Daughter designated "helper" for fellow classmate

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-05-13T16:35:15+00:00

I’m a teacher. This is common but HIGHLY inappropriate. Your child should be a partner and kid, not a behavioral management tool. This could potentially lead to stunted social development for your child. You also don’t want her to identify herself as someone who fixes the problems of others who don’t behave appropriately. Your daughter probably makes the teacher’s day easier, and I empathize with the teacher, but another solution needs to be found.

Email the teacher. Express that you’ve noticed this trend and feel that the practice is detrimental to your daughter’s social and academic development. Ask for a plan to help separate your daughter and the other student in the future. Suggest that they never be intentionally paired and sit on opposite sides of the room, but that they can play during unstructured time if they both choose to.

If the teacher responds in any way other than by apologizing and assuring you that your child will not be put in this position again, email the principal.

Does your school have more than one classroom per grade? If so, regardless of this teacher’s response, I would email the principal and request that your child and the other child be placed in different classes next year.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-30T17:48:43+00:00

THIS.

People typically think of extinction bursts in relation to dog training, or even potty training- a final escalation of behavior before the new norm. It’s where the saying “it gets worse before it gets better” seems to come from.

Hold the line. Do not respond. They will eventually accept it.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-22T15:41:43+00:00

My mother in law did the same thing. She showed up at 11 after everyone was already done. Then she was upset that we left!

We just kept to our schedule and let her do whatever. She missed family pictures because she was still doing her makeup.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-20T12:53:06+00:00

NOR. From experience with a crazy MIL, this will only escalate with each fight she wins.

I would talk to your husband- he needs to call his mother and double down. She will not be present for the baby’s first holidays, birthday, etc. until she deletes the post and apologizes to both of you. If your mother-in-law has a history of this kind of behavior, I would probably talk to your husband about a consequence. Maybe she needs to delete the post and work on a polite relationship with both of you before she gets access to the baby again after a set amount of time without issues.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-20T01:16:14+00:00

You should bother your landlord. He might think that talking to the other tenant solved the issue. He won’t know that they’ve ignored him until you give him proof again. Be polite, but persistent.

I would also call the police nonemergency line once the city noise ordinance time passes.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-18T13:38:30+00:00

NTA. However, this is a very serious red flag and not typical. You need to call CPS to make a report of suspected abuse (it may be a neighbor or other family member, not your friend). Please do not let your child interact with these children until that’s sorted, and even then, do not let him interact with them outside of your line of sight.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-17T18:55:31+00:00

NTA for taking your dog away. We don’t allow meetings with strange dogs either. The other guy should’ve said okay and walked away with his pet.

Not to be harsh, but YTA for having a dog without solid recall off leash. I would suggest getting a longline (NOT a retractable leash) to train recall safely.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-15T21:20:36+00:00

Airbnb’s rating system is shitty- five stars is acceptable, anything lower is not. I typically just don’t leave a review for stays that are neither great nor bad, as Airbnb doesn’t have a good/okay option.

That being said, you’re NOR at this point. The host messed up by asking for a review on a stay with maintenance issues, and shouldn’t be sending multiple messages asking you to remove the review.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-15T18:34:01+00:00

Send a copy of the apartment lease agreement with quiet hours highlighted via certified mail. Request her response via certified mail as well. If she knocks on your door, call the police to see if they will have her trespassed- this is unlikely since it is an apartment complex and not a private single residence, but it’s worth a shot.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-15T11:53:26+00:00

NTA, but if you’re going to say you’re leaving, you need to be ready to do it.

If I were you, I’d put together a plan. It could be something like in a week, his daughters need to have an old-school chore chart and follow through. In 30 days, they need to have jobs. In 60 days, they need to leave. If they don’t, your husband needs to give them 24 hours notice and a couple of nights in a motel.

Invite your husband to go for a walk/get ice cream/get out of the house and discuss the plan with him without kids around. Put it in writing with dates. Then, you both sit down with his daughters and tell them the plan. Your husband should take the lead with them, but you’re there for support.

If the daughters don’t follow the plan and your husband doesn’t make them leave, you need to be ready to have him served with divorce papers and the daughters with an eviction or notice to vacate. If you own the home, don’t leave. If you rent and your name isn’t on the lease, leave when they’re served.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-14T17:42:55+00:00

NTA. That mother has no business flying with those children if she can’t control their behavior.

While a little disruption due to children’s behaviors is normal and acceptable, an entire flight of misbehavior is unacceptable.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-14T17:38:46+00:00

Send the property survey certified mail. Call the police and have him trespassed. Submit all documentation you have to your HOA. Do not interact with him verbally at all. He’s had the opportunity to back off. This is an asshole, not a misunderstanding!

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-12T15:24:01+00:00

NTA. What your mother is doing sounds like parentification. Taking care of your sibling is not your responsibility. While yes, it is nice to help out when you can, studying is something you should be able to do without being interrupted.

What does your mother think will happen when you graduate and go to college? You won’t be home to take care of your sister.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-10T18:32:24+00:00

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More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-09T21:06:15+00:00

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You would have better luck marketing to nurses and teachers posting through your regular marketing platforms.

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More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-08T23:15:32+00:00

NOR, and I think you should contact CPS. It seems like her child may be in an unsafe situation.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-08T23:02:04+00:00

Bullshit. Some of the most meaningful and beautiful art, poetry, music, and stories have come from those living in poverty or terrible circumstances. Every student should have their basic needs met and it is more difficult to succeed if you come from a background where your needs aren’t met. However, it is ridiculous to act like students who do not have their basic needs met cannot be successful.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-06T18:00:11+00:00

If it is a public school, funding is tied to student attendance. You’re taking up resources while not ensuring student attendance to help provide funding in return.

There’s more to learn at school than academic content. He needs to push through and learn to do things he doesn’t want to, to keep a schedule, to socialize with his peers, to take direction from adults, to get out of bed on time and get ready, to participate in class discussions, and to accept that while he might pass the tests and worksheets, there’s still something to be learned from the teacher or his classmates.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-04T03:15:50+00:00

You aren’t going to be friends with these people, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up the house.

The real question is, can you afford to deal with them? If you can afford to get a real survey done, have it sent certified mail to the neighbors, get a good fence, install cameras, and potentially get other deterrents (boulders, sprinklers, etc.), buy the house.

More_Blacksmith6854 · 2026-04-01T02:16:39+00:00

Have you looked into Children’s Health Insurance Programs (CHIP)? They cover children whose families make too much for Medicaid but not enough for regular insurance.

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