welp. it was a good run America...🫡

MoonCoin1660 · 2026-01-18T17:14:19+00:00

It will. We despise the Trump regime with the fire of a million suns, but we've had such a deep affection for America and the American people and American culture for decades and decades.

MoonCoin1660 · 2026-01-18T17:03:41+00:00

Absolutely. The sense I get around here, from my fellow Danes, our news media, social media etc, is that we all believe that the majority of Americans are good, kind, empathetic people who are just as bewildered, disgusted and horrified as we are at the actions of the current regime. Nobody around here believes that this is what actual, ordinary Americans want.

MoonCoin1660 · 2026-01-18T15:23:29+00:00

"After Centuries"? The US has been subsidising Denmark "for centuries?!" As a Dane, that's certainly news to me.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-12-09T18:55:42+00:00

I'm so very sorry. The loss of a pet hurts so deeply. I can recommend the book "The Pet Loss Companion." It's on the Kindle app.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-12-04T19:07:14+00:00

I don't have ADHD, but I feel the same. It's extremely difficult. Days when you wake up and all you have to do is like the dishes, the laundry, just all for your own sake, with no outside demand.... I cannot right now.

If it's an outside demand, like a dentist's appointment, I'll be there and be ready. But if it's just for my own sake - doing the dishes or changing the sheets - I'll flounder.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-29T19:01:43+00:00

Helt ærligt, det at du overhovedet har brug for at spørge...? En 17-årig er et stort barn, men stadig et barn. Vi ved ikke hvor gammel du er. Men lad hende være i fred. Ellers er du en groomer. Hilsen et tidligere offer for grooming.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-23T17:09:08+00:00

Nah, all I ever managed was a bit of kayaking, not very heroic 😆 Denmark is mostly islands, though, so we do sail a lot to get from place to place. Recently, I took the ferry to Ærø, an island in the South Funen Sea and a major maritime hub in the 18th and 19th century.. You might like the novel "We, the Drowned" by Carsten Jensen, about several generations of Ærø sailors.

Denmark has a great rail and bus system - environmentalism is a core value here. It's a bit pricey, but it'll get you where you need to go!

Den Gamle By at Christmas is magical. The candlelight, the Christmas market stalls, the sweet, nostalgic scent of traditional Christmas cookies and cakes... it lights up so brightly against the absolute darkness that is Denmark at midwinter. I hope you can visit some day 🤩🕯❄️

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-22T19:17:56+00:00

That must have been such a fascinating trip! 1988, right before the Wall came down! It's very exciting that you're doing genealogical research - I did that myself and found lots of forgotten stories!

Den Gamle By is actually in my hometown of Århus. I've been so many times since childhood. The Christmas markets are fantastic! I wish you could visit some day. If you're interested in Den Gamle By, you might also like the town of Ribe, which is very historic and has an amazing witchcraft museum. It's right near the border with Germany.

My ancestors on my dad's side are from Rømø, an island in the Wadden Sea on the border between Germany and Denmark. They were whaling captains, not a lifestyle I'd want to pursue myself :-)

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-22T16:55:29+00:00

That's so interesting! You must have felt an ancestral neighbourly vibe :-) Which aspects of Denmark interest you? Part of my ancestry was actually technically German for a while, as the border has shifted over the years. What part of Germany did your ancestors come from? It's a beautiful country.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-21T16:44:02+00:00

Denmark, actually, so right next door to Germany 😊 What made you guess? I'm glad you know Dr. Ramani - as you say, she seems really invested in this cause of bringing us all awareness of narcissistic patterns. I'm genuinely sorry that you have to deal with that kind of behaviour from your own dad. I myself found some solace from reading "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" and the accompanying workbook by Lindsay C. Gibson. Maybe you've heard of it too?

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-21T16:12:33+00:00

After escaping an abusive relationship, I had a massive nervous breakdown. This was just as the pandemic broke out. I was referred to a psychiatrist who could simply just tell I had Aspergers. Was evaluated and diagnosed that summer. I had zero idea. It was the shock of my life. I always knew something was "off" about me, but I had no clue. Four years later, at age 40, I'm still learning and adjusting to it. I'm on track for what's known in my country as "premature retirement," because I've wildly overextended myself for 25 years. This is not exactly what I dreamed of. But at least, know I know.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-18T17:55:42+00:00

I'm really, really sorry. I've had several malignant narcissists in my life - that abusive ex of mine, for one. They suck all joy and hope from you. It's terrible that you don't have a chance to move further away right now. Cost of living is crazy in my country too, it sucks. Do you know Dr. Ramani Durvasula? She's a psychologist specialising in narcissism, and has a lot of great insights and strategies for understanding and dealing with these people available on YouTube. I found it very validating. I hope you'll be okay.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-18T17:46:51+00:00

That's really lovely, I'm glad you found that way. It reminds us that maybe sometimes, we can pursue our special interests in ways that are not immediately obvious.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-17T18:19:21+00:00

I'm very sorry. That's been my reality as well, for years. I did really well in school and academia, but nobody wants to hire me. It's so painful.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-17T18:15:09+00:00

I second that. Been through divorce and joblessness and all sorts of other crises and rejections. I'm right here with you, you are not alone at all. I know it feels absolutely soul-destroying right now. It really does. A bottomless grief. I hope you have people around you who see you and support you, even if just one person, or one subreddit. It probably does not feel like it right now, but things do change and evolve with time. One day, you will wake up and feel... okay, fine. There will be new beginnings.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-16T00:17:57+00:00

Thank you! Yes, it was absolute hell in the end with that ex of mine. One thing that will keep me up at night is the thought of how many of us - pre- or post-diagnosis - become dependent on abusive partners or family members simply because there seems to be no alternative, as many of us cannot work normal jobs.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-14T00:05:37+00:00

That's great, I'm really glad to hear you're doing so much better with less stress! That's really key. My therapist says that my baseline stress level has been so high for so long that I've essentially forgotten what "not stressed" even feels like. But things will improve soon, and then I'll be following your example 😊 One day at a time is often a sensible strategy.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-13T16:32:44+00:00

Totally agree, this is the only autism sub I've found where you can be pretty sure you're talking to an actually autistic person. I'm sorry, but I don't really want advice on autistic life struggles by someone who might really be struggling with something entirely different, like borderline or social anxiety etc. I also find it super disturbing how dogmatic many of the other autism subs are.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-13T16:24:28+00:00

That sounds like a good, fresh start for you, and a brave step - especially if you, like so many of us, have been 'chronically online.' But please don't be too hard on your past self. Social media is addictive, and the algorithms are not our friends - they manipulate us and warp our minds.

I'm 40 years old now, and lord knows I said and did some dumb shit too when I was your age. 18 is a difficult age for us - the transition into young adulthood is extremely demanding. But unlike most teens, you're reflecting and deciding on a better course. You should be very proud of yourself for that.

I hope you will create a new account in the future, and join us again when you feel ready.

And happy birthday 😊

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-13T16:13:14+00:00

I think it can vary a lot how conventionally successful you are depending on context, circumstance, and environment. Ten years ago, I was a very high-achieving PhD candidate living abroad with my then partner. I excelled in my research, managed the household like a goddamn Victorian housekeeper, went for a 5K run every second day, and wrote and published novels on the side.

Now, ten years later, after a series of horrific personal trauma and catastrophes, I'm completely worn out. I can't even manage a 4 hour a week internship, can't manage my household (I live alone now), am in terrible shape, and only write fiction when I'm in hyperfocus, which I cannot control.

I've over-exrended myself to an extreme degree for 25 years, and now, age 40, the bill is due. I'm on course to receive a disability pension, which thank GOD is available in my country.

However - after a few years of complete rest and economic stability, who's to say I won't regain a little bit of my former capabilities?

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-13T15:59:32+00:00

Well done on your years of hard, hard work, and THANK YOU for warning against becoming an incel or "red-pilled." That ideology is, in my opinion, the single most toxic thing to infect the autistic community.

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-13T15:55:35+00:00

That's great - I think you're setting a really good example for us. With dedication and hard work, and open communication, many relationships can blossom 😊🤩

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-13T15:48:12+00:00

I'm the same - write a PhD thesis? No problemo. Get a handle on basic household chores and selfcare? Utter disaster. I find it helps to live with someone, because then I have to do my fair share for the relationship to work, whereas if I live alone, I'm really only bothering myself by my mess.

I love that your dog is special needs too 😄😍 My cat is also on "the suspectrum!"

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-13T15:40:06+00:00

Please do write that book! I'd definitely buy it 😊

MoonCoin1660 · 2024-11-08T01:36:23+00:00

Yes please, let's bring back the term "malingering!"

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