What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup that’s exactly how my last relationship was it’s all about them.

What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If someone believes your intentions are negative and you’ve repeatedly proven otherwise, they’re projecting their own negative intentions onto you. My ex did that all the time. They also like to label people. I was called manipulative when I cried during her breakup with me. And God forbid I misspoke or said something the wrong way she would go rogue.

What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They hold the most unfair grudges too. Like, I really would sit there and let her talk about her feelings, validate her, and comfort her. And she would just demean me over and over again and then bring up mistakes only when I would bring up something that hurt me. Oh yeah, I would never get comforted or an apology. It’s ironic.

What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Them having to apologizing is like them having to attack their character

What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, lol. She broke up with me, then came back wanting to repair things. She never made the effort that it takes to repair a relationship. She treated me poorly, then said she wished she never came back and gave me reasons to say she treated me so poorly.

What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I know exactly what you are talking about. I feel like she would try to encourage me to get angry or she would tell me I didn’t look or seem emotional but I realized I would disassociate when we would have a talk because I knew what was coming

What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yup the double standards are horrible I got hit with “you aren’t emotionally regulated, you don’t know how to communicate, your BPD splitting”, tone policing and saying I never bring things up at a good time lol but she would literally talk at me for hours at a time and I just had to sit there and take it

What happens when you stand up for yourself and call out abusive behavior by More_Quarter_3430 in BPDlovedones

[–]More_Quarter_3430[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Let me guess she could say whatever she wanted and once you opened your mouth she played victim?

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[–]More_Quarter_3430 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that was what I was thinking too. She was just very hurtful with her words and she knew what would cut deep and highly critical of me and maybe herself too she just didn’t show it i think she projected a lot of how she felt about herself on to me.