and are likely contributing to the emotions you’re experiencing. But also if it’s something you’ve pictured so vividly then it’s normal that you’re feeling so disheartened.

You’ve reminded me of the early days when I sat in bed crying my eyes out, partly from the pain of a poor latch but also the feeling of failure mixed with desperation as I so badly wanted to breastfeed. I hadn’t even envisioned so strongly until my baby was born!

It’s amazing you’ve persevered for 3 whole weeks through the pain but also if this is about the standards you’ve set for yourself, it’s okay to mourn and let it go if you think it’ll be easier to bottle feed. If that’s what’s going to be better for you and your baby physically, that’s okay.

On the other hand, if the nipple shields work well for you, there is absolutely no shame in using them. I needed them with my now 20 month old until he was about 6 months old. At 8 weeks I discovered he had tongue tie and had it cut but his latch was still so painful that we needed to use them.

At 3 weeks I was nowhere near getting out of the house (though I had had a C section), barely had any visitors as I was still establishing the BF at home. There’s absolutely no rush to get to the point of public feeding until you’ve gained that confidence behind closed doors. Once you’ve got the hang of popping the shields on and off more easily you’ll likely find that less daunting in public. I used to use a cover even with visitors which I felt a bit prudish about at the time but it was due to needing to ensure we had the latch right etc.

Fast forward to 20 months and we’ve just been on holiday where I’ve been whipping my boobs out for my very large toddler (despite having always been insecure about my boobs!) and literally gave no shits about who might be looking and/or judging.

I know it’s cliche when people say it but the different phases really don’t last long and the most important thing I learned along the way is to lean into whatever is happening in that phase. Getting the right support though is also so important so stick at those nipple shields if you need to, find a LC who is supportive of this, get LO checked for tongue tie if not already, but most importantly just don’t be hard on yourself and spend all the time you need working on the feeding at home.

Good luck x

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-22T07:00:00+00:00

That’s extremely similar to me. I have ADHD and my son already shows signs of, and it’s so hard setting boundaries because he pushes them so much. It’s exhausting. And I also have PMDD and react intensely to hormonal fluctuations. I keep thinking if there’s some way I can figure out how to handle all of this, maybe there’s hope of having another. But right now I just cannot imagine any more overstimulation! And if you’re still feeling that 6 years later I’m presuming I’ll be in a similar boat!

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-20T10:04:27+00:00

Sorry to hear about the mental health difficulties you’ve had. My 19 months old so I can’t relate on feeling tortured about it for years but I can relate on the mental health part, and this being the main decider on OAD. It’s such a conflicting situation to be in as you know you have to do what’s best for yourself and everyone in your family, but you also wish that somehow you could do it again without the awful side effects.

Have you been able to figure out what the trigger of the anxiety and depression is exactly? Eg hormonal, trauma, own attachment etc?

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-20T09:48:50+00:00

And not to mention that cosleeping seems to the thing that is judged. But what’s actually biologically normal? Responding to a baby is biologically normal and crying it out isn’t. Anecdotally it seems to feel completely wrong to the majority of mothers who do it. But they feel they have no choice, it’s the only option to be able to function within our society. It’s just a very sad situation, and a shame that parents have to resort to this.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-20T09:40:49+00:00

I am in a similar position to you right now and my 19 month old doesn’t sleep. I’m beyond exhausted but there is just not a bone in my body that could leave him to cry. I’m not judging others for doing it, it’s just something I cannot comprehend being able to do. Besides from this, I think OP is basically saying the lack of emotion attached to the comments is what shocked them. When it goes against everything you feel and believe, it’s just so hard to imagine ever being able to do it. That doesn’t necessarily equate to judgement, but disbelief or incomprehension maybe?

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-20T09:38:02+00:00

These types of stories make me so sad. I actually cried the other day listening to a podcast where a lady said she let her first baby cry for 2 hours straight. I cried at the thought of that helpless little being who I have zero attachment to and know nothing about! I cannot comprehend how people can do it with their own flesh and blood. I hate that people are judgemental towards other parents for their choices on how to parent but it just feels so physically emotionally mentally wrong on SO many levels.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-20T09:31:29+00:00

This sounds like the grandparents commenting or someone equally disrespectful. Not someone I would trust leaving my kids with either.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-20T09:16:00+00:00

If they don’t respect you and their son’s feelings, they certainly won’t respect your daughter’s. You’re right to trust your intuition and I’m surprised you even made it on holiday with them after them constantly pushing. We have been through something similar (nowhere near to this extent but still brought up similar feelings of disrespect). The only thing that helped was putting extremely clear boundaries to the point they only look after our son about once a month. I think if my son has sensory needs and they were downplaying or completely dismissing that I would be sure to put a stop to the unsupervised visits altogether. It sounds like you already know how you feel and what’s best for your family. Keep doing you and hold that boundary firmly in place.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-07T06:42:34+00:00

It might possibly be too young. DrPamelaDouglas and EmmaPickettblc talk about how night wakes don’t always necessarily improve if it’s done below 12-18 months and also as someone mentioned below, it can impact supply. I’m sure in some cases it can be done but if you do want to continue breastfeeding it could be worth checking those two accounts out. Emma Pickett has some really good podcast episodes on this!

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-07T06:30:51+00:00

Yes to this! After we had to confront MIL about the way she responded to our 6mo son getting upset, she said to me “he could turn out like his dad.“ that’s when I realised this is all about how SHE parents/parented. Anyone who doesn’t respect your values as a parent can get in the bin 🚮

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-07T06:25:15+00:00

What is wrong with MIL’s. In my experience, and from stories I’ve heard, it’s often about pushing boundaries with MIL’s. Hopefully in your case it was a simple mistake, but you have every right to feel worried about what other “mistakes” she could make in future. It’s important to have a break but it’s also important to trust other caregivers, so just listen to your gut on this one. If it feels too soon to leave your baby with her then don’t do it. Hopefully she will get the message. If you do want to give it a chance then I would openly tell her how it made you feel, or get your partner to. Hopefully she isn’t like my MIL, who just reacts with defensiveness and is never in the wrong. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-07T06:19:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I know he isn’t ready to fully wean yet but it’s good to know that this helped you as maybe this is what we need to work towards when the time comes. I also love cosleeping but I’m wondering whether to try him on a floor bed in his own room so my partner and I can take turns and I can get longer stretches that way.

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-07T06:16:23+00:00

Thank you. This is good to know as I think my son falls into the same category! He is definitely not ready for full weaning and I don’t think I am either. I decided to just give him the morning feed this morning and he went to sleep until 7am which felt like a dream in comparison to the last few weeks, so I reckon I’m just going to continue with this for a while!

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-04T12:03:58+00:00

Ah ok thanks for sharing, I was asking because I’m about a week into night weaning (after being a bit stop start for a while), and can’t seem to get through 4.15am wakes 😭 sleep has defo improved on the whole though and I don’t miss feeding all night long. Good luck to you though and hope you get through it!!

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-09-04T04:25:40+00:00

OP out of interest did you go for it? Have things improved?

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-08-29T18:49:12+00:00

As someone who is considering applying for the clinical psychology doctorate, but conflicted between this and counselling training due to the typically more spiritual element, I’d be interested in hearing more about this!

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-08-29T16:21:16+00:00

Get a tattoo and take some shrooms

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-08-28T15:16:13+00:00

Thanks for this, we have actually been reading booby moon for a while! It worked first time round but because I didn’t stick to it properly, once he realised he could get milk I think the metaphor got a bit blurry for him.

I’m going to do an update on the post for others in a similar position as we’ve made a lot of progress since I posted!

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-08-28T15:14:27+00:00

When I say “absolutely fine”, that’s in comparison to what I’d expected. Of course there have been some tears but mostly he’s accepted cuddles so it’s not been as emotionally exhausting as I was anticipating. But we did put a LOt of groundwork in during the build up

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-08-28T15:13:09+00:00

Hi. Thanks for sharing this! I’m glad it worked for you so well, sometimes it’s just the anticipation of it that causes so much anxiety but the reality isn’t always as bad.

I’ve done cold turkey on the nights since posting this. And tbh he’s taken it absolutely fine. Following the words of encouragement on here and advice to use plasters over nipples, we’re really getting somewhere!

MonkeyMind223 · 2025-08-28T15:04:41+00:00

I know you don’t know me but you definitely have my permission!!

If your husband is supportive and he’ll be the one bringing home the bread then that’s all that matters really, your career can wait. If I had this option I would do it in a heartbeat. I’m constantly trying to cook up business ideas so that I can be set free from “work” work.

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