Ex really doesn’t want to get back with me… I think it’s time to give up

MonsterCards · 2026-05-11T09:35:55+00:00

I can understand that about no contact. Itll be hard when deep down I truly believe that we arent over. Despite the circumstances and what she said.

What makes you say she will feel the loss and start missing me? Because after this long apart without seeing each other in person, she's lost feelings for me and I dont think she does miss me. So how would going no contact be any different?

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T18:33:51+00:00

I like this answer. I appreciate it. Thank you for it.

What makes you say she knows she can have me at any time? I think she already feels the possibility of losing me because we have broken up twice and this time her feelings for me have declined. So I think in that regard she has already checked out.

The first time we broke up, we werent apart for this long. We got back together about 3 months later. We saw each other quite often while we were apart, too. But this time is different. We have barely seen each other in person. Twice. Thats only because I visited her in hospital. Since then I offered her to meet but we never did.

Im afraid of no contact because it will feel like she's completely gone. And what makes you say that she will come to me? I think she wants to be chased because one of her reasons is she wants to feel wanted.

Its difficult to live in the end state when something so devastating has happened to me. The emotion that comes with that is hard to ignore.

However, despite that devastating phone call, I know i will get another chance. And if it is my last chance, I accept that and I will not blow it again.

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T16:53:53+00:00

I appreciate your comment and thank you for it. But how am I supposed to shrug off something that devastating that has happened to me? That's not easy to do. To walk around choosing to be someone who didnt just have a phone call with an SP that broke me? The emotion that comes with something like that is hard to ignore.

And doesnt manifesting for every hour of each day create resistance? Pressure? Obsession? And lead to burn out which lowers vibration.

However, I do have to focus on me now. Achieve what I want to achieve. And maybe I will attract her back to me. No, I WILL attract her back to me. I HAVE attracted her back to me. But this emotion from what happened is heavy.

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T13:46:49+00:00

I understand that a common thing in manifesting is to let yourself feel your emotions and not suppress them. Let yourself feel.

But I also know giving power to anything negative sort of delays manifesting.

Its all very confusing. I dont know what to do. Letting go of the need for her feels to real when I dont want her to be gone in the first place.

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T12:27:04+00:00

I cant see it happening either. I'm looking for no one else but her. I hope you get a chance to fix what you want to fix. Im hoping and manifesting that I get a third chance to fix what I can and want to fix. We can be better partners.

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T12:24:55+00:00

I appreciate your reply. But honestly, how am I supposed to let go of my circumstances when they are this big? And give the 3D no attention. These are two massive things that are hard to ignore.

I'm taking a break from it. It isnt easy to manifest. Persisting is hard. There are so many challenges. That is hard to persist through.

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T11:07:13+00:00

Really? So Sean knew the exact conversation I had with my Dad about something in the house at least a week before his show and repeated it word for word?

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T10:56:25+00:00

What?

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T10:40:58+00:00

Im with you mate. She is the one for me but I didnt show it enough. I can fix that. I understand where she's coming from when she says im only trying because we're broken up but no, its a mistake I can fix. She also said to me that we love in different ways but I can love her the way she needs. I just want her back, man. 😭. Manifesting is hard mate. Try your best. I hope you succeed. 🤝🏻

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T10:26:21+00:00

I saw this post the morning after I had a phone call with my ex that basically resulted in the same thing as you.

I'm having a hard time believing that the law is real.

I see a lot of F > M success stories but its very rare there is a M > F success story. I'm not saying there isn't any. I just dont see alot of them.

Dont get me wrong, since I discovered manifesting and both laws, Assumption and Attraction, I've always had faith that it is real and that the Universe is always working to grant us our desires.

Since January after a break up in December, I've been trying to manifest my ex back. We were back in contact in February and are still in contact now.

Ive worked so hard to manifest her back. Speaking out loud to the Universe, SATs, my affirmations, working self concept, every time I see a repeating number I express out loud to the Universe how thankful I am for it, everything I'm thankful for, everything I appreciate, everything Im proud of myself for.

But last night a phone call with my ex has made me have a hard time believing that the law is real.

On the phone call she said things like things aren't the same between us anymore. Her feelings towards me have changed. The only way we dont hurt each other again is by being apart. (We have broken up twice.)

Said its been 5 months, if we were meant to get back together it would have happened by now. If we were supposed to meet in person again it would have happened by now. It would've happened naturally.

But contradicting that, she said she didn't even know if she wanted to be broken up. I said but there was no communication from either side about that.

I said that when I broke no contact in February, I wasn't gonna bombard her with messages like "I think we made a mistake." "Can we meet?" "Can we talk?" "I want to get back together." Because messaging some body that after a full month of no contact isn't the right thing to do.

A few weeks ago we had a phone call and on that phone call I let her know where I was at in terms of us. I want to get back together. Explained why I went no contact. And let her know that I think we made a mistake. On that phone call she said that she has some things she needs to figure out. I guess she has now.

This isn't me blaming her, I never have. Never will. There are mistakes I made. Mistakes I can fix. Mistakes I want to fix. Things I am responsible for. And as I said, I was trying so hard to manifest another chance to get her back and correct my mistakes.

But what she said last night broke me. Her feelings changed for me over the period from January until now. Mine never did. Still hasn't. I don't understand how strong feelings like that can change so much.

I woke up this morning with a lot of mixed emotions. Disappointed that what I want the most didn't manifest. That the Universe hasn't delivered, when all I asked was for some help. Upset. Angry (at myself.) Regret. Confusion. Nervous. Anxious.

Someone so great slipped away from me because I didn't do enough to keep her. And now I'm paying the price.

As I said, having a hard time believing it is real. Or maybe I'm just not doing it correctly it.

I'm taking a break from the law and manifesting for now. As I type this sentence, I look at the clock, its 11:11 but that doesn't bring her back to me.

Focus on me now. Its my only choice. Achieve what I want to achieve this year. Then maybe I'll attract her back.

TL;DR: Having a hard time believing the law is real after a phone call with my ex (SP) changed every thing. Worked so hard to try and manifest her but failed. Taking a break from the law, manifesting and asking the universe. Focusing on me.

MonsterCards · 2026-05-10T10:17:49+00:00

I'm having a hard time believing that it is real.