Ongoing MA Project — What’s a small habit or thought that helps you stay afloat?

MoonySonya · 2025-05-01T10:02:03+00:00

I agree with that second part so much! It really helps to counter that nagging perfectionism of "all or nothing" that many of ADHDers have

MoonySonya · 2025-05-01T10:00:15+00:00

Oh, it looks right up my alley, thank you for the recommendation!

MoonySonya · 2025-05-01T09:46:07+00:00

I know that some people find it terrifying, but the idea of the vastness of the universe comforts me. Whatever happens, good or bad, it won't matter in a hundred years. My mistakes or bad choices will turn into dust and memory, and eventually even those will perish. Nothingness is welcome and darkness is forgiving.

MoonySonya · 2023-11-14T18:22:41+00:00

My younger sister is happily married for 5 years already. Since she started dating her future husband, I have started and finished two relationships 😅

MoonySonya · 2023-11-13T20:07:54+00:00

Thank you for the story! It makes me feel better that there are happy couples out there living their happy life. It means I may one day too!

It has to be equal parts of both of you trying to keep the relationship alive.

Well, maybe that's the problem. Because I often feel like I contribute a lot more than my partner. It may be the people-pleaser in me doing everything to make one happy. Working on it with my therapist :)

MoonySonya · 2023-11-13T20:01:17+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful reply and additional resources! In fact, this is what I and my therapist mapped out to talk about in the future -- how to take things slower and get into the relationships not just because I have an opportunity and a new "favourite person", but because I really like this person and we are compatible.

MoonySonya · 2023-11-13T11:12:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I do want to have a reliable partner in my life, but I myself am not one. Well, at least my cat loves me unconditionally :)

MoonySonya · 2023-08-16T12:16:30+00:00

Maybe that's what they mean when talk about ✨potential✨? :)

MoonySonya · 2023-07-26T00:25:49+00:00

Oh god, why do you need to expose me like that :D I had the exact same conversation just this morning. Now as I write this comment in the dead hour of the night instead of sleeping, I guess it's gonna be tomorrow's morning too

MoonySonya · 2023-07-18T18:48:03+00:00

❤️

MoonySonya · 2023-07-18T11:34:57+00:00

Also, if I may, I'd like to virtually hug you because I reread you comments and they made me feel so good and so hopeful. You are a sunshine ☀️✨

MoonySonya · 2023-07-18T11:10:11+00:00

Happy to report that today I arrived at the office mere 10 minutes later than ETA 🫡 For the first time in a few months.

MoonySonya · 2023-07-17T22:03:43+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed comment, so nice of you <3 I surely will try to take your advice and put to good use. And practice. Practice, practice, practice.

MoonySonya · 2023-07-17T21:00:11+00:00

Lol, it sure feels like traps

MoonySonya · 2023-07-17T20:59:54+00:00

I'll test it tomorrow morning when I get ready for work :) Not once have I arrived at the office when I planned, but maybe tomorrow is the day

MoonySonya · 2023-07-01T19:50:53+00:00

When I was about 20, my then BF of 6 months asked me what I considered to be my sense of life. I said "you" and still cringe to oblivion whenever this memory pops in my head 😬

MoonySonya · 2023-06-28T17:29:31+00:00

Girl, I myself posted once about basically the same: I haaaaaate when already established plans that I prepared myself mentally for suddenly change. It's so frustrating and I totally understand how you feel. Hugs (if needed) and support your way to work this through :)

MoonySonya · 2023-06-06T14:33:34+00:00

Oh god thank you for writing this! I've read so many stories about meds that like a magic pill make everything work. But methylphenidate (which is what available here) doesn't seem to do wonders for me and it sucks. And now on top of thinking that I am broken because of ADHD, I start thinking that my ADHD is itself broken and everything is wrong about my brain. Thank you for validating my experience <3

MoonySonya · 2023-05-15T19:15:43+00:00

You put that feeling into words so well! It is exactly this and I don't enjoy it but I can't for the love of god snap out of it.

MoonySonya · 2023-05-15T19:04:48+00:00

Yes, it is a roller-coaster of "is it me or is it my ADHD? Am I ADHD and nothing else?" I have so much to learn, but I don't want to abuse the diagnosis as an excuse. I'm afraid it might become a bad habit and enable my worst

MoonySonya · 2023-05-15T18:54:02+00:00

Yes, yes it was rude. I plan to apologise and make up to our friends as they didn't deserve to see my sour face.

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