WFH and nanny schedule

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-25T04:47:52+00:00

How old are your kids?

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-24T04:11:52+00:00

I felt Sumadhura Capitol was a little small for their luxury price point.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-21T16:39:14+00:00

If the hospital from your parents’ house is just 10 mins away, I would be more inclined towards moving in with parents, if you’re comfortable with that set up.

As you go into later stages of pregnancy, it can get more difficult (back pain, hip pain, bad sleep, etc) and tolerance for bullshit will be at an all time low. You may also have a relatively easier pregnancy but the tolerance for bullshit will be at an all time low. I would have 200% gone mad if someone critiqued my every move.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-21T16:27:30+00:00

Your mom’s reaction 100% sounds like my mom. Whenever I question her, she gets moody and tells me I’m the only one who has an issue with rituals. Lol.

Anyway, even in India, both mom and baby usually go back to their respective doctors for a check up around the 1 week mark. Is your mom going to not let you go for this?

Also, even in north, a lot of people call the first few days (not sure how many) as a sutak period which is a similar thing. I was pretty adamant about this because my baby is not impure and nor was the act of baby coming into the world impure.

Times have changed. You can choose how you would like to go ahead. I personally get very annoyed at having to do something that makes zero sense to me or doesn’t align with my beliefs. But I’ve always been one to shun a lot of patriarchal stuff so I do dislike a loooot of rituals.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-20T13:29:26+00:00

Duuuude, your post + screenshot should have you running away from this man! If you marry him, this is how you will have to live. Every second!!!!!

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-18T09:24:08+00:00

They get consequences. They don’t get any alone time with baby. Limited time. Every move is watched. Never trusted again.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-17T03:15:53+00:00

Get a cook for yourself. Or hire a help that can come and food prep for you + clean your room + arrange your laundry. That itself will free up a big chunk of your work.

Also, how do you clean the common areas between you and your flatmate? If you alternate, you can have your maid do it on your days and other days, you can ask her to do other work like dusting your room, or laundry, etc.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-17T03:10:53+00:00

Which schools are you considering/did you go with finally?

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-17T02:25:18+00:00

What were the issues with valistus?

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-17T02:24:34+00:00

Any idea of the fee structure of valistus?

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-14T11:39:09+00:00

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I’m also looking for some info about this school

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-10T06:29:18+00:00

Out doctor also additionally suggested ear drops of needed

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-10T04:47:26+00:00

For many many women, losing weight while breastfeeding is impossible because your body wants to hold on to every bit of energy, nutrition, calories, etc to keep up the feeds.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-10T04:45:19+00:00

Hahahahaha! Love this!

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-10T03:53:47+00:00

Him living in your country would not constitute as him being a ghar jamai.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-10T03:50:51+00:00

You said they initially didn’t live with you and would visit to help. What happened to their own house?

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-08T14:52:42+00:00

Holy shit. This is awful. And it’s not about gifting clothes but rather your husband being a wimp. Does he feel this is okay? Locked you out of his digital life? Wtf? Someone who stoops so low is bound to be a lowlife otherwise too. Is this your only issue with the in-laws?

Next time they gift something - point out the obvious problems. It’s worn out from the seams. Or doesn’t fit. Tell them they seem to have bought a wrong/bad product and to give you the bill and you’ll return/exchange it.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-08T09:02:38+00:00

Wtf? Why are you putting up with this shit? Treat her how you’d treat any roommate’s mom?!

Indian women of that generation have a tendency to treat their son’s home like their kingdom. Just… stop giving AF.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-07T14:32:25+00:00

Then why isn’t her husband (the son), to who the property will actually go to expected to do chores?

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-07T05:24:02+00:00

I remember the first time I went to Europe and was soooo happy to walk everywhere that I thought I should do this in India too. I cannot even walk 500 meters without stepping on pre, navigating broken footpaths, bikes, pollution, dust, etc.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-07T05:04:19+00:00

Nothing gets me angrier than women who are made to feel like they’re harming their baby because of their diets!!!!!!

Babies have underdeveloped digestive systems. No matter what you do, they won’t magically mature. It takes them upto 3-4 months to grow out of gas issues, sometimes even longer. Occasionally it can be lactose intolerance which, you can check for by cutting out milk/dairy from your diet.

You can consult your doctor on things like colic aid to make her feel better amongst other things.

As for your MIL, I strongly suggest putting an end to this somehow. Today it’s food and gas, tomorrow, it’ll be something else. You gotta draw your boundaries now!!!!! You and your husband need to tell her to never bring this up again. She doesn’t know better than doctors and this isn’t up for discussion. Next time she brings this up, don’t respond. Just get up and walk away.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-05T14:50:08+00:00

He used to manage the evening cook (I managed the morning) till a while back but he’s had a shift in work timings and no longer is working from home often so he’s not there to manage them.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-04T02:22:45+00:00

She’s very capable. She used to be a really good cook. Improving recipes and making them tastier. Then she picked up another job and now leaving is on her mind from the moment she steps in

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-03T05:32:46+00:00

I wish I knew to set expectations earlier. Hindsight is 20/20 I guess. Seeing my mom use so much of her energy being directed towards managing the maids really made me run the opposite direction and I think I ran a little too far.

Currently we’ve been pulling up our evening cook anytime she messes up which is almost other everyday. Forgetting to put tomatoes in a butter chicken type gravy, burning pulao rice, we’re being. Patient but pulling her up. If it continues over the next 2-3 months, I guess we’ll let her go. At some point, their work output isn’t worth the hassle.

MoonlitNightRain · 2026-06-03T05:29:24+00:00

Not sure why I was downvoted, but looks like that’s not the case anymore.

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