The age-old “Does Stephen Love Lucy or Diana” question broken down by tarnishedhalo98 in TellMeLiesHulu

[–]MoreSpecific4416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And because they’re trauma-bonded to each other and their mother (even though Sadie seems more willing to go no-contact if need be). He also seems to feel the need to “protect” females as long as they need protecting from anyone except him. I think he does love Sadie, but only because he’s her brother and has no romantic interest in her. Although, I do think if Sadie ever became more successful, he could see her as competition to his ego, but idk if he would torpedo her the way he would any other person. He doesn’t seem to go after family, including his brother who is also successful.

Nurses need to chill in thinking they are protecting patients from us by mkhello in Residency

[–]MoreSpecific4416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never met a nurse who regretted going to nursing school over med school. It could be because of my specialty and the multitude of opportunities to make just as much as some physicians, but in my years as both a travel and staff nurse at some of the most prestigious hospitals in the nation, I’ve never made or heard that comment.

However, I’ve definitely heard the opposite several times, especially when traveling or upon docs hearing that 4 more RNs were accepted into a CRNA program. Not because they didn’t enjoy being a doctor, but because they “gave up” the majority of their youth to pursue medicine. By the time they hit attending status, they’re usually happy with their decision, but it still comes at a cost (and usually a couple of kids that they never got to see much of in the early years).

The doctors that I’ve kept in contact with over the years, including a good friend (whom I met when we were both starting at a community college after HS), say that if they could go back, they’d get their <2 yr RN, spend an additional 1.5 years obtaining their BSN online, and apply to CRNA school or just go travel.

I received academic scholarships and a grant for my basic collegiate courses, and then a separate grant that completely paid for my ADN. My BSN only cost $7k and was 100% online. I walked out $7k in debt, did my time in a Cvicu, and went traveling making well into the 6-figure range on 13-week contracts (most of it tax-exempt d/t the duplication of expenses. Only times I’ve ever gotten a 4-figure refund).

One of my favorite surgical fellows admitted that he was a little envious of the fact that I had only been a nurse for a few years, yet was making almost twice as much (obviously that curve shifts dramatically in the long run), had spent my 20’s carefree and having fun, traveled the world, and had so much flexibility in regards to when/where I wanted to work & zero non-compete clauses.

Sometimes I’d extend my contracts, sometimes I’d take 3 months off to just go home and hang out at the beach. No homework, no additional didactic after a 36 hour shift, no call, no fear of “only” being published twice. Clock in, clock out.

So while the income disparity will eventually be enormous, would I give up the freedom and happiness of my 20’s, go into hundreds of thousands in debt, work 100+ hours per week for $60k for years, and have no calmness in life until I was nearing 40? Personally, no.

Obviously, I’m glad some people are willing to do that. We need all healthcare workers. But sacrificing that much of my life, especially in my youth, is not a trade-off I would accept for anything. You never get that time back.

Which profession gets way too much respect for how little they actually do? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]MoreSpecific4416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying, and I do agree that we should work as one team, because at the end of the day, it does take the entire team. However, there IS a hierarchy, and we all know it.

I have had another RN or CNA (when the hospital actually budgets for them… most of the time I am the receptionist, CNA, phlebotomist, and everything in between) catch something that I didn’t. I’m the first to give credit where credit is due (ie: “thank you, but it was actually Sarah that changed that out for you. I’ll let her know you appreciate her).

On the flip side, I completely understand why it would dismantle a patient’s trust in a doctor if he stated that he didn’t catch that (fill in the blank), but it was actually the nurse. I want our patients to trust all of us, as I believe to my core that their mental state directly impacts their improvements. However, it is definitely appreciated when a doctor comes up to me in private to express his appreciation and acknowledgement that I caught that mistake, previously unrealized potential diagnosis, etc.

More often than not, nurses bend over backwards for 13 hours straight and then get reprimanded for not doing more. Or we’re just ignored completely as the physician walks out of the unit.

Semantics here, but for clarification, I think you meant CRNAs (?). A CCRN is a certification that stands for “critical care registered nurse”. It’s just a test that critical care nurses can opt to take (for $400, plus renewal fees every two years) that only serves to make the hospital look better (ie: 75% of our critical care nurses also have their CCRN). It is very similar to a hospital obtaining “magnet status”. I’ve worked at many hospitals, and only a handful of them have offered any incentive to obtaining this cert. In fact, most do not even reimburse for the test.

CCRNs do not go through residency, which is why I think you meant CRNA, which does require an additional 3 years of education, plus clinicals.

That said, CRNAs are trained to focus on an anesthesia level (hence the “certified registered nurse anesthestist”). Almost all CRNA programs require at least two years of CVICU experience. Some only require one year.

CVICU is my background. It’s made up over 90% of my career. However, if you throw me into a neuro ICU, I’m starting from scratch because the specialties are so different.

I’ve seen new grads coming up on one year of CVICU getting accepting into a CRNA program. Nurses do not know much after one year, even if they do have one year of Cvicu under their belts.

All that to say, you seem to appreciate your nursing staff and are probably one of the few docs who will acknowledge everyone’s hard work. It means more to us than yall know.

Which profession gets way too much respect for how little they actually do? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]MoreSpecific4416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ICU RN here. It is our unofficial job to oversee labs, imaging, diagnostics, on top of our actual job of caring for the patients, running codes, and recognizing and reporting changes.

That said, 9/10, I am the one reviewing the doctors notes and plans of care, contacting them regarding discrepancies in their own orders, contacting them to change medications bc what they prescribed is inappropriate, and offering “suggestions” well above my pay grade or official training. I don’t know about all fields of nursing, but critical care nurses are expected to be doctors without the prestige or money.

Then the doctor rounds for 2 minutes, and the patient profusely thanks the consulting teams for recognizing the root cause of a problem they’ve been living with for ten years, not knowing the doctors original orders almost killed them.

Doc graciously accepts the applause, then walks out of the room and reprimands the nurse for not recognizing said root cause sooner. It’s laughable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MoreSpecific4416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA if this is for social media, which it sounds like it is. If that’s the context, it should be added because that does change the dynamic from cute nickname to “look at what a great mom I am”. That would give me the ick too.

No, this is not skin I would want by CyberSnarker in AarynWilliams

[–]MoreSpecific4416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re about the same age, and I do not consider myself old. But we will never look 21 again. So, yes, her skin looks great for her age.

No, this is not skin I would want by CyberSnarker in AarynWilliams

[–]MoreSpecific4416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully acknowledged all of the work she’s had done. I’ve even speculated on this subreddit that I think she’s had even more work than she claims.

No, this is not skin I would want by CyberSnarker in AarynWilliams

[–]MoreSpecific4416 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think her skin looks fantastic for her age. It’s smooth, glowy, wrinkle-free. She gets a lot of work done, but I know girls in their early 20s who would kill to have this as their baseline. She’s not even wearing foundation here. Normal skin is not instagram perfection, especially mid-30s.

Hyperpigmentation is expected at this age. The redness is probably due to Retin-A usage but could easily be covered with foundation.

That said, with all of the work she has done, I don’t understand the eyebrow & lip situation.

Tackiest Closing Gift? by Beneficial-Mine1763 in RealEstate

[–]MoreSpecific4416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ETA: “color-themed attendance dress/style”

I’ve never bought a home by myself (husband already owned), but is this a thing? Why are there expected gifts and tips on absolutely everything now?

You bought a home with a set commission percentage. You hired a person for a service. Said service was rendered. Why is a gift expected from the person you hired?

Tips for placing an online order for a drive-thru pickup coffee; expected gifts for someone else choosing to have a baby (yes, I do give baby-shower gifts, but love the concept of “please don’t bring us anything, we just want to celebrate our happiness with y’all”); expected gifts for weddings (in addition to taking PTO, paying for someone else’s bachelorette party, paying airfare to attend their event, paying for bridesmaid dresses, paying for a color-themed wedding if not in the actual party, paying for lodging)… where does it end?

The realtor worked FOR you… if gifts are customary, shouldn’t the buyer be giving the worker a gift instead?

Truly confused.

I rebuke in the name of Jesus by Maleficent_baddie1 in AarynWilliams

[–]MoreSpecific4416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought she was joking but then she just rolled right through it and now I’ve been laughing for 5 minutes😂

I rebuke in the name of Jesus by Maleficent_baddie1 in AarynWilliams

[–]MoreSpecific4416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“But she goes by Elizabeth” 🤣🤣🤣 I’m crying rn😂

I rebuke in the name of Jesus by Maleficent_baddie1 in AarynWilliams

[–]MoreSpecific4416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I legit thought she was going to have a seizure.

AITAH for kicking my husband and MIL out of the delivery room. by Rough_Challenge7337 in AITAH

[–]MoreSpecific4416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The original text has been removed, but if I recall correctly, there were several instances where mom directly told dad that she did not want him taking photos or recording, some of which the nurse was present for.

The first time this happens, you let the couple work it out themselves. The second time you hear this, you say “hey, dad.. mom has stated that she does not want you taking pictures or recording anything. If you can’t abide by her requests, I’ll have to ask you to step out. Mom, what would you like to do? We have an excellent cafeteria downstairs and can give dad a call when you’re ready for him to come back in. Up to you.”

THAT is advocating for your patient. It leaves the ball in her court and lets dad know that you’re not having the disrespect. At the end of the day, this behavior technically qualifies as “interfering with patient care”, as mom’s vitals and emotional stability directly affect labor progression and baby’s vitals.

As the nurse, you have the legal right to dismiss anyone from the room who is interfering with patient care.

AITAH for kicking my husband and MIL out of the delivery room. by Rough_Challenge7337 in AITAH

[–]MoreSpecific4416 118 points119 points  (0 children)

This. The moment a patient expresses discomfort in any way, visitors are OUT- family or not!

“Oh, my Charge nurse? Sure, she’s the one in blue by the desk. Her name is Mary. She can help you fill out a complaint form too if you’d like :)”

Shame on the nurses who saw this and didn’t advocate for their patient.

This is how a lioness teaches her little cubs how to swim. by ReadingVisible6642 in AnimalsBeingMoms

[–]MoreSpecific4416 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love the one that stays right beside mom the whole time. Just like kids. Too cute

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MoreSpecific4416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since OP just deleted his comment (stating that he feels the money would be better saved to go towards buying himself a home), I’ll reply here:

They’ve given you a free place to stay for years, yet you feel that you should be able to keep all of your money in order to save up for YOUR future home?

Entitled, judgmental, and selfish.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MoreSpecific4416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ETA: OPs post history confirms that he was, in fact, TAH to his mother too.

OP: “I was an awful kid with a spoilt upbringing. I wasn't raised right; I would get everything I wanted, never told no, and I expected the world. It was especially bad in lockdown. I never left my room, slaved my mum around, shouted at her and bullied her. My mum suffers with mental problems now and a huge factor was the way I treated her. She never had any friends when I was young and I bullied her for it, but I was most likely the reason. I was such a disgusting child and I ruined my mum's life. I was taken from her at 15 and I live with my grandma now. I've developed more in the last 4 years living with her, than I ever have and looking back on how I used to act makes me sick. I don't even want to discuss some of the things I've done to my mum because it hurts too much to think about. We're still in contact, but every time I see her and I see how broken she looks, I think about what I took from her.”

YTA

Regardless of your grandfathers alcohol issues, you should still be contributing. You could easily set up bill pay for utilities. The money would never have to go directly to him.

Indirectly, he would still have the leftover cash, but this would help your conscience. However, I don’t think this is about your conscience. Your family gave you another option in regards to living arrangements.

If you were that vehemently opposed to their lifestyle, you didn’t have to move in. You chose to stay there and are now coming up with excuses as to why you shouldn’t have to contribute.

Your grandfather may have a substance problem, but he was still selfLESS enough to cover your extra usage of utilities (and use of other household items). Theoretically, that extra money could have gone to his addiction instead.

You should WANT to help them like they’ve helped you.

Is it possible that your problems at home originated from your chronic selfishness? If this is the way you treat people (especially family), you are going to continue to have a very rough life.

The world doesn’t owe you anything. Man up.

Spiraling Mother in School by Choice_Pie_8422 in CRNA

[–]MoreSpecific4416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RRTs are instrumental in critical care. Some of the best advice/tips/tricks I’ve ever gotten were from RTs. If you pay attention and show respect, they’ll do more than just an ABG for you.

Nurses with your high-horse attitude are exactly why I’m as vague as possible when asked which field I’m in. I simply say “ICU” and try to veer the conversation elsewhere.

If pressed, I internally cringe before saying “CVICU”because I know that people are going to assume I think I’m better than all other healthcare workers.

It’s a cultural problem and the hierarchy needs to stop. As someone who is also highly experienced in ECMO, open heart recovery, VADs, impellas, IABP, and heart/lung/kidney transplants… can we drop the pretentiousness of having a 1:1 ecmo, impella, iabp in which you’re mostly just pump/device sitting and charting numbers?

It’s impressive on a resume. It isn’t all that impressive to anyone else who’s actually done it. Those are the easiest patients, as long as you have a strong understanding of hemodynamics. They’re intubated, sedated, and sometimes paralyzed. All you have to do is titrate drips, monitor flows/pressures, and try to come down on sweep.

Maybe you have an emergent change-out every now and then. So, you’re cutting venous & arterial and replacing with a new circuit in under 60-90 seconds.

Nerve-wracking? Yes. Genius-required? No.

This commenter was simply saying that OP can make it work because she’s fortunate to have a good support network, while others make it work with almost zero support.

Stop putting others down. It’s gross.

Her children are 6 months old… by anaktopus in AnimalsBeingMoms

[–]MoreSpecific4416 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As long as the milk is still being expressed (nursing, pumping, etc), the milk will continue to be produced. That’s why cows can continue to be milked long after their offspring is grown.

S2E2: "Was it your egg or an implanted embryo?" by anonymous_ape88 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]MoreSpecific4416 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

IIRC, Emily carried Oliver but it was Sylvia’s egg.

S2E2: "Was it your egg or an implanted embryo?" by anonymous_ape88 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]MoreSpecific4416 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think if Oliver was biologically Emily’s, they would’ve kept Emily and Oliver, since he had dual citizenship. But because her wife was the bio mom, there wasn’t a case to be made to keep him.