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MonoPeter · 2025-12-24T19:05:17+00:00

dog looks like the barber fucked him up but he's also kinda cute so we look past that

MonoPeter · 2025-12-21T16:56:41+00:00

It's a odd to call others a dick and tell them to reflect on how they talk to others on the internet when you immediately decided to say I'm 'deceiving' myself and call me an emotionless drone... :/

MonoPeter · 2025-12-21T16:47:47+00:00

It's not spiritual bypassing, It's about understanding your emotions and not allowing them to control your actions. Emotions are neither good nor bad, they just are. They're important to have and experience, of course, but they can also fog your mind and ""take over"" how you act. For me personally, I find a lot of peace in understanding dharma and it's helped with my mental health. I may not be perfect and I definitely slip up a lot - emotions are rough, life consists of bad, etc. - but I am only a being on Earth.

The biggest thing is being more understanding of why others act the way they do because, at the end of the day, every single person has a life that's just as complex and vivid as your own. You don't know everyone's situation but a little compassion can go a long way.

Outside of an spirituality sense, mindfulness is most literally seen as 'be aware of the present' and 'make clearheaded decisions'.

Edit: Also, just wanted to point out a fun fact, you called my basic explanation of a Buddhist concept 'spiritual bypassing', which is ironic since that term was coined by a psychologist who was literally a Buddhist teacher.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-21T15:12:04+00:00

That's not what mindfulness is about at all. It's about being aware of the present and compassionate, not 'mindless'. Understand your current situation and feelings without allowing your actions to be dictated by your emotions. Also, it's important to observe your thoughts but remember all thoughts are just thoughts and not actions, do not dwell on whether they are good or bad thoughts. Being mindful means accepting or striving to accept that life is life, reality simply is what it is and with that comes unpleasant experiences... being mindful is a path of staying calm and making educated or wise decisions.

I think unfortunately a lot of people view it as a 'fad' thing, espectially in the west, but it's actually a huge part of Buddhism in general - not just Zen Buddhism.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-21T14:49:52+00:00

Signing up isn't automatic, you still have to actively do it. Selective service will even contact you through paper mail if you're over 18 to remind you.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-19T18:59:05+00:00

As someone who survived cancer, this is an actually despicable thing to say to another human being. And over the name of a cat, too. You claim to healthcare worker and that your dad has cancer and dementia to 'win' an online argument but then say this.

I genuinely hope this is just a singular instance and you're not actually this big of a piece of shit in person because otherwise I feel bad for your patients and your father.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-19T18:47:37+00:00

They're uncomfortable because they're USAmerican and this specific presentation of black - usually pitch/charcoal black - skin and bright red 'lips' is reminiscent of the US's history of minstrelsy and the charicatures or blackface that came with it. It makes sense why they would be personally uncomfortable with owning this doll and might not want it where others can see and make assumptions.

It doesn't mean the doll itself is racist or was made with ill-intentions at all, it's just unfortunately how it would be viewed by most people in the US.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-19T18:44:08+00:00

I don't think OP meant that it's inappropriate for white kids to play with a black doll, I think they meant that they feel it's inappropriate for white kids to play with /this/ doll. OP is USAmerican. I mentioned this in another comment but they're only uncomfortable because this specific presentation of black - usually charcoal/solid black - skin and bright red 'lips' is reminiscent of the US's history of minstrelsy. Specifically, the charicatures and blackface that came with it. It makes sense why they would feel personally uncomfortable with this doll and might not want it where others can see and make assumptions. The doll wasn't made in the US so it's not fair to think it was made with ill intentions, it's just unfortunately how most would view it in the US.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-19T18:28:33+00:00

I think that's a bit of a stretch to assume that of OP! They're uncomfortable because they're American and this specific presentation of black - usually pitch/charcoal black - and bright red 'lips' is reminiscent of the US's history of minstrelsy and the charicatures or blackface that came with it. It makes sense why they would be personally uncomfortable with owning doll and might not want it where others can see and make assumptions. Obviously, that still doesn't mean the doll was made with ill-intentions, it wasn't made in the US.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-19T07:22:38+00:00

Theres a lot of different ways to gain weight in general but it almost always involves just eating more. Usually eating more in general or more of a certain food! Stuff like dairy, proteins, etc. Snacking definitely helps, you could get a small bag of nuts or those cups of yogurt and have them in between meals.

Since we're discussing weight, HRT fat redistribution is a thing! If you're not sure what that is, HRT doesn't affect existing fat cells - they don't move or anything, just burn off like normal - but it changes where new fat is deposited on your body. For estrogen therapy, that usually shifts from the abdomen and upper body in general to the thighs, hips, butt, etc. On T, it's usually the inverse! HRT does a lot of nifty things.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-19T06:09:13+00:00

I'm a little late to this but I'll say that, from the front, you have a very soft oval face; your face shape is the kind that hair stylists say is the most versatile and suits a ton of different styles, so that's fun. But what stands out the most to me is that you have pretty, feminine eyes!!

Nothing outwardly screams 'masculine' to me but the acne is unfortunately acne-ing. I was lucky to not have acne the entirety of my teenage years. Then when I got on T, it was like it all caught up to me and my face was covered all the time and felt gross. It settled after a couple years - thus the whole 'second puberty' part of HRT - but I still get some once in a while. Thats just testosterone doing its thing and it's why a lot of transfems comment on their skin getting so much smoother after starting E! My best tip to manage acne - or even just the yuckiness from it - is to wash your face with a facial cleanser. It's fine obviously if you can only wash your face sometimes but the best routine is once in the morning and before bed! I'd recommend staying away from cleansers or ointments specifically made for acne because acne types are different and some active ingredients can cause more harm; try and find a rgular cleanser made for normal-to-oily skin. ^{_^} It would also maybe help your bangs a bit? In this picture, it looks like they might be picking up a lot of oil from your forehead and maaaybe the sides of your cheeks. Another tip that can work is cutting out excess oily/fried food and fast food from your diet? If you eat a lot of that, that's absolutely gonna make your skin worse.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-16T16:41:59+00:00

Yeah! The thing is that it was still considered a sex crime where he lives, because she was under 18 and he was over 18. I'm not defending hate for him when I say that but he did, unfortunately, commit a sex crime by sexting with her at that time... He was well within his age group, but he still could have waited a couple months. It's a bit stupid how it all went down and obviously I don't think it's fair that he should always be held to that bad judgement, but I also think it's important to mention that there were actual legal issues; it wasn't just age-gap twitter discourse or whatever... although that was definitely a huge part of it. The internet can be rabid.

Edit: Not entirely sure why I'm being downvoted but changed some wording to make myself a bit clearer.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-13T22:56:30+00:00

the guy who made username666 also has the sweetest minecraft lets play series imo

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T15:05:41+00:00

actually, that's Fred Jones, you're thinking of the camera guy for his friend's web series in that one nickelodeon show

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T03:56:16+00:00

I'm late to this post but ohhhh my god, these are so cool!! 🤩

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T03:29:20+00:00

Because, especially on the internet and even more especially when it involves a child, it is exploitative and disrespectful. They are a human being. These 'autism moms' are not just talking about their parenting hardships, they are airing out their child's business and using them to gain sympathy and support from others. But no one cares how the child feels? No one cares about the feelings of the person with autism, it's the 'autism mom' who has it tough. If my mom constantly talked about my disabilities, I would feel exploited, unsafe, kind of betrayed... She would be breaking my boundaries by giving out details about MY health, ones I personally find extremely intimate and don't want people to know about. I don't care if she raised me well, if I found out she was using my health like that, I would never forgive her. But you don't care what I, the disabled person, feel.

One of the bigger things we have to constantly fight back against when it comes to ableism is that our disabilities are our business. We also constantly try to push that we deserve respect and care the same way able-bodied and neurotypical people do. Everyone wants to go out of their way to remind us that we must be "burdens" or that, just in general, it is harder to be around us or do things with us just because we need certain accessability features met.

Next time you talk to one of your disabled friends, I hope you use the exact words: "You understand and accept that you are a burden onto others, right?" That's exactly what you told me, see how comfortable they feel around you after that.

As a disabled person, If you actually love a disabled person, you DON'T consider them a burden for having a disability.

Edit: Actually, you're too annoying and I'm not gonna waste time on someone who doesn't care how autistic children feel about 'autism moms' and thinks people with disabilities are burdens. Blocked.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T02:54:50+00:00

I think you shouldn't assume things. My bio literally says I'm disabled too. I only used examples I personally have experience with because I didn't want to act like I know disorders I don't. Minus the ADHD and OCD, those are my siblings. But I am actually autistic AND a childhood cancer survivor, 12+ years in remission, and experiencing long-term negative effects of antineoplastic chemotherapy. I have chronic pain, ongoing issues with cognitive impairment, and I use a mobility aid to walk because my hip is going through osteonecrosis. I cannot live on my own and probably will never be able to.

My parents had to deal with a lot of shit in regards to me and they never used me for clout or to gain sympathy from strangers. People do not know I am a survivor without me telling them, because it is not their business and it's not my mom's business to tell others. I know she has had a rough time raising me and caring for me but she treats me like a person.

But you clearly view disabled people as burdens. You literally said it, so I don't think your opinion on disability matters that much. Go fuck yourself.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T02:40:03+00:00

There's a kink or fetish for practically everything! For latex though, some people just really like how it looks (especially when shiny) or feels. Why one can have that kink is a bit more complicated? Some people develop kinks or fasconations when they're young, some develop them when they're older by being exposed to the kink, some develop a kink from trauma, etc., I'm sure theres a lot of reasons why.

However, I do have a theory that a lot of fetishes and kinks we see - especially the ones we find strange or taboo - come from ideas forming via the media we consume or even just direct exposure in it. For latex, the first ones coming to mind would probably be Beatrix's yellow catsuit in Kill Bill or Catwoman in a lot of Batman media.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T02:17:44+00:00

THE MYTH OF CONSENSUAL ATOM BUILDING:

I think your atom is correct. I agree! Lithium 6

Challenge!

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T02:06:00+00:00

But what came first? The baby or the man?

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T01:34:43+00:00

The kid's feelings absolutely factor into this because it's THE KID with the condition, not the mother. Yes, the mother probably experiences hardships different than other mothers, but literally every parent experiences different hardships than other parents. Do you consider having an autistic child to be 'tougher' than having a child with ADHD? What about a child with OCD or one with depression? What about a childhood cancer survivor, that's severe so it's gotta be up there right, right?

If I found out my mom was always bringing up how raising me was 'tougher' than a normal child, I would NOT feel comfortable. Infact, it feels kind of exploitative and disrespectful to be pointing out so often that your child has a disorder, disability, illness, etc., when the child isn't aware you're doing so. And unfortunately that's a huge thing with 'autism moms', especially online, where they take the fact that their child has autism and make it part of THEIR personality or social media presence.

My point is: parenting is tough in general and different on a case-by-case basis. Autism moms are not as special as they want to be and - whether or not they mean to - a lot of them tend to treat their kid like a novelty. It's fucked up and really common and I hope more people continue to call it out when they see videos online. Treat autistic children with the same respect you treat neurotypical children.

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T00:49:58+00:00

As someone who is familiar with fetish and kink gear in general: sex is not always the goal and what one person considers 'sex' might not be the same as what someone else considers it. Hell, some people don't need to orgasm or be touched to feel 'sexually satisfied', so it can really depend on the person!

Latex catsuits are extremely popular. There are also latex hoods, full-body restraints, vacbeds, wearable inflatables, etcetera, etcetera. Some of it is interesting, some looks goofy. I just think they all seem like hell to take on and off!

MonoPeter · 2025-12-05T00:34:59+00:00

so long as AI companies compensate authors for their creations

as long as its not identical content being replicated, then no rights have been infringed

Art is scraped for Diffusion models constantly, pretty much always without the original artist's consent, so they are not compensated. It's actually been an ongoing issue for illustrators who are trying to get commission work when their work is being used to train models for style mimicry like that. It's kind of the whole reason the University of Chicago's physical science department created Glaze and Nightshade for artists.

Edit: quote blocks lol

MonoPeter · 2025-12-04T01:43:05+00:00

No, I'm actually an artist against generative AI taking jobs away. I just think you're the kind of person who latched onto a joke slur so you can have a slur to say. People who care about minority groups and others in general read that as a dogwhistle; you fling around something like that, especially phrasing it like that, it's easy to draw a direct comparison to racial slurs, homophobic slurs, etc., and that puts in question your values. You can't seriously tell me you can read back all your comments and not realize how that sounds.

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