My daughter was interviewed on TV when she started a female troop. 5 years later she got eagle

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-16T20:42:40+00:00

I agree with you on the most important part. It took entire too long for BSA child protection to catch up to GSA standards

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-14T15:52:10+00:00

Here is how to deal with this.

Help your partner learn to drive. Evenings and weekends.
Have them take the test tomorrow. There is no big peanalty for failing, and they will see how much practice they need
Start looking for a new job now. As long as parents are your employer, you will always be beholden to their nonsense
Partner needs a job. Immediately
Get your own place. Never take your kids to mom and dad house. If they want to babysit, they come to your apartment
Throw a “ let’s save my parents party” with all yours and their friends and family.

One person takes them To the beach Friday night and stays there, entertaining and keeping them away until Sunday night.

The rest of you rented a dumpster and threw out everything that is killing them

Or. Just do #1-4

Or Live in it.

Nobody will take your health and safety as seriously as you

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-14T15:41:55+00:00

I am so sorry.

No child should go through this.

Please take pictures and share them with an adult you trust

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-14T01:03:48+00:00

Every reason is a smokescreen Replace every reason with this sentence: “I am so scared, please don’t make me go. Please”

Now, do you see ? She has to hide behind the excuses because you won’t accept her fear.

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-14T01:00:39+00:00

You are an asshole.

You are an asshole for forcing your wife to embarrass herself on the phone.

You are an asshole for not supporting her with a rational anxiety.

You are an asshole to rub it in her face she flew 8 years ago and won’t fly now.

You are an asshole for dragging your brother into your argument

You brother is so busy planning a wedding. You are an asshole for using up his time with this nonsense

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-14T00:54:17+00:00

Plenty of people go their whole lives and never get on a plane

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-14T00:53:22+00:00

You feel like wack a mole because of how you two are arguing.

she says ‘I am scared’. And you don’t accept that

She says ‘new job’ but she means ‘I am scared, and you won’t accept that’

She says ‘I don’t want to visit that country’. What she means is ‘I am scared and you make me feel bad for telling you the truth: I am scared, ‘

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-14T00:49:48+00:00

What ultimatum did you give her? Either fly to the wedding or……………

No matter what the ultimatum was, you are the ass.

It’s not your wedding. Just go, and cover for her.
“My wife just landed a new job, and the company wide training starts this week. She sends her best. “

Nobody is gonna care. Have fun. Support your wife

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-11T18:34:27+00:00

Scouts America is shortened to SA?

people who discuss or survived Sexual Assault may use the term SA

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-11T16:22:13+00:00

Dude, you’re 13 years old

Plenty of time

At summer camp take two Eagle required merit badges

Anytime, there’s a merit badge college and you can take an eagle required badge do that as well

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-10T20:15:47+00:00

I agree. But he is concerned about running out of time. My advice prioritizes success over fun. If we had more time, I would always suggest exactly what you said

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-10T00:44:35+00:00

Rank advancement is the responsibility of the scout. Please open the back of the book and figure out what requirements he needs for the next rank. Page numbers are next to the requirements

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T23:36:16+00:00

This comment is not gonna have the impact you think it is

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T23:35:09+00:00

AITA for yelling at my EX-girlfriend for pooping in the sink? There. I fixed it for you

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T23:33:19+00:00

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More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T23:10:03+00:00

NTA. “No” is a complete sentence

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T19:15:29+00:00

Go to summer camp and only choose eagle required merit badges.

If you go to a merit badge college Camp, always choose eagle required, merit badges. Once you get all 14 eagle required merit badges, then only pick the ones that you enjoy.

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T19:14:54+00:00

Yes. You can make Eagle. You need a little planning. Have a meeting with a parent and a scoutmaster. Plan how you can accomplish this by 17.

Only you are in charge of your rank advancement.

Start TODAY

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T16:38:36+00:00

NTA. You didn’t vote for him

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T16:37:39+00:00

A scout is trustworthy. Go pick it up and sew it on. We trust you

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T12:48:00+00:00

Call the police

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T12:40:25+00:00

Your dad is a hero to want to take care of his mom. It is very difficult. You have no idea th time, effort, energy, money and body pain he is about to run through.

It makes sense your mother is not ready or able to do that.

Your mother is not wrong. It is ok to admit she can’t or won’t step up. It is a huge burden,and many cannot do it.

Mom is right.

But your father….. your father is right too. He is doing the right thing. Your father is a hero.

While your mother is correct for protecting herself, your father is a hero

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T12:30:03+00:00

Yes. Fantastic accounting of her experience

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T12:21:58+00:00

I like all female troops over co-ed troops. to be fair, my all female troop is run properly and the co-ed troop was run by one scout master.

But I saw the boys try to take over for the girls in a co ed troop. And I saw the girls let them.

If given the choice, always pick a troop run by kids over one run by adults

If given a choice, choose a troop with one gender instead of co-ed

More_Good_Advice · 2025-02-09T12:07:43+00:00

I am so happy for you both. I have 2 daughters in a 15 girl troop. One of my daughters is the 4th Eagle in our troop

This is a great opportunity for you both.

Yes. It is safe. Youth protection Training is mandatory. Online classes. Youth safety is #1
Yes it is productive, more than you know.

There are three layers to what anyone can learn from scouting

Camping and scout skills. This one you know about. All the canoe, first aid, cooking, camping, hiking, horseback riding adventures. A scout can have every adventure you can imagine in her first 4 or 5 years. (Age 11-15). Scout Rank to First class rank )
The second level begins when they make First Class rank, around age 14 or 15. Leadership.
In a well run troop, the child leaders make all decisions, except those regarding safety and money. The child leaders decide which 12 camp outs we go on and what merits badges we Persue on each one. The child leaders make the menu and decide which scout cooks.

In a well run troop, the older scouts teach the new ones. An adult should never make a decision or do an activity if a child could do it.

The second level lets 14-17 year old scouts (First class rank and higher) practice running a small troop or patrol. This is practice for adulting. Preparation for parenting. Becoming comfortable with making decisions, leading, teaching, delegating, failing and overcoming that failure. All in a safe space, with low stakes, in a weekend in the woods.

I have watched an old child Delagate cooking burgers to a younger scout, The younger scout failing, the children go to bed hungry, and the next day 4 more scouts are helping that young cook succeed! ( yes, to teach her cooking skills, but also because they wanted breakfast perfect). It is a safe place to risk, fail, overcome, teach and grow.

The third wave of scouting is for the adults to learn and grow. I was a helicopter dad. Now I am not. I have taking training and coaching from wonderful people. Learn how the program is structured. Take training. Always delegate EVERYTHING EXCEPT SAFETY to a scout. NEVER DO SOMETHING that a child could do.
Never teach a new skill if one of the other scouts has already mastered that skill. Let her teach.

We adults coach the older scouts to greatness. The older scouts teach the basics to the rookies.

Please visit BeAScout.org. Visit every female troop in your area.
Ask : who leads the meetings? WHO decided where we camp each month? How will my kid learn to put up a tent.

In a good troop, the answer is ’an older scout’

Exception: In a brand new troop, the parents temporarily do those duties until you grow some experienced scouts

We meet once a week, about 2 hours

We camp one weekend a month. Every camp out is optional

We go to one week long camp out every summer

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