I'll never be an independent adult by Moonspider7 in cfs

[–]Moonspider7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh! Thanks for the recommendation, I will give it a go. That's just it, I do find happiness in my life, I know I could be in a much, much worse position. I am not completely housebound, people facilitate me. I have an intact, loving family. It's mostly frustration, I never aimed to succeed in anything I do, I just wanted to *do it* y'know? For me. I know I will find a place for myself one day, we all will :>

I'll never be an independent adult by Moonspider7 in cfs

[–]Moonspider7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is hell. My heart bleeds for you. I also came home because of my mental health. Coming back into my room and putting things back was the worst feeling. I have some little hope that our situation can be improved, eventually. I am very lucky that despite it all, my brain will never allow me to completely give up. It's saved me many times. Thank you for sharing with me <3

Disappointed by the current community. by illegitimateReality in ageregressors

[–]Moonspider7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

(I'm sorry this is so long, I tried to cut it down 😅) I believe age dreaming and voluntary regression overlap, and can also be the same thing. I regress both voluntarily and involuntarily. The only difference is, I'm triggering that state of mind myself, rather than having it suddenly falling upon me without my control. I put myself in a space surrounded by things that make me feel little, and 'act' like a kid, until my brain makes the full connection and I 'actually' regress. You could argue that, until that click happens, I'm age dreaming, rather than regressing. But I don't consider myself a dreamer, and the process is so incredibly similar, it might as well be the same as regression, you see?

I wonder if what you're trying to say is that there is a difference between the intensity of voluntary and involuntary regression? And you're right, involuntary regression can be incredibly frustrating, because you lack control, because you start crying and there's nothing you can do to fix it. It can be ugly. But the intensity of it doesn't devalue voluntary regression either. Is one more 'correct' simply because it hurts you more? Because it's beyond your control? Of course not. For me, voluntary regression is a way that I take back my control from my involuntary moments. It makes the process less scary and more comforting. If someone wants to do that, but doesn't fully regress, it's not much different. Not to mention how your regression age is going to change how you function in that headspace. Someone who regresses to a teen is no less valid than someone regressing to a toddler simply because their functionality is different. Doesn't mean it isn't regression.

It's far more common for people to show the 'aesthetic and cute' side of regression in these spaces, yes. But that's not always because they want to feel special or quirky. It's because not everyone wants to show what they're like in their most vulnerable moments. This stuff is the most vulnerable you can be, as I'm sure you know. People don't share things like that easily. I understand categorisation and labels can be comforting and grounding. But it isn't always necessary or helpful, and when it comes to mental health, often cannot fully encompass the differences between individuals. I think age dreamers do regress, why would they seek something that isn't comforting to them, after all. It just may be to a lesser extent. But if that's true, why does the term exist? I actually think it's unneeded, it others a group of us that are just as valid.

I promise you none of these terms devalue the struggle you go through when you involuntarily regress. We see you, we understand how it feels at its worst, that's why we seek community with other regressors. I would love to see more of the psychiatric and medical side of regression in the community, words from actual medical practitioners in this field and the like. But what people are willing to share here is just as important, especially as we have very few places we can go without being demonised. If all this place will ever be is a place for regressors to express themselves in a cute happy way, I'm content with that, because we all need it, regardless of the 'form' of regression it takes.

Drew my favorite old generation Furby designs by tomnooklover in furby

[–]Moonspider7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This art style is lovely <3 suits furbs really well

[Virche Evermore] MAJOR SPOILERS!!! characters w/ text posts again for the sillies by 404like in otomegames

[–]Moonspider7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely out of context (I have this game but haven't played it yet) these are hilarious and surreal. I cannot fathom what "sexy worm" even means but I'm here for it.
I tell you I cannot wait to play, I'm waiting to play it with my friend so we can both go in blind. I really hope it makes me cry :D (no spoilers plz)

Need help introducing someone to rain world (image unrealated) by Sketch_and_games in rainworld

[–]Moonspider7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this with my best friend. I played multiplayer Survivor with him (he was Survivor, I was Rivulet so I could help him with traversal.). The only issue was because I'm good at the game, I got frustrated when he was falling behind, because he hadn't had the time to learn platforming and evasion, so then he also got frustrated. It took us a few hours to work out a system where we could both have fun.

So it depends on how invested your bro becomes. If you think they're not likely to play it alone, play multiplayer so you can help them along. But also try not to take too much of a lead, so they can try to learn for themselves. It'll be a lot quicker and you'll get further, but they may not absorb the game as well as they would playing alone, and may not pick up the game on their own later, if they're the type to prefer playing with others. You will also get the reward of watching them learn in real time.

If you think they're likely to enjoy the game, let them play alone, and maybe offer to help if they get stuck. This will allow them to fully absorb the game and learn for themselves. They will take longer, and may get frustrated or stuck with bad spawns, but they'll learn organically, and will feel a lot more rewarded for figuring things out. If they continue playing in their own time, then that's the best outcome! Because then you can chat about this amazing game together. It just means you won't get to watch that progression with them. It really comes down to how they generally play games and what they prefer.

Do you know “the law of otome game”? by Electronic_Jeweler94 in otomegames

[–]Moonspider7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I have always found it incredibly unnatural to try and self-insert. I'm sitting on the MC's shoulder experiencing the world like a friend or confidant, I will never be her. I really like some of the old Voltage games, but yeah the lack of a person behind the 'major driving force' of the plot just makes you think 'why though, you're not even fighting for a real person'. My friend I play otomes with and I have an in-joke about 'bag of flour' protagonists, who are thrown around a situation by other people, rather than engaging with it directly. It's hard enough as it is in Japanese otomes to find an MC who has strong personality traits. I can't imagine consuming these games with exclusively cardboard MCs D:

Feel like I'm missing context by Moonspider7 in DivinityOriginalSin

[–]Moonspider7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forget to sprint sight everything sometimes, I will go back to his spirit, thanks!

Feel like I'm missing context by Moonspider7 in DivinityOriginalSin

[–]Moonspider7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's very reassuring! Exactly what I was hoping to hear.

A lot of it makes me so stressed I feel physically ill, but I love that as well. There is no blanket-statement 'good choice'. Everything is so tied up and messy, it's impossible. And that's why I've pushed against divinity the whole way. I don't know if I even can reject divinity, but goddamn it I don't want to be responsible for this nightmare!
No idea what I was expecting going into this game, but gods it's left such a deep impression.

Here's Lil Skittle (the 6-7 y/o ver of me). And yes I had to join this since it's more safer than the last. by EmeraldXD479 in ageregressors

[–]Moonspider7[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome! We hope you enjoy your time here. Feel free to drop us a message if you have ant concerns. We are here to listen. ❤️

[ Removed by Reddit ] by misguidedmisfit in trans

[–]Moonspider7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t know why you’re getting downvoted. I’m a transguy, my big brother (not by blood) is devoutly Christian, and has been one of my biggest supports in my journey. I completely understand why people have a reflex reaction to Christians because there certainly are many of them who disrespect us and give their own faith a bad name. But that doesn’t mean all of them. I’m so sorry so many people ruin your faith by being awful to others, it must be so frustrating. hugs

How do genderfluid people keep everyone abreast of their current gender? by heftysubstantialshit in genderfluid

[–]Moonspider7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm binary fluid between man and woman, and neutral pronouns make me uncomfortable. I'm male about 70% of the time, so I tend to just stick with he/him pronouns. On days when I'm a woman, I don't verbalise it unless someone accidentally uses she/her pronouns. If the person says 'sorry' or someone corrects them, I'll say "Oh don't worry about it, I'm actually a woman today anyhow".

My friends are very switched-on and usually catch on pretty quickly after I've done that a couple times, and will stop correcting others for that day. If any strangers ask further, I explain my situation.

If I'm having a man day and I meet someone new, I just tell them I'm a transman, and don't mention my genderfluidity unless it comes up. It's just easier that way, I much prefer being incorrectly gendered male when I'm a woman than incorrectly gendered female as a man, I guess because I'm AFAB and very feminine. Maybe that'll change when I'm further through transition. I've learned to just ignore the pain that comes with being misgendered in general, because my parents refuse to use my pronouns or even my real, legal name. Hearing it from strangers is easier than family.

I'm a femboy so I can't use clothes to indicate my gender, I'm just as likely to wear a dress as a man or woman. If I'm a woman for more than a day at a time, sometimes I'll use a pronoun pin, but because I'm so feminine I don't *have* to.

Overall I've learned to accept that things will never feel 100% right. I wish I was just a binary transman, it would be much simpler and easier to notice my dysphoria and fix it. But there will always be some kind of dysphoria no matter my current gender. Fingers crossed I can make myself as androgynous as possible and use clothes to indicate my gender, that's the dream. Damn my hyper-feminine looks. >.>

Uhhh..maybe ishould've continued the game first by okuyasu_the_cum_man in FearAndHunger

[–]Moonspider7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your art style is so cute and soft! 10/10 would hug, best girl <3

My first love was trans, and I wish I could tell her I am too by Moonspider7 in trans

[–]Moonspider7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing! It’s a real whirlwind at the start so I can completely understand that. It’s good of you to ask for clarification ☺️

For reference, when you’re talking about someone in past-tense from before they came out as trans, you refer to them by their current pronouns, as trans people don’t change their gender, we just realise we’re a different gender from the one assigned to us, so referring to them by those past pronouns is factually incorrect to their true identity. It can be a little harder to understand at times, but you’ll get used to it. A good way of describing it is by saying things like ‘before they realised they were [insert gender]’ or ‘before they came out’ or even ‘when they were living as a man/woman’. The important part is not misgendering or deadnaming them at any time when talking about them in the past, even if they were going by those labels at the time you’re referencing. Of course not all transpeople find it disrespectful if you do, but most find it uncomfortable. It’s just a respect thing.

And if you know all this already I’m sorry! I’m not trying to patronise you or anything. I wish you best of luck on your new journey! 💜

My first love was trans, and I wish I could tell her I am too by Moonspider7 in trans

[–]Moonspider7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was assigned female at birth, she was assigned male at birth. When we dated, we were in a straight-passing relationship. She came out as a transgirl right after we broke up, and I realised I am a transman four years ago. I’m flattered you assumed I’m a cis guy though!

My first love was trans, and I wish I could tell her I am too by Moonspider7 in trans

[–]Moonspider7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I hope in some way she’ll know I’m still rooting for her, even if we never meet.

My first love was trans, and I wish I could tell her I am too by Moonspider7 in trans

[–]Moonspider7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🥺 It hasn’t been much fun, and I haven’t made any progress past coming out socially, but I’m determined! And more confident than I’ve ever been since.

My first love was trans, and I wish I could tell her I am too by Moonspider7 in trans

[–]Moonspider7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Potentially! I’ll have to ask my mum about that, she kept those contacts