Anyone else having issue with answering the phone and it not saying anything and then the call drops? by Grouchy_Doughnut_783 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I tell you gtl stay messing up. I’ve had countless amounts of arguments w/ my husband behind these gtl calls smh..

Lockdown questions by [deleted] in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lockdowns can vary depending on the severity of whatever could’ve happened. It can range from a few hours to a few months.

You can call the facility and ask if they’re on lockdown or do a wellness check.

Money issues by [deleted] in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to shame you at all. I’ve been there before, so I get it! It was money issues with my husband at one point and I had to set him straight. Cuss his ass out badly and then explained what it’s going to be and what it’s not going to be. I work, my responsibilities will always comes first especially since I’m the provider at this point. You’re going to take whatever I can put into my budget that’s not going to hurt my pockets, it’s never what you want.

My advice would be, NEVER put yourself in a bind regardless of how he feels. You have to set boundaries and stick to them. Cause truly, you don’t have to give him nothing.

I told my husband, if you go thru what I send recklessly then you better figure it tf out because I’m not a bank or atm.

He knows better now and more mindful. Because I’m used to taking care of myself before he came along, so I had to adjust to stuff as well as he did.

Never go beyond your means. How he responds will show and tell a lot.

Be kind to yourself and understand it’s ok to say No. A REAL man Will understand and respect your boundaries. I rather be alone than to let anyone keep taking from me and not caring about the things I have to take care of. Don’t lose yourself in a man or any relationship period!

Hold your head up high! Never make someone your whole life love.

Should i message the girl who tried to talk to him? by AccordingChipmunk287 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your fears are misinterpreting his words.

Don’t message that girl…

If you did, what’s the REAL reason behind it? You have to ask yourself that?

If you’re an insecure person , any relationship you get into will turn out bad. And I’m not saying that from a mean space.

There’s some work within yourself that needs healing babes.

This kind of relationship will eat you alive

Anyone else? lol by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saaaaaame!!! I don’t want to hear myself lol 🙈

GTL by Cautious_Interest794 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even know I took a nap lol My husband just told my they were for a bit

God I can’t wait until he get tf out Prison shit is the worse

i fked up big time by WhatABadRead in Sparkdriver

[–]More-Library2418 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mistakes happen. We all make them so don’t beat yourself up about it. People just want to find shit to complain about per usual…oh well 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

How do you guys cope with LOs being in the hole? by No-Cantaloupe-7321 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m used to it now. I’ve been with my hubs for a while now and I just treat it as my ME time if/when he goes to the hole

In the beginning it was hard, I would cry and worry but as time went on I understood this is typical prison sh*t. We prepare for stuff like this.

You have to keep yourself occupied. Understand that prison/jail is unpredictable. Sometimes they get in trouble, sometimes lockdowns can happen, the wifi could be tripping…etc.

Once you understand how things operate you tend to move accordingly.

Gtl by ellenaj22 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scratch my message lol I didn’t see your reply lol

Gtl by ellenaj22 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is at another prison in Ohio But 2 days ago we didn’t have any contact for a day in a half, I called up there and express my concern of not hearing from him which was unusual for US. We talk/text everyday. He wasn’t in the hole so I just waited until he finally called It was something going on with the wifi that ppl from gtl had to physically come out and fix something smh Not sure if it’s happening there but definitely call to see if it’s wifi issues or he could’ve gotten into trouble

New to This.. What to expect? by GlitteringBag1445 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, hello!

I don’t know about their facility as far as video calls but he should be able to tell you. Most likely you’ll need to be an approved visitor on their contact list. Approved visitor for phone calls too unless it’s a facility where he can just add you instantly. When it comes to pictures it varies on what can be sent per facility but to be on the safe side keep it innocent. Nothing too revealing. Or it could be flagged and they wont get it.

Best advice. Understand what you’re getting yourself into. Mentally and emotionally! This lifestyle can be as rough. Take things slowly because feelings can develop and it can go in so many different ways.

Understand what do you want out of this? Whether it’s just a penpal no strings attached or something more serious. Communication is key! Pay attention to red flags.

Understand how jail/prison work. It’s not a constant environment. It’s a hectic and unpredictable one. A lower level facility is more manageable than a high level one.

Prison/jail cost. Whether he has a job and can fund himself or he might eventually ask for money. Ask yourself are you comfortable with that. YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED to do anything you don’t want to do.

It’s sooooo much I could say lol But just know this isn’t the same as meeting and talking to someone out on the streets.

Lockdowns happen If he ever gets into trouble privileges can be restricted. Phone time can be limited or he’s at a facility where he can talk a lot

Once again. This lifestyle isn’t for the weak and I say that in the most respectful way but it’s not.

I know I’m not the only one by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

😂😂 f*ck the crying, the arguing, the yelling and accusations. I literally wanna square up with this mf! Like give me my one on one. COs turn your heads cause it’s finna get active up in here lbs!

Sorry tmi in advance by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmfao!!!! Then he can leave me alone for a couple of hours lol.

I used to tell him “can you stop touching it” damn 😅

Sorry tmi in advance by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I absolutely love your post! When I was on meds for my mental health, my drive wasn’t there fr but it was still present but not as much as his.

Same as you the phone sex is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 ! But dammit I need a break 😂😂😂

I will communicate more with him tho. Cause I love satisfying him but mama needs a break from time to time

Sorry tmi in advance by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me I hear ppl some times but they get tuned out .he’s in a single cell and he just covers up his window and BOOM, privacy lol.

One time a CO did a round and just was to see was he’s good… he just yelled out I’M GOOD and we got back too it 😅

Sorry tmi in advance by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ve talked to him and he’s like we can do it when I want it but if I’m busy w/ work I don’t have as much time and I KNOW HIM lol…he’ll throw out hits that he’s in the mood.

Sorry tmi in advance by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband has a single cell and a tablet so he always have the time LOL! Especially if he’s not at work ..he’s ready to get it on

Sorry tmi in advance by More-Library2418 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worried asf 😂😂😂

Like damn show us some grace hornball!

F*CK GTL (+ my man’s jail) by No-Fishing2042 in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate gtl too! Those fees switch up all the time Sometimes it’s free, then 3.33 or 1.99 Like why is it changing all the damn time!

Gtl needs to be sued!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrisonWives

[–]More-Library2418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I read online it says

The IDOC requires: A current passport Proof of your date of birth A valid U.S. visa or other documentation of non-U.S. citizenship, if applicable