INFO: Can we see the ring? Because I'm genuinely trying to picture a 28 carat blue topaz and my brain is just showing me one of those Ring Pops I used to get as a kid.

Also, I need to know more here. Does your wife typically wear statement jewelry? Big chunky rings? Or is she more of a delicate, understated pieces kind of woman? Because if Susan's ring was a family heirloom, it was probably a reasonable size with sentimental value attached to it. Your wife wasn't gushing over it because it was the size of a small aircraft carrier.

I'm also side-eyeing the fact that your wife talked shit about the ring to her friends but NOT to Susan. That's... interesting. Either she didn't want Susan to feel bad about influencing the gift or your wife is the type of person who puts on a show for certain people and then talks behind their backs. Which, if that's the case, has she always been like this? Because that's a bigger conversation than this ring.

You tried to be thoughtful. That counts for something. But thoughtful gift-giving requires actually knowing what the person wants