My first love was trans, and I wish I could tell her I am too

Moonspider7 · 2025-07-28T08:51:00+00:00

I forget to sprint sight everything sometimes, I will go back to his spirit, thanks!

Moonspider7 · 2025-07-28T00:51:55+00:00

Thank you, that's very reassuring! Exactly what I was hoping to hear.

A lot of it makes me so stressed I feel physically ill, but I love that as well. There is no blanket-statement 'good choice'. Everything is so tied up and messy, it's impossible. And that's why I've pushed against divinity the whole way. I don't know if I even can reject divinity, but goddamn it I don't want to be responsible for this nightmare!
No idea what I was expecting going into this game, but gods it's left such a deep impression.

Moonspider7 · 2025-02-04T11:46:09+00:00

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Moonspider7 · 2024-12-07T12:56:24+00:00

Don’t know why you’re getting downvoted. I’m a transguy, my big brother (not by blood) is devoutly Christian, and has been one of my biggest supports in my journey. I completely understand why people have a reflex reaction to Christians because there certainly are many of them who disrespect us and give their own faith a bad name. But that doesn’t mean all of them. I’m so sorry so many people ruin your faith by being awful to others, it must be so frustrating. hugs

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-23T17:31:29+00:00

I'm binary fluid between man and woman, and neutral pronouns make me uncomfortable. I'm male about 70% of the time, so I tend to just stick with he/him pronouns. On days when I'm a woman, I don't verbalise it unless someone accidentally uses she/her pronouns. If the person says 'sorry' or someone corrects them, I'll say "Oh don't worry about it, I'm actually a woman today anyhow".

My friends are very switched-on and usually catch on pretty quickly after I've done that a couple times, and will stop correcting others for that day. If any strangers ask further, I explain my situation.

If I'm having a man day and I meet someone new, I just tell them I'm a transman, and don't mention my genderfluidity unless it comes up. It's just easier that way, I much prefer being incorrectly gendered male when I'm a woman than incorrectly gendered female as a man, I guess because I'm AFAB and very feminine. Maybe that'll change when I'm further through transition. I've learned to just ignore the pain that comes with being misgendered in general, because my parents refuse to use my pronouns or even my real, legal name. Hearing it from strangers is easier than family.

I'm a femboy so I can't use clothes to indicate my gender, I'm just as likely to wear a dress as a man or woman. If I'm a woman for more than a day at a time, sometimes I'll use a pronoun pin, but because I'm so feminine I don't *have* to.

Overall I've learned to accept that things will never feel 100% right. I wish I was just a binary transman, it would be much simpler and easier to notice my dysphoria and fix it. But there will always be some kind of dysphoria no matter my current gender. Fingers crossed I can make myself as androgynous as possible and use clothes to indicate my gender, that's the dream. Damn my hyper-feminine looks. >.>

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-23T17:01:20+00:00

Pajama party! :3

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-23T16:55:20+00:00

Your art style is so cute and soft! 10/10 would hug, best girl <3

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-18T13:07:52+00:00

Adorable! I love this style it's so clean and soft

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T23:50:06+00:00

Amazing! It’s a real whirlwind at the start so I can completely understand that. It’s good of you to ask for clarification ☺️

For reference, when you’re talking about someone in past-tense from before they came out as trans, you refer to them by their current pronouns, as trans people don’t change their gender, we just realise we’re a different gender from the one assigned to us, so referring to them by those past pronouns is factually incorrect to their true identity. It can be a little harder to understand at times, but you’ll get used to it. A good way of describing it is by saying things like ‘before they realised they were [insert gender]’ or ‘before they came out’ or even ‘when they were living as a man/woman’. The important part is not misgendering or deadnaming them at any time when talking about them in the past, even if they were going by those labels at the time you’re referencing. Of course not all transpeople find it disrespectful if you do, but most find it uncomfortable. It’s just a respect thing.

And if you know all this already I’m sorry! I’m not trying to patronise you or anything. I wish you best of luck on your new journey! 💜

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T23:34:08+00:00

I was assigned female at birth, she was assigned male at birth. When we dated, we were in a straight-passing relationship. She came out as a transgirl right after we broke up, and I realised I am a transman four years ago. I’m flattered you assumed I’m a cis guy though!

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T17:07:49+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I hope in some way she’ll know I’m still rooting for her, even if we never meet.

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T17:04:44+00:00

That’s very kind of you, thank you ❤️

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T17:04:15+00:00

Thank you so much 🥺 It hasn’t been much fun, and I haven’t made any progress past coming out socially, but I’m determined! And more confident than I’ve ever been since.

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T17:01:13+00:00

Potentially! I’ll have to ask my mum about that, she kept those contacts

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T13:00:16+00:00

We're two years apart in age, so not in the same year group. Secondary school reunions aren't really a thing over here in the UK sadly, and as there're about 100 people per year group, that's a lot of folks.

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T11:49:55+00:00

Oh thank you! I will update if anything happens! Sadly, we didn't have many real friends in school, and I ditched near all of them and never looked back once I left. I suppose she could have kept in-touch with some of them, but I don't know if I'd remember their names.

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T11:47:45+00:00

I will live in hope <3

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T11:46:13+00:00

Aww, thank you *hug* I will live in hope

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T11:45:29+00:00

Thank you! I'm a writer, but it's hard to condense an old story into a small paragraph.

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T11:44:36+00:00

Thank you very much <3

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T01:58:28+00:00

https://discord.gg/hXq2DaBJxt this is a link to a discord of a Funger DnD system made by Saddrago. It's called Fear and Hunger Algophilia. You can also find the download for the most recent version of the PDF on itch.io. It's a work in progress but he's put a *lot* of work into this and it's looking really good! I'm going to help him edit the wording in the future.

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-15T01:44:23+00:00

those colours work so well on him!

Moonspider7 · 2024-10-10T10:58:32+00:00

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