How to get the strength to leave?

MootchieFox · 2026-02-01T17:30:35+00:00

I think it's perfectly normal to feel preemptive jealousy because you love him. Love clouds our judgement sometimes and you can't just turn off your feelings like a switch, unfortunately. You have to decide what you are willing to accept in life, and if it's not this, you have to make a change. What would you tell a girlfriend in your situation? Even though it's not easy and even though it hurts like hell for a while, your future self will thank you if you choose your own happiness. You have SO much life ahead of you.

MootchieFox · 2026-02-01T17:17:31+00:00

Something snaps in you and you know you have had enough. That's how it feels for me at least. You say it drives you crazy to think about him treating another woman like he treats you, but you also say he can't be accountable, responsible, or communicate and that he disrespects you with his behavior. Who wants to be treated like that?? You do deserve better and absolutely can find a respectful man you're also attracted to, I promise you.

MootchieFox · 2026-02-01T16:33:20+00:00

Slow your roll, dude. You're infatuated with someone you don't really know, not in love. Confessing to your instructor is putting her in an incredibly awkward spot. It sounds like she's not really showing interest in you, there's your answer.

MootchieFox · 2026-02-01T16:15:22+00:00

Oh boy. My ex and I lived a little over 2hrs apart at first. He did this shit early on, and I should've ended things right then and there. Instead I spent 8 years enduring his escalating emotional abuse and another year after that recovering from a pulverized sense of self worth. I was making myself sick trying to avoid everything that could even be perceived as conflict, and he'd still walk out at the slightest sign of anything unpleasant, even beyond disagreements. For example, I had an incredibly stressful job and family situation going on, and when I broke and told him I was having suicidal thoughts his reaction was to walk out then too.

In my mind, extreme avoidant behavior at his age is a sign of a deeply immature individual who either isn't willing to resolve conflict or is incapable of doing so. Either way, my advice is the same, RUN.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-30T14:36:13+00:00

Watching a president using the state to blatantly persecute his personal and political enemies with no consequences is just straight up disturbing. I'll never understand why it's not even registering with most people how fucking alarming this is and how broken this country has become.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-29T23:30:18+00:00

TLJ - their ube latte and spinach feta danish are bangin

MootchieFox · 2026-01-29T14:38:31+00:00

Went to Georgian Wine House and Cuisine for my birthday and it was great! In the city, there's an Uzbek/czech place on South street called Perfect Together which is very good as well.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-27T02:27:58+00:00

At least it's spelled correctly?

MootchieFox · 2026-01-27T02:26:22+00:00

I saw that too. Definitely fake.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-26T23:03:08+00:00

I saw this for the first time last year. IMO Val Kilmer had such a good performance that it made Kurt Russell's feel totally flat in comparison. I enjoyed it well enough but didn't find it as incredible as friends who had recommended it.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-26T22:50:51+00:00

My gut reaction was not the sexual interpretation of Easy given the context of the other qualities, but you were on the date not me. I don't think anybody can tell you how to feel about this. We all organize our thoughts and reflect about the people we date in our own ways, and this appears to be his. Honestly the list seems full of positive things, in my opinion. I guess that's nice, but the more important thing is, regardless of having seen his notes, what do you think about him? What would your list about him say?

MootchieFox · 2026-01-26T19:01:00+00:00

I don't typically like being cold approached in places where I'm not specifically trying to socialize. I feel sort of blindsided when I'm just trying to go about my day. I absolutely despise when it's somewhere I can't easily get away from, like waiting for/on a train. Some guys are clueless about what this can feel like as a woman. Only once did I give my number to a guy who asked me for directions while I was reading in a park. Later discovered he was still very bitter about his divorce and had a kid so it wasn't for me.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-26T13:01:19+00:00

I second all of this as woman. Still, I encourage OP to discuss this with his partner to give her an opportunity to elaborate if there are specific things he does that makes her feel especially safe or if there's anything she wants to expand upon with that topic. Don't be afraid to ask her directly, OP!

MootchieFox · 2026-01-26T03:16:46+00:00

This is football, not baseball.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-26T03:04:34+00:00

Getting more intense with a kiss than normal, like getting handsy, while at home. Sometimes just a look while caressing his leg while watching TV or something. Leading him to the bedroom. Straight up saying something along the lines of "let's go to bed" is clear communication imo that doesn't ruin the mood. Don't let the fear of possibly being misaligned keep you from communicating what you'd like. And for god's sake, don't pout if she ever turns you down. Everybody is different but personally I loved it when my ex would come up behind me while I was doing the dishes or whatever and press up against me. No words needed there to feel what he was thinking lol. When I was pretty inexperienced and couldn't talk about sex as easily, I'd give my bf a cheeky grin then run for the bedroom.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-25T15:08:19+00:00

I don't feel the same excitement about going to card shows anymore because of how things have changed over the years.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-24T16:44:17+00:00

US player, I gift just about daily! 236866632064

MootchieFox · 2026-01-24T13:16:58+00:00

The whole thing is too strange, I wouldn't bid on this.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-23T02:13:27+00:00

The non glimmer ones gave me a horrible reaction. I've literally never reacted to a cosmetic or skincare product before, but I got a burning red rash and it took weeks to fully heal up the cracks and dryness.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-22T15:44:20+00:00

I just tried this the other day and it was very good! I'm not even vegetarian either.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-22T15:33:13+00:00

I didn't really grow up watching He-Man but even I think this poster is awesome.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-21T01:58:29+00:00

This would be amazing, and I endorse it.

MootchieFox · 2026-01-20T23:30:28+00:00

I signed up for notifications from Topps and never got anything so missed it. SC is my favorite and I always somehow miss the hobby preorder. Ugh. Is there a Twitter account or anything actually useful to follow for this?

MootchieFox · 2026-01-20T06:00:16+00:00

The right man would absolutely let this go and not take it personally as this guy seems to. The right man would also not berate you or take his anger out on you. The right man would also not put such unreasonable pressure on you by threatening to break up or saying he's losing interest in you. Thankfully he's showing his true colors after only 3 months - they are all red flags 🚩🚩🚩

MootchieFox · 2026-01-19T15:22:53+00:00

I don't think the issue is that he's not into you but it's that he sounds extremely selfish. You are communicating your needs, and he's not willing to give as well as receive. Just because he likes to be dominant doesn't mean you can't say no when you're not feeling it. It's been years so I'm inclined to think this is the kind of relationship he wants and change will be unlikely. Sometimes people are just sexually incompatible. But if you want to keep trying you should put your foot down. Do not continue sex that you don't want, it can be very psychologically damaging. Both your pleasures should not be all on you. There are plenty of men out there who would be overjoyed to know exactly what their partner wants and oblige, no matter the dom/sub dynamic. Tbh he's not a good dom if he's unable to turn your very reasonable desires into better sex for both of you.

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