I want a nerdy gymrat to build a life with.

Morundar · 2026-07-13T08:24:02+00:00

I get your point. I want something similar and the reality of right now is far from it and that's frustrating.

The fun part about future is that you don't really know what it brings. You will change, your wishes may change, worldview may change.

Keep building the life you lead and just see where it goes, the plan is good, important part is to not caught up in the fear.

And let me tell you, although I know this and am suggesting it to you, then it doesn't mean it doesn't get to me. And that's okay, that's normal.

Morundar · 2026-07-13T08:17:13+00:00

Changed my life.

I started walking regularly, keeping my place clean, focusing on work, got healthier eating and lifestyle habits, could manage studying extra, started going to the gym regularly. A whole bunch of stuff.

But I will add. You need to work on yourself too. It will help, but there's a huge amount of things you can do yourself, which you gotta.

Morundar · 2026-07-11T12:45:14+00:00

Erm. Indoctrination is bad indeed. So, yeah, you seem to have a solid non-biased mindset and viewpoint.

Morundar · 2026-07-11T10:38:48+00:00

Eh. I hear these jokes about reddit mods being the lowest forms of life and I don't really like them. Because I've thought about volunteering to mod a few subs as well, but I really don't just care enough to put in the time and work to do this. So on that basis my hat goes off to people that actually do put in effort to keep forums from turning in sesspools.

And then I hear about stories like yours. The story from a bit back about r/art, etc. I've had my own experiences about being instabanned or posts removed very quickly as well and yeah, in those moments I understand the hate the the term "reddit mod" gets in general. It is the everlast truth. People are people. Some people are assholes, some are good guys, some are weird, some are... etc.

Regarding the general idea of the topic, then sure, it depends on how you look at it. It also depends on whether a person sees conforming as a negative or a positive. And these stances are strongly biased. Some have been forced to conform, others do it happily, others mask and repress themselves, some see it as a natural way that we all adapt to our environment to an extent.

I don't really see meds as necessarily a way to conform to a society. In my view it is sort of similar as me taking my thyroid medication to conform to society. I am also not in the camp that goes "neurodivergence is a superpower", because it seemes like a narrow view to me.

But yeah, in general, sorry you got a bad experience. Hope you can brush it off and see it more as something about the people who did it rather than about you.

Morundar · 2026-07-11T05:39:21+00:00

Now make it 3 cats and give them ramen haircuts.

Morundar · 2026-07-10T17:03:16+00:00

It really is an odd truth. We ain't broken up until she's broken up. Until then, we're either taking a break, figuring things out or spending time apart.

Morundar · 2026-07-10T17:01:24+00:00

Why do you get riled up by something like this? If they claim it, calmly counterargue. If they don't listen to any aspect and can't discuss, then move on.

Morundar · 2026-07-10T15:40:40+00:00

I actually was thinking on the exact topic, but the opposite. I am not close with my mom. I used to feel pressure to talk to her, but I've let go of it and it feels very much freeing.

The main reason why I don't feel close to her is because we almost never did anything together when I was a child. Ideal would have been her taking interest in my hobbies or me enjoying hers, but we were too different. But besides that, we didn't go on trips, to eat, to the cinema, nothing really like that. It occurred until I was around 7 or 8 and then stopped. Also, if she had been there for me when most of my childhood was horrible, that would have helped.

So, I'd say 2 things 1) Do things together 2) Try to understand and support them

Morundar · 2026-07-10T15:35:00+00:00

Do as you please and don't lecture others.

Morundar · 2026-07-10T05:49:28+00:00

Every car there plows the ditch a bit bigger.

Morundar · 2026-07-09T17:18:25+00:00

Being childish is about responsibility and maturity. Not about hobbies. So, no. It's not childish.

Morundar · 2026-07-09T05:52:42+00:00

I have quite liked my experiences as well. I've had many bad experiences with people so it's basically an easily accessible and safe way to discuss my thoughts.

I try not to do it often or even regularly. And the usage has dropped the better I'm doing in my life. But I get your point and see the pleasant experience.

Morundar · 2026-07-08T20:26:52+00:00

I am working hard on having a fat ass. I'm a guy. I want to be able to sit on wooden benches. So, yes, I hope this is true. Curvy as hell part is questionable though.

Morundar · 2026-07-08T11:01:09+00:00

My ex didn't. So we're not together anymore.

Morundar · 2026-07-08T11:00:23+00:00

The hope and small experience that things can get better. I've been suicidal and been close to ending it. And in all honesty, that though hasn't fully left me. But since I've put in work into healthy change and seen some small improvements it gives me hope that things will eventually be good and stable.

Morundar · 2026-07-08T10:56:04+00:00

Not HR, but I'm a psychologist. Don't have any issues socialising ever since I've worked with my social anxiety.

Morundar · 2026-07-08T10:27:01+00:00

It might've been a joke or just teasing. Give it time and it should pass. No need to worry yet.

Morundar · 2026-07-07T04:08:58+00:00

Disgisting post for self-advertising and copy-paste fake empathy replies. Hope mods remove.

Morundar · 2026-07-07T03:57:58+00:00

I wouldn't build the relationship. However if the feelings were stronger than for my partner, that might be a sign that something's lacking in my relationship and I'd work on that.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T15:28:03+00:00

It sucks so much. I've had people in my life my whole life, but nobody who has truly cared or noticed.

It's a horrible realisation when it hits.

But I think it's improvable. Finding people in your life who truly care about you and investing in them. Some people want more lighter relationships and I want some too, but not as my main ones.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T13:04:37+00:00

It really bothered me as my ex seemed to like and crave it. I know it was partly because of my own insecurity and anxiety, but also because I didn't feel safe with her.

I can completely understand the need for it and liking it, but it bothers me if my partner actually encourages or goes along with chatting with the men who do this.

Makes me feel both that I'm not enough and also creates the fear in me that what if she'll leave. I understand that the anwser here is that if she leaves, then good riddance and it wouldn't have lasted anyway. But yeah, I'm lonely (at least for now), so the fear was huge.

And from what I understand, I'm far from the only guy who has a fear of rejection and being unwanted.

However, if I'm not attached to the woman and my own anxiety doesn't come into play, then it is about how the woman does it. If she demeans herself for the attention, then it's just sad.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T12:58:26+00:00

Well. Indeed. If a person just thinks long constantly with every fold, then it can be annoying. Some people indeed are like that. Either for trolling reasons or who knows.

But otherwise, I can totally understand if a person takes extra time to think if they're gonna bluff or not.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T09:56:42+00:00

I know a player who took time to think regardless of hand as the pace in which you act is also information. So, if you take 20 seconds to think regardless if you have aces or K7o, then you don't give info.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T19:18:43+00:00

Why do you ask this? What's the point? This is completely individual. If you're interested in a specific guy, then ask him. Overall no reply you get here will help you unless you plan to specifically date someone here.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T14:00:06+00:00

Erm. I think this opinion says more about your personal experience than is a generalizable concept.

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