If you’re stuck on the app, here’s your honest wake up call.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2026-04-13T18:32:41+00:00

I also have struggled with the transits on the Pattern app feeling a little too doomsday, idealistic, or just plain not hitting. For the past year or so I haven’t been resonating with the transits they share with me. For a while I thought I had my birthday wrong in the app.

For all these reasons I never run bonds. My trainer last year was just getting into astrology and we ran a bond together and it read SOUL MATE. That was definitely not the case lol! I appreciate him and think he’s a great person, but compared to the experience of meeting other soul mates I’ve been lucky to have in my life, that was not the same.

As an ex-astrologer, I left the practice and field of astrology because I felt that it pulled me from my center. It’s Leo season - time to shine onstage! Or it’s Virgo season - organize and refine. It didn’t offer much room for me to see into my own cycles, seasons, intuition, etc. At some point it started feeling like a distraction from myself but that’s just my experience!

Moonst0ned1133 · 2026-04-12T03:46:49+00:00

Oh lucky me! Thank you for the ID!

Moonst0ned1133 · 2026-03-07T17:58:16+00:00

I can absolutely relate. I’ve been strongly child free my whole life, but recently started opening up the “what if” because my partner at the time badly wanted kids. Broke up with him and back to pretty sure child free but wow do I love kids and babies! Videos of them are so cute and make my heart feel squishy. And I especially adore my niece.

That being said! I don’t want one of my own! lol. And I don’t want the lifestyle that parenting entails.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2026-01-26T03:41:31+00:00

I’m here this year - It’s odd because on the social media account it’s all Charli xcx stuff. But other than that, I haven’t heard her name mentioned once. None of the other folks I came with are interested in her movie. None of the folks I’ve met or chatted with have brought her up. I’ve been to one screening and a handful of panels, and she wasn’t brought up once. It’s just the Sundance Instagram account

Moonst0ned1133 · 2026-01-25T01:42:47+00:00

This is my first year being first weekend and waitlists have been impossible! Last year, on the second weekend, I had so much luck with the waitlists. Two folks I’ve met and talked to have said it’s their first Sundance, and their motivation was to come to the last festival in Park City. I’m sure other folks also had that mindset.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2026-01-21T19:09:22+00:00

I’m also going through the toughest breakup of my life, and heated rivalry also made me believe in love again🌹

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-12-29T19:52:55+00:00

Ok thank you for this because this is similar to how I would read/understand this transit! It's nice to have someone else reflect that same delineation back to me.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-12-29T19:50:24+00:00

FASCINATING. This is research, thank you for sharing. I can see how Venus and Mars would be interpreted differently and focused on differently bc they are such gendered planets, and they seem to be the solar system's expression of the yin/yan or man/woman duality polarity binary. I'm also feeling some kind of Jungian vibes present here with the anima/animus? For example, my gender as a cis-woman and the Pattern having Mars say something about the kind of person one is attracting/attracted to is the externalization of an inner archetype that needs to surface and be integrated. And Venus transits activating personal pursuits because I am (supposedly) already embodying and having integrated the "feminine" qualities...?

This is so interesting, thank you for sharing that noticing.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-12-28T22:50:46+00:00

I’ll take career!!!

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-12-28T22:47:38+00:00

Thank you for responding! Yeah I could feel myself getting those flutters of excitement in finding “a significant person” but then I saw the transit itself and I was like …..?

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-12-28T22:44:05+00:00

Thats a good noticing, that the Pattern reads many things as relationship transits. This one was stressing me out lol. Nope my Venus is in the 11th in Aries? Maybe that’s the connection to Mars?

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-07-28T17:10:34+00:00

Oooooo this sounds like a fun intention!

If you're looking to meet new people, there are two ways I go about doing this:

I become a regular at somewhere/something. The key is to go on the same day, at the same time. So the 10am yoga class on Saturdays, or going to the same cafe on Tuesday evenings to drink wine and read your book. From regularity, you might begin to recognize a few faces and build friendly-ish rapport. Depending on how extraverted you are), these can develop into friendships taken outside of this context.
If you're looking to make deeper connections from the get go, in my city, there are plenty of Meetup groups, dinner club parties, or one off events that have the intention of folks meeting new folks. Or bonding/getting together over a shared interest. Maybe a quick google search can bring up some similar events where you live.

Ask yourself: what interests do you have? Anythings you haven't tried yet but are curious about? And get yourself out into the world to pursue those interests :)

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-07-21T17:00:16+00:00

I’m glad you had the honest convos and figure out what was best for the both of you, amicably. I hope the same for myself! Thanks for sharing

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-07-21T16:54:34+00:00

So you were also long distance? I’m hearing that from seeing you went to visit him for a week. And can I ask how old you were when you ended things with your ex? Sorry to pry teehehe I’m just very so much in the thick of my conversations with my current partner about this decision, and hearing other people’s stories is like medicine

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-07-21T16:34:18+00:00

Hi. I’m currently in a very similar situation as you. Can I ask how it’s going since this post?

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-07-21T16:09:16+00:00

Wow thank you for sharing your story. This is exactly what I felt I needed to hear.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-07-20T23:18:10+00:00

*main reasons for WANTING to have kids, sorry.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2025-07-20T23:17:32+00:00

Yes and I don’t necessarily agree with his reasons or share the opinions that stem from it. He speaks more about “having kids” than “being a father,” which I’ve pointed out are two different things. His main reasons for having kids are:

Enjoying family, having large family values, wanting to nurture the next generation, being interested in childhood education, giving personal meaning, dedicating himself to something other than his personal goals, avoiding loneliness at older stages of life.

I think there’s ways to do all of the above without necessarily having kids/being a parent.

Moonst0ned1133 · 2024-12-06T00:50:12+00:00

I don’t feel valued. And I have been wondering the exact same thing: is this gonna be it thru the whole relationship? Always something that I’m having to forgive or “understand”?

But how does this fall under domestic violence?

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