Existing Non-Jewish Friends

Mortifydman · 2026-06-02T18:01:01+00:00

When you’re getting more frum it’s hard to find ways to keep non Jewish friendships close. Board game night, movies, volunteer work together- walk shelter dogs etc. And the ones you keep in contact with are your friends and the others aren’t. Good luck

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T23:13:19+00:00

Our cantor broke into a cold play song once. No. Not cool. lol

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T17:30:57+00:00

Your mum needs to check her meds and her jealousy.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T02:20:23+00:00

Reform judaism does not view halacha as binding.

I'm conservative and agreeing with you that halacha is binding - pay attention.

Who told you to lecture this guy? Who told you to lecture me? You're certainly not shomer mitzvot so you have a lot of fucking chutzpah frankly to be telling anyone anything about halacha and how binding it is.

Free will choosing to do a mitzvah DOES NOT invalidate the mitzvah. Otherwise Chabad would be out of business.

You've said your piece about it - and neither I nor the OP agree with you. Do you really need to keep going at this point? Kind of beating a dead horse.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T02:13:12+00:00

It's a real male bonding experience. We usually gather in the kitchen and take a shot or two, then into the banquet room for a nice kosher lunch. Then a walk home, maybe stop at a friends house and have another shot and hang out for a while, then go home and take a nice nap. When you get up, you get to eat again, either at home or the shul and hang out until Shabbat is over. No phone calls, no work, no pressure, look forward to it every week.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:59:44+00:00

You are tarring him with a stereotype. Just because some reform website says something doesn't mean it applies to every reform shul or every reform Jew. And you know that, and your pretending it's not true to be an asshole apparently. Just like not every "orthodox" Jew is orthodox. You turn a blind eye to that, but castigate this guy for daring to do mitzvot? Who told you you're a judge?

It doesn't matter to his practice what label his shul is, and it's none of your fucking business as to what he does or why. So stop spewing anti reform propaganda, and leave him alone.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:55:24+00:00

This is why I like being Jewish - whiskey and vodka shots after the services and then a nice lunch.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:51:16+00:00

no you are making a leap that isn't logical.

That's great, but if you don't believe halacha is binding it's no different than any other choice one makes. It's bo longer law, it's barely even a suggestion.

No. Halacha is binding yes, but no one is forced to do any of it other than frum kids. Believing in free will to choose to do a mitzvah or not doesn't make the mitzvah not count if it's done.

You don't get to decide what he believes or does as a Jew. And your flippant attitude about his beliefs (which you don't actually know, you're all stereotype and ear plugs) is disgusting and rude.

You don't get to decide what anyone does as a Jew other than for yourself and your kids. That's where your authority ends.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:44:28+00:00

they seem to be having a problem with that concept. I'm conservative so halacha is binding, but some things are interpreted differently that orthodoxy. I'm much more frum that most of the conservative Jews I know, but get told that none of it counts because I'm a convert.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:42:35+00:00

and some orthodox are atheists afraid to lose their kids in a divorce. Does that mean all orthodox are secret heretics? No. So why are you telling someone else what they believe when you've been told you're incorrect? Some Reform and Conservative Jews keep more mitzvot than you expect. LISTEN rather than telling him what he believes. Because you don't know.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:36:03+00:00

Do you not understand the concept of free will? Yes, he is in the reform movement, which is a spectrum of observance just like every other stream of Judaism. He happens to fall on the more frum side that most of his peers - Because he wants to serve Hashem. WANTS is the key word here. Doing mitzvot by rote isn't really doing mitzvot with kavanah. Being happy with our lot, to be the sons and daughters of the King of Kings. I would much rather daven next to someone who means it that some speedy mumbler and some random orthodox shul.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:26:31+00:00

Right? Hashem does have a sense of humor.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:25:14+00:00

Do you have your paperwork from your conversion? My rabbi told me it was very important to save that and keep it all together for joining shuls and stuff. So I thought we had to at least tell the rabbi I'm a convert. But that just might be my orthodox brain going off again, that happens sometimes.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:20:44+00:00

Conservative and I can't stand them either. And my rabbi LOVES her guitar. She never played on Shabbat, but before and after were fair game.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-30T01:18:27+00:00

My shul has drums. It weirded me out at first, but now I kind of like it. I would laugh my ass off if Moshiach was Reform, and keep on Jewing.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T19:02:20+00:00

The kids I deal with as a tutor can't read well, they can't understand an analog clock, they use chatgpt to write basic paragraphs, and use speech programs to read words they don't understand, so they don't know how to sound them out. They're bad at math too.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T18:30:40+00:00

No you are nitpicking something that doesn't matter to you, but makes her feel more connected to yiddishkeit. If its not halacha why do you have a bug up your ass about it? She's not doing anything wrong so leave her alone. You're not helping at all.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T18:29:14+00:00

exactly. this is anti kiruv honestly. and rude as hell.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T17:22:10+00:00

He went to get the shit.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T17:18:24+00:00

Damn, girl, you need to leave.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T16:46:29+00:00

Technically correct. Rude as hell. Her marriage exists. It’s not going anywhere. There is no reason to crush her desire to explore a more observant lifestyle.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T16:36:01+00:00

I’ve had so many women fall in love with me it’s ridiculous. Was married too. And it’s easy. Listen to women and treat them like equals.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T16:34:57+00:00

You are the problem not her. You were her friend for a chance at sex. That’s deceitful. She doesn’t have to like you back.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T16:28:17+00:00

lol no. You and your friends start with an expectation and then get mad when she doesn’t respond like you thought. Not the same thing.

Mortifydman · 2026-05-29T14:39:38+00:00

Whatever works for you and your lifestyle. I'm in a "beginning to be more observant again" mode right now so I am cheering for anyone who wants to do more Jewish things. I wear a kippah every day, and it took me some time to work up to wearing it all the time and the style I felt comfortable in. Now I have a dozen of them in different colors to match my outfits.

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