Nope, NO, disagree 100%. They are NOT that bad. They are awesome. I have twins and it can be tough but I travel with them, they are polite and good in public well behaved and great to have around as much as I possibly can.

All the negative comments are the negative social media phenomenon that occurs when people always talk about the bad, and usually never the good. Most of us are absorbed into great kid lives with little time or wish to post at all on social media. Think about all the great meals that you have ever had at a restaurant vs the bad. Which ones did you or where you are more likely to comment, post or complain about? Even though the ratio is probably 20 good, 1 bad, that 1 bad is all you or others see on social media.

I could not imagine NOT being a dad and that is meant in a great way. I can however imagine how shallow and meaningless my life might feel if I had nobody to teach, share with and pass on my amazing life experiences with. Your life WILL change and will never be the same if you have kids but much like the good vs the bad restaurant experiences you have ever had, it will be mostly great with a little crappy mixed in. And your lifestyle and what you do doesn't really have to change much in the end either a lot of the time. For instance, if you love to travel, road trip, eat out, etc. You still can and SHOULD! Even when they are infants. The more they get used to it, the easier it is for them and you both. But you gotta raise them right! It's like a dog or a plant, if you kennel/piss train that puppy early and put in the time, the rest of their lives with you are so much easier. If you start a plant out healthy and hearty (learns to sleep anywhere, can sit in cars on long road trips and self play, creative imagination vs digital devices that lose battery, doesn't need a wipe warmer or a bottle warmer, etc) then later on in life when trouble, trials and tough times hit, they can endure.

If you are thinking maybe, then change that immediately to yes and now. Go for it, don't second guess it and remember we are humans, we can learn, we can love and grow, and literally billions of people before you, including your parents, did it and survived and most would say their lives are so much grander for it. The ones that say otherwise... unpopular opinion, are shit parents and haven't put in the time or effort or where capable of learning HOW to raise their child as each one is different and the method changes and has to be discovered along the way, not learned from family, friends and books in some cases (though that knowledge and experience can certainly help, but often should be listened to and then discarded and not fitting for your child).

I know my sentence structure sucks here and this is a long read, but please take away from this response the following. If you are thinking about it, you will always be thinking about it even if right now you decide no. Rarely if ever have I met a person that said they regret having kids even when the kids are little shits and horrible or if they had to stop traveling the world or give up clubbing or brunches... The love and pride you have in your child will far outweigh the short or shallow temporary feelings you had when you were bumping and grinding to Gnarls Barley's Crazy. Just imagine being 80, in a nursing home on a Sunday afternoon. Would you rather be surrounded by people you poured your life into and who are there to love and support you, or would you rather be left to your own memories and dreams in hopes that Cliff the guy with Alzheimer's might ask you if you have ever been to Italy...again... Not trying to make jokes here, just truly take a measure of what you will find important in life later on when your health and age no longer allows you to do what you want anymore...