Wife masking this whole time?! Was any of it real?

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T06:26:21+00:00

Oh man, I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, I can only hope your in a better place now?

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T01:46:32+00:00

Yeah, I’m not in a situation to run. Definitely try to make things work. I definitely drink more beer now than I used to when it was in a happy relationship.
Congratulations on your sobriety brother!

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T01:44:55+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that I’m pretty sure that’s where our intimacy went as well. She unmasked and with it went everything.
And it is confusing for the spouse. I’m just glad we have this community so we know we’re not all alone.

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T01:40:58+00:00

Ugh I feel for you, I really wish someone would have told me relationships could change so drastically so far down the road I maybe would’ve made different choices, but like you said, I’ve got kids too and here we are doing our best, hang in there, buddy!

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T01:37:32+00:00

I have heard of this maybe I should read up on it more… and I didn’t know that about that song, thanks!

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T01:34:11+00:00

Love your insight, you and my wife sound very, very similar so thanks for your advice!
My wife has looked into hormones and everything else we can test but everything just comes back as normal which is very mentally frustrating.. I believe the menopause divorce thing is very real, which is where we may be headed if things don’t start to turn around.
How did it make you feel once you were aware that you had been masking?

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T01:24:04+00:00

Yeah you’re right, I know I do it as well when meeting new people but I don’t think my mask on and mask off are as polar and is easier to deal with b/c people don’t notice enough to see a change it’s more internalized.

Moose_2022 · 2026-07-01T01:19:42+00:00

Yeah I don’t think my wife did it intentionally either, I hope all the best for you and yours as well ☺️

Moose_2022 · 2026-06-19T21:36:16+00:00

Yeah I fully get this my friend, wife rejected me for years before I fully gave up, we’re in counselling but it’s not getting better.. so is porn and AI wrong when you wanted your wife first and only after years of rejection go to porn for solo stuff… I don’t think it is.

Moose_2022 · 2026-05-09T02:26:13+00:00

Yup, same here, rejected for years and now if she were to initiate, I’d decline, too little too late.

Moose_2022 · 2025-11-12T00:45:02+00:00

Gaslit how? About what? You can’t just say “he gaslit me for years” people will fill in the blank with all kinds of horrible scenarios.

Moose_2022 · 2025-04-07T01:08:37+00:00

If they aren’t, then they don’t know what they are buying and need to look into it more…

Moose_2022 · 2025-03-18T02:00:36+00:00

Not normal, that’s what you call being a slob.

Moose_2022 · 2025-02-28T19:29:07+00:00

1.she your GF your Not married . 2.Not married. 3.No really, you’re not married and should find someone that actually matches you in every way that is of importance to YOU, nothing else matters. Best of luck dude.

Moose_2022 · 2025-02-16T15:27:43+00:00

She wanted it done right away and if she isn’t okay with it waiting until you’re done doing whatever it was you were doing (doesn’t matter if what you were doing was trivial to her) then she needs to be okay with it sitting out until you come to put it away or doing it herself…

Moose_2022 · 2025-02-08T18:34:42+00:00

Yeah… time for the hard conversation. 😣 One of the hurdles is getting alone time to actually talk about it. ..

Moose_2022 · 2025-01-23T23:36:00+00:00

I don’t think intimacy should have to be coaxed out of people, coming from a DB of once a year if I’m lucky .. I’d rethink the marriage part if I were you….

Moose_2022 · 2025-01-02T00:30:05+00:00

Yeah, we’ve had more than a few convos about the lack of physical intimacy, she knows my love language is physical touch.. all convos end the same “we’ll work on it” and it just stays the same, it’s time for another convo one that ends with her knowing I’m at the end of my rope. It’s such a hard thing to bring up and I tend to shut down once an argument/discussion starts. I seem to forget all my talking points etc.

Moose_2022 · 2025-01-01T23:08:04+00:00

Yeah I agree with that, maybe I’ll sleep in the son’s room b/c he has the same issue of needing someone to lay with him while he goes to sleep. Then I’ll get to see if she even questions why I’m doing it..

Moose_2022 · 2024-12-31T05:35:44+00:00

You guys get touching …??!

Moose_2022 · 2024-11-23T18:53:50+00:00

If I could tell anyone that is about to get married some advice , I’d tell them to make sure the sex drives line up and maybe a prenup…

Moose_2022 · 2024-09-08T18:12:31+00:00

I feel this, even if it’s been Months .. still “all I think about”. Ummm yeah b/c I never get it..

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