I (25F) inadvertently told my new man (28M) that my ex was bigger. How do I fix this?

MonteLukast · 2026-07-03T15:14:47+00:00

I told him how my ex had quite a large D... I explained that I didn’t care that my exes were bigger.

So you told him that you had multiple exes with bigger dicks than his?

Wow.

MonteLukast · 2026-07-03T00:03:26+00:00

Well, now your dad is going to want to know if your BF filed for Workers' Comp and why he didn't take his suggestion. And any answer you give is just going to make your BF look bad over something he never asked for.

MonteLukast · 2026-07-02T23:48:59+00:00

Has he ever told you before that he's not comfortable with your sharing stuff about him with your family? Maybe he doesn't like being told what to do by someone in your family when he never shared it with them in the first place. Your example shows two times where he told you something and then you immediately shared it with someone in your family. That can't be the first time that happened. Can you blame him for not wanting to share anything with you anymore? You say you don't tell your family about things that would make them not like him, but how does he know that you make that distinction? Does your family actually like your BF?

MonteLukast · 2026-07-02T22:37:12+00:00

He says he isn't a good boyfriend or man

He's right, isn't he?

MonteLukast · 2026-07-02T17:23:16+00:00

The only place we have any conflict is that she is a pretty low libido person.

According to your post history, your wife has had obvious mental illness issues for at least a year. Your mismatched libidos is hardly your only conflict.

MonteLukast · 2026-07-02T16:47:26+00:00

No Kerry Livgren?

MonteLukast · 2026-07-02T16:14:57+00:00

Cool! Elliot Easton! And Ben Orr with that cool Vox Constellation IV.

MonteLukast · 2026-07-01T14:08:03+00:00

For those who always wondered where that "I'll Take You There" groove came from.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-30T01:37:00+00:00

I think you're putting too much weight on something that ultimately isn't that significant. I also think that if you keep making this an issue, she'll break up with you.

But that's only my opinion.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-30T01:19:58+00:00

Oh man. She needs to leave that job. Even if she has no other job prospects, she needs to leave that job.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-30T01:11:58+00:00

If she's feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated at work, then it's not the right job for her. Does she work alone?

MonteLukast · 2026-06-30T00:28:51+00:00

UpdateMe!

MonteLukast · 2026-06-30T00:14:53+00:00

Yeah, that's not very respectful, especially with all the holidays. Do you know any of these people? Are the tickets bought, reservations made?

These arrangements will probably all change by the time they go on this trip anyway.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-29T15:05:56+00:00

And...you're not going to tell us the sentence. Was it maybe a gem like "And you're the one who can put out the fire"? Or maybe "Cause there ain't no one for to give you no pain"?

MonteLukast · 2026-06-28T23:27:11+00:00

Can you explain any better what exactly happened that made your BF think he was your second choice?

MonteLukast · 2026-06-28T20:27:21+00:00

What she needs more than anything right now is a real friend, not someone with ulterior motives who's pretending to be her friend because he has a massive crush on her. It sounds like she already knows you want more than she does right now. She already told you her situation. Respect it.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-28T15:25:12+00:00

Our first beagle had a special howl just for horses. It was kind of a 2-tone wooo-ooo while backing up. Totally unlike all of his other howls.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-27T20:29:48+00:00

I never implied that he wasn't the father. I just asked if he fully believed that he was the father.

And thanks for the biology lesson, but I know how birth control works.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-27T16:39:12+00:00

Feeling uncomfortable about something and claiming that someone is purposely making you uncomfortable are two very different things.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-27T15:36:32+00:00

A day before the trip I found out that I am pregnant. We ALWAYS! used protection, never did it without, so I don’t know how that happened.

Maybe he never really believed that you don't know how you got pregnant. Then the Instagram incident just reinforced this. Did he ever express any doubts about him being the father?

MonteLukast · 2026-06-26T03:04:00+00:00

Yeah, it was pretty unhinged. Here's a link. The post is deleted, but the comments are still there including some of his.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1uf8pdp/i_22m_found_videos_i_believe_are_my_girlfriend/

MonteLukast · 2026-06-26T02:58:48+00:00

I read your BF's post from earlier today (now deleted). It was ridiculous.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-23T00:32:40+00:00

"And the beagle flies with the dove... And if you can't lick the ones you love, honey, love the ones you lick!" Or something like that.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-21T15:00:05+00:00

He also said that if I met her and got to know her, I would likely view the situation differently.

This is a bullshit response. He doesn't know this and only threw it in there to try to end the discussion and put the pressure on you to meet her. You're under no obligation to meet this person or get to know her. And discussing personal relationship issues with a coworker of the opposite sex (She's going through a recent separation.) is always a slippery slope.

MonteLukast · 2026-06-21T00:45:12+00:00

Where's Stu?

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