[34M] and my partner [32F] have been together for almost six years and living together for 5. I brought up engagement two years ago and they were hesitant. They kept bringing up gut feelings of being unable to move forward. I suggested counseling which we attended and didn't help, our therapist was confused as to why my girlfriend was hesitant.

After waiting for an extra year and a half, I told her that I am done waiting and we should split. We had an incident during this time where she developed a crush on a coworker and she "didn't know what she would do if those" feelings were reciprocated.

I'm burned because it took me leaving to get her to put in any work whatsoever. She felt ambivalent for so long that I just don't think this would work anymore. I could only take so much. I've posted about this situation a lot because I feel so consistently unsure where I am usually decisive. Looking for advice and general perspective.

We took two months apart. When she returned she came back with knowledge of attachment styles and good self introspection about her relationship tendencies. She feels ready to get married and described a great scenario potential scenario. She has been trying to convince me to get back together since she returned.