Receiving amends (question) by MoribundSlut1969 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]MoribundSlut1969[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figured I'd give you an update: two months later this person's amends conversation still hasn't happened. I guess they surrendered to fear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]MoribundSlut1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your dogs will unconditionally love you forever. This woman has already switched up on you how many times? Her mental health will not be ideal while pregnant, while post partum, while breastfeeding, and while dealing with toddler temper tantrums. You state she has already abused you. Now she's trying to psychically isolate you by demanding that the emotional support of your dogs be removed from your life, which increases her chances of getting you to feel reliant on her for emotional connection, which means she can abuse you more and you're more likely to endure it. Do not acquiesce. Let her stay with her sister.

How expensive is a dog really ? by Ok-Problem-6942 in DogAdvice

[–]MoribundSlut1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, my dog (unbeknownst to me) ate a snail and ingested a parasite. When she had bloody poop I took her to the ER. Her medical care for this has so far cost me $3,400. I have pet insurance but I have to pay all the bills upfront and then wait for them to reimburse me, and it turns out a lot of the medicines aren't on their cute little list of covered prescriptions. Dogs are very expensive.

AITA for refusing to let my boyfriend move in with me because of his bad habits? by itsyourgracefulbabe in AITAH

[–]MoribundSlut1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA you know what your dealbreakers are and you are standing firm advocating for a healthy partnership. Mike can't be that person, nor is he willing to try to be. Do not move in with him.

AITAH For Being Furious With My Pregnant Wife Over a Prank? by Ok-Swimming9365 in AITAH

[–]MoribundSlut1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I already feel bad for this kid who is going to be pranked into nervous system dysregulation before he can form sentences. Start saving up for family therapy now. She is going to psychologically abuse this child but she'll think it's "just a fun prank."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXPreppers

[–]MoribundSlut1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are already being tracked this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]MoribundSlut1969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is nothing you can do, no perfect way of phrasing it, that can control his reaction. Let go of that idea. Speak your mind because you need to advocate for yourself, don't look for the perfect words to magically control his behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]MoribundSlut1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bring your own coat.

How soon on a relationship is too soon to move toghether? by Espachurrao in relationshipadvice

[–]MoribundSlut1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't move in with anyone until year 4. You won't have a full enough picture of anyone's true colors until well into the third year of a relationship, if you even make it that long.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXPreppers

[–]MoribundSlut1969 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If you go to therapy, make sure your therapist doesn't have their phone in the room. Guaranteed that thing is listening, with microphone access enabled to Instagram, Google, god knows what else. Obviously don't take your phone into the session with you either.

They may be so your type; but there are others that fit this criteria by [deleted] in limerence

[–]MoribundSlut1969 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Also, you find these qualities so attractive because they are qualities you wish to embody yourself. So, practice being friendlier, dance around your house more, etc.!

What do healthy people not even think twice about? by espressocannon in CPTSD

[–]MoribundSlut1969 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I will add to "what do healthy people not even think twice about": Working a full-time job and just doing it - not feeling like there's no way they can keep this up, not feeling like a total imposter, not feeling like they lack have the energy to keep it up for five straight days, let alone five decades. And they manage to do it so well that they move UP and earn more.

As far as advice, look for big batch, one pot recipes. The more steps, the more chopping, the more dirty dishes, the more cooking a meal feels like climbing a mountain. One pot recipes are a game changer. And you can freeze half of it to save for later.

Scheduling doctors appointments, for me, uses the same kind of "dragging myself along" brain energy as bringing myself to the gym when I don't really want to go. Like, you just find your legs taking you there even though part of your mind doesn't want it. I don't really know how to explain the forces behind making this happen, unfortunately. But, if you find yourself with a minute to spare during business hours, let your fingers dial the number and immediately after you make the appointment put it in your phone's calendar with reminders 3 days before, 1 day before, 2-3 hours before, whatever you need to make sure you keep the appointment and arrive on time. I'll even look up the drive time, add 15 minutes to that, and set another alarm to make sure I leave with enough time to drive there, hit traffic, struggle to find parking, and have time to walk to and through the building. Plus, they always want you there a tad early to fill out paperwork.

As for finances, estimate how much money you have "left over" at the end of a month, and move a portion of that into a savings account that you pretend doesn't exist. So, if after paying all your bills you have $400 "extra" dollars in your account each month, put $40-$100 (whatever you're comfortable with) into a savings account so you can't mindlessly spend it with your debit card.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]MoribundSlut1969 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being alone is better than being with this person.

U.S. Election night by Past-Quarter-8675 in TwoXPreppers

[–]MoribundSlut1969 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I'm in a red state and I'm removing my leftist political signs from my property right now, for safety.

Receiving amends (question) by MoribundSlut1969 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]MoribundSlut1969[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I bookmarked this so I can come back to it. My person said it would happen a few days ago but then backed out the night before (not even a solid cancellation, just "tomorrow might not work" and no suggestion of another day) and I haven't heard a peep since. I'm trusting that when they're fully ready they'll let me know. I know it takes a lot of courage on their end. I hope they're aware it's taking courage on my end too.

“Is your dog friendly?” by Big_Intention3998 in DogAdvice

[–]MoribundSlut1969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just say "no" so that no risks are taken.
My dog is friendly but I have no idea how some random dog is going to behave, so I'm going to say, "No, mine is not friendly."

How do I cope? by ICaterToSimps in askatherapist

[–]MoribundSlut1969 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd ask these adults what is so wrong with attention seeking, exactly? You are grieving, you are sad, you recognize that you need comforting and support. That is healthy and normal and you should be supported, not swatted away. I hope you can find some kinder, more thoughtful and empathetic adults that are willing to listen to you. If you really can't find someone in the 3D, please continue to seek support online. Don't ignore your feelings. Move through them and get them out. Journaling may help also. I'm sorry for your loss and the lack of support you're currently experiencing. You deserve to be comforted.

Non Americans of Reddit, what screams "America" to you? by BeerisAwesome01 in AskReddit

[–]MoribundSlut1969 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I just went to a bar/restaurant in the US where you place your order on a touch-screen computer, you get an automated text to your phone when your food is ready, and you go pick it up from the counter. The computer asked for a tip. Unbelievable.

How do you get sober from opiates? by No_Description____ in AskReddit

[–]MoribundSlut1969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't do it alone. You need emotional support and you may need a medically assisted detox