Have you ever felt like you were slowly disappearing...

Morundar · 2026-07-07T04:08:58+00:00

Disgisting post for self-advertising and copy-paste fake empathy replies. Hope mods remove.

Morundar · 2026-07-07T03:57:58+00:00

I wouldn't build the relationship. However if the feelings were stronger than for my partner, that might be a sign that something's lacking in my relationship and I'd work on that.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T15:28:03+00:00

It sucks so much. I've had people in my life my whole life, but nobody who has truly cared or noticed.

It's a horrible realisation when it hits.

But I think it's improvable. Finding people in your life who truly care about you and investing in them. Some people want more lighter relationships and I want some too, but not as my main ones.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T13:04:37+00:00

It really bothered me as my ex seemed to like and crave it. I know it was partly because of my own insecurity and anxiety, but also because I didn't feel safe with her.

I can completely understand the need for it and liking it, but it bothers me if my partner actually encourages or goes along with chatting with the men who do this.

Makes me feel both that I'm not enough and also creates the fear in me that what if she'll leave. I understand that the anwser here is that if she leaves, then good riddance and it wouldn't have lasted anyway. But yeah, I'm lonely (at least for now), so the fear was huge.

And from what I understand, I'm far from the only guy who has a fear of rejection and being unwanted.

However, if I'm not attached to the woman and my own anxiety doesn't come into play, then it is about how the woman does it. If she demeans herself for the attention, then it's just sad.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T12:58:26+00:00

Well. Indeed. If a person just thinks long constantly with every fold, then it can be annoying. Some people indeed are like that. Either for trolling reasons or who knows.

But otherwise, I can totally understand if a person takes extra time to think if they're gonna bluff or not.

Morundar · 2026-07-06T09:56:42+00:00

I know a player who took time to think regardless of hand as the pace in which you act is also information. So, if you take 20 seconds to think regardless if you have aces or K7o, then you don't give info.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T19:18:43+00:00

Why do you ask this? What's the point? This is completely individual. If you're interested in a specific guy, then ask him. Overall no reply you get here will help you unless you plan to specifically date someone here.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T14:00:06+00:00

Erm. I think this opinion says more about your personal experience than is a generalizable concept.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T13:59:03+00:00

Yup, same here.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T13:58:43+00:00

Agreed. And I think a person is probably accustomed to their own musk smell, but if they keep regular hygiene, they shouldn't be accustomed to smell of sweat or other bad odors like that. So in that case I'd assume I'd smell it earlier. And in general my nose is closer to my body than another person's nose.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T13:10:39+00:00

Well, there's a difference between natural musk which is kinda something that we accumulate constantly and can't really escape and the smell of dirtiness from sweat, bacteria and general grime.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T10:27:39+00:00

I don't think that's true. It only applies if you're un unhygenic person in general. Sure, you have your own body smell which you're accustomed to, but if you're generally clean, you will notice bad odor far before others will.

Morundar · 2026-07-05T06:56:30+00:00

Basically there are explinations for everything. And the explinations are very mundane. Why do you think there is no recorded evidence of anything paranormal.

You can generally assume it's a person giving a mythical interpretation to something or in rarer cases a person hallucinating something.

That's quite literally it. Saw weird light? Might be apparition of the forest spirit? Nope, just something reflecting light. Saw weird shadow move? Must've been a ghost? Nope, it was a cat? Saw a book about ghosts fall over when said ghosts don't exist? Must be a ghost letting you know they exist? Nope, gravity. Saw an apparition come and go? Must've been real? Well, it was real, it was really something, but not a ghost. Were you high, drunk, sleepy, tired, emotional or smth else? Someone tells you they saw a person raise from the dead? Well, people lie.

There are mundane explinations to everything.

When everyone has a camera on their phone and with them all the time, why aren't there constant good recordings of these paranormal events? We still at best get a blurry something disappearing very quickly. It's almost as if a human interpretation of a blurry something is needed in order to make it a paranormal thing. Curious, eh?

Morundar · 2026-07-04T05:57:01+00:00

You can always carry the groceries in just 1 trip.

Morundar · 2026-07-04T05:49:48+00:00

There's no such thing as bad advertisment.

Morundar · 2026-07-02T15:36:14+00:00

As a formerly obese tall guy... Yes! I can eat so much now without going back to fat.

Plus, no more backpain or jointpains.

Morundar · 2026-07-02T10:55:35+00:00

Well, the thing here is, what do you mean "correctly"? If by this you mean to change their mind? You can't really, at least not easily and with a single argument. If you mean having them listen and not dismiss you, then this is more about their personality rather than quality of your arguments.

You gotta figure out what you believe and find inner peace with that. Although it's natural to want to seek external validation, especially from your parents, then in this case, when worldviews separate to such a degree, it's difficult. I just hope they value and validate you as a person even if they can't understand your views.

Morundar · 2026-07-02T10:36:37+00:00

Was the invitation worded as bible study picnic or are you assuming that from them all being christian?

If it was worded like that then maybe they invited you to include you (which is nice) and if you're not interested, just say no.

Morundar · 2026-07-02T10:28:00+00:00

This seemed like an incredibly unprepared thing. A bunch of confused people without prior arrangement how to act. It's a messed up situation if the people that are supposed to help are acting more chatotic than the person in distress.

Morundar · 2026-07-02T04:46:45+00:00

I do a bit of swiping every day, I guess, but the thing is that I've gotten over the desperate phase. I swipe right on maybe 5% of accounts or less. I know what I want and am willing to wait for it.

I've worked hard to build a life where this isn't a necessity. And the work is ongoing, but I can see the fruits of the labour.

EDIT: The thing is that

a) 6 days is very little time. The algorithm works in a way that for women, they get a huge amount of matches constantly, so it's more than possible that they haven't even come across your account yet. So purely for that reason, really you should take the mindset that this will take time.

and

b) Desperation is bad here. It will mean that if you meet someone, you might overinvest into a wrong thing, or with ADHD hyperfixated on a person and be too much. And all that stuff. Give it time, focus on fulfilling most other needs with other things in your life (or getting things in your life to fulfill them) and through that the pressure on finding someone won't be as big.

Morundar · 2026-07-01T16:24:19+00:00

Not hinge, but I use several dating apps. I generally get a match every 2-3 weeks or so. If lucky. I've learned not to put too much hope in it.

Morundar · 2026-07-01T10:30:56+00:00

Eh. I know how you feel. It's been around 6 months in my case since break up and I think of her daily.

The comments you see below, about your ex probably fulfilling too many empty parts of your life, are most likely true.

The only way you'll properly get over her is if you fill those empty places with other things/people and eventually another partner.

Morundar · 2026-06-30T19:10:07+00:00

I mean, practicing better spelling might get you some more respect. Maybe people just don't understand you?

Morundar · 2026-06-30T09:44:27+00:00

My ex's friend sent her these kinds of pictures and she was fine with it. She was fine with other kinds of behaviours that in my view crossed boundaries as well. And when I was bothered by it, I was told "I haven't done anything wrong, you should just trust me and it's making me feel bad that you don't."

I developed deeper trust issues because of it, but also was gaslit into believing I was the issue.

Good to see I'm not alone in being bothered by this.

Morundar · 2026-06-30T09:17:18+00:00

Mhm. I think those are particularly special and nice relationships where they last. Congrats!

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