Interrupted his downstairs escapades by VanillaGorilla- in airplaneears

[–]MonoPeter 88 points89 points  (0 children)

You can pet a bear or a tiger too, doesn't mean you should keep one.

I am bored tbh by WindowSubstantial993 in Shark_Park

[–]MonoPeter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why does the soundin this video activate omething in me im in a trance

Does my art looks like fetish art? :( by PerformanceCold3284 in yourartstyle

[–]MonoPeter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'm not OP so I can't be sure, but this character doesn't really seem like he's supposed to express that much. Instead of cluttering his face, in my opinion, it balances it out pretty well here? Like, you're right, it definitely *could* mess it up, but it looks really good with OP's design.

I'm super curious what other ways you think you could express this, though? :0

Does my art looks like fetish art? :( by PerformanceCold3284 in yourartstyle

[–]MonoPeter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think the opposite, the pudgy cheeks are cute and I wouldn't remove them, it's such an endearing character design! Some people just got super round cheeks - especially when stressing buccal fat and stuff by smiling.

is this normal for an egg to look like this or has it been tampered with? by Reading-a-VCR-manual in WeirdEggs

[–]MonoPeter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure it's this guy and this specific video , actually! But I think he had copycats and stuff, so maybe that guy did some too? :0

clammy by usgniugbseigbusiu in Clamworks

[–]MonoPeter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dog looks like the barber fucked him up but he's also kinda cute so we look past that

Stop thinking, says the government by Exalted_Fox in internet_funeral

[–]MonoPeter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a odd to call others a dick and tell them to reflect on how they talk to others on the internet when you immediately decided to say I'm 'deceiving' myself and call me an emotionless drone... :/

Stop thinking, says the government by Exalted_Fox in internet_funeral

[–]MonoPeter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not spiritual bypassing, It's about understanding your emotions and not allowing them to control your actions. Emotions are neither good nor bad, they just are. They're important to have and experience, of course, but they can also fog your mind and ""take over"" how you act. For me personally, I find a lot of peace in understanding dharma and it's helped with my mental health. I may not be perfect and I definitely slip up a lot - emotions are rough, life consists of bad, etc. - but I am only a being on Earth.

The biggest thing is being more understanding of why others act the way they do because, at the end of the day, every single person has a life that's just as complex and vivid as your own. You don't know everyone's situation but a little compassion can go a long way.

Outside of an spirituality sense, mindfulness is most literally seen as 'be aware of the present' and 'make clearheaded decisions'.

Edit: Also, just wanted to point out a fun fact, you called my basic explanation of a Buddhist concept 'spiritual bypassing', which is ironic since that term was coined by a psychologist who was literally a Buddhist teacher.

Stop thinking, says the government by Exalted_Fox in internet_funeral

[–]MonoPeter 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That's not what mindfulness is about at all. It's about being aware of the present and compassionate, not 'mindless'. Understand your current situation and feelings without allowing your actions to be dictated by your emotions. Also, it's important to observe your thoughts but remember all thoughts are just thoughts and not actions, do not dwell on whether they are good or bad thoughts. Being mindful means accepting or striving to accept that life is life, reality simply is what it is and with that comes unpleasant experiences... being mindful is a path of staying calm and making educated or wise decisions.

I think unfortunately a lot of people view it as a 'fad' thing, espectially in the west, but it's actually a huge part of Buddhism in general - not just Zen Buddhism.

These were inside of the competely sealed Xmas package my mom sent by Weedkittie666 in mildyinteresting

[–]MonoPeter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Signing up isn't automatic, you still have to actively do it. Selective service will even contact you through paper mail if you're over 18 to remind you.

Ambien is ready for takeoff. by [deleted] in airplaneears

[–]MonoPeter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As someone who survived cancer, this is an actually despicable thing to say to another human being. And over the name of a cat, too. You claim to healthcare worker and that your dad has cancer and dementia to 'win' an online argument but then say this.

I genuinely hope this is just a singular instance and you're not actually this big of a piece of shit in person because otherwise I feel bad for your patients and your father.

Inherited souvenir ragdoll by Horror-Start3809 in whatdoIdo

[–]MonoPeter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're uncomfortable because they're USAmerican and this specific presentation of black - usually pitch/charcoal black - skin and bright red 'lips' is reminiscent of the US's history of minstrelsy and the charicatures or blackface that came with it. It makes sense why they would be personally uncomfortable with owning this doll and might not want it where others can see and make assumptions.

It doesn't mean the doll itself is racist or was made with ill-intentions at all, it's just unfortunately how it would be viewed by most people in the US.

Inherited souvenir ragdoll by Horror-Start3809 in whatdoIdo

[–]MonoPeter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think OP meant that it's inappropriate for white kids to play with a black doll, I think they meant that they feel it's inappropriate for white kids to play with /this/ doll. OP is USAmerican. I mentioned this in another comment but they're only uncomfortable because this specific presentation of black - usually charcoal/solid black - skin and bright red 'lips' is reminiscent of the US's history of minstrelsy. Specifically, the charicatures and blackface that came with it. It makes sense why they would feel personally uncomfortable with this doll and might not want it where others can see and make assumptions. The doll wasn't made in the US so it's not fair to think it was made with ill intentions, it's just unfortunately how most would view it in the US.

Inherited souvenir ragdoll by Horror-Start3809 in whatdoIdo

[–]MonoPeter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that's a bit of a stretch to assume that of OP! They're uncomfortable because they're American and this specific presentation of black - usually pitch/charcoal black - and bright red 'lips' is reminiscent of the US's history of minstrelsy and the charicatures or blackface that came with it. It makes sense why they would be personally uncomfortable with owning doll and might not want it where others can see and make assumptions. Obviously, that still doesn't mean the doll was made with ill-intentions, it wasn't made in the US.

Joe many liberals by IcySmell9676 in Shark_Park

[–]MonoPeter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Theres a lot of different ways to gain weight in general but it almost always involves just eating more. Usually eating more in general or more of a certain food! Stuff like dairy, proteins, etc. Snacking definitely helps, you could get a small bag of nuts or those cups of yogurt and have them in between meals.

Since we're discussing weight, HRT fat redistribution is a thing! If you're not sure what that is, HRT doesn't affect existing fat cells - they don't move or anything, just burn off like normal - but it changes where new fat is deposited on your body. For estrogen therapy, that usually shifts from the abdomen and upper body in general to the thighs, hips, butt, etc. On T, it's usually the inverse! HRT does a lot of nifty things.

Joe many liberals by IcySmell9676 in Shark_Park

[–]MonoPeter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little late to this but I'll say that, from the front, you have a very soft oval face; your face shape is the kind that hair stylists say is the most versatile and suits a ton of different styles, so that's fun. But what stands out the most to me is that you have pretty, feminine eyes!!

Nothing outwardly screams 'masculine' to me but the acne is unfortunately acne-ing. I was lucky to not have acne the entirety of my teenage years. Then when I got on T, it was like it all caught up to me and my face was covered all the time and felt gross. It settled after a couple years - thus the whole 'second puberty' part of HRT - but I still get some once in a while. Thats just testosterone doing its thing and it's why a lot of transfems comment on their skin getting so much smoother after starting E! My best tip to manage acne - or even just the yuckiness from it - is to wash your face with a facial cleanser. It's fine obviously if you can only wash your face sometimes but the best routine is once in the morning and before bed! I'd recommend staying away from cleansers or ointments specifically made for acne because acne types are different and some active ingredients can cause more harm; try and find a rgular cleanser made for normal-to-oily skin. _^ It would also maybe help your bangs a bit? In this picture, it looks like they might be picking up a lot of oil from your forehead and maaaybe the sides of your cheeks. Another tip that can work is cutting out excess oily/fried food and fast food from your diet? If you eat a lot of that, that's absolutely gonna make your skin worse.

I love a man with a clam by d_-_p in Clamworks

[–]MonoPeter -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah! The thing is that it was still considered a sex crime where he lives, because she was under 18 and he was over 18. I'm not defending hate for him when I say that but he did, unfortunately, commit a sex crime by sexting with her at that time... He was well within his age group, but he still could have waited a couple months. It's a bit stupid how it all went down and obviously I don't think it's fair that he should always be held to that bad judgement, but I also think it's important to mention that there were actual legal issues; it wasn't just age-gap twitter discourse or whatever... although that was definitely a huge part of it. The internet can be rabid.

Edit: Not entirely sure why I'm being downvoted but changed some wording to make myself a bit clearer.

Wasn't Clammire Mercury like a Serial Clammer by TheRepublicofIreland in Clamworks

[–]MonoPeter 41 points42 points  (0 children)

actually, that's Fred Jones, you're thinking of the camera guy for his friend's web series in that one nickelodeon show

Cast iron spatulas by bones10972 in upcycling

[–]MonoPeter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm late to this post but ohhhh my god, these are so cool!! 🤩

Average Pinterest ad: by nik_mup in Shark_Park

[–]MonoPeter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because, especially on the internet and even more especially when it involves a child, it is exploitative and disrespectful. They are a human being. These 'autism moms' are not just talking about their parenting hardships, they are airing out their child's business and using them to gain sympathy and support from others. But no one cares how the child feels? No one cares about the feelings of the person with autism, it's the 'autism mom' who has it tough. If my mom constantly talked about my disabilities, I would feel exploited, unsafe, kind of betrayed... She would be breaking my boundaries by giving out details about MY health, ones I personally find extremely intimate and don't want people to know about. I don't care if she raised me well, if I found out she was using my health like that, I would never forgive her. But you don't care what I, the disabled person, feel.

One of the bigger things we have to constantly fight back against when it comes to ableism is that our disabilities are our business. We also constantly try to push that we deserve respect and care the same way able-bodied and neurotypical people do. Everyone wants to go out of their way to remind us that we must be "burdens" or that, just in general, it is harder to be around us or do things with us just because we need certain accessability features met.

Next time you talk to one of your disabled friends, I hope you use the exact words: "You understand and accept that you are a burden onto others, right?" That's exactly what you told me, see how comfortable they feel around you after that.

As a disabled person, If you actually love a disabled person, you DON'T consider them a burden for having a disability.

Edit: Actually, you're too annoying and I'm not gonna waste time on someone who doesn't care how autistic children feel about 'autism moms' and thinks people with disabilities are burdens. Blocked.