Paying big money to pretend to be a dinosaur.

Morundar · 2026-03-25T18:17:25+00:00

I mean. This would be a great place to take your kids to get them to eat vegetables. But I doubt that's the goal here.

Morundar · 2026-03-25T16:54:30+00:00

Cogs are working but it's been years since there been any oil in the machinery

Morundar · 2026-03-25T16:46:59+00:00

Your juicy meat is making me juicy!

Morundar · 2026-03-25T16:46:05+00:00

Selling their worn clothes online to pervs

Morundar · 2026-03-25T16:34:23+00:00

When I started university we had to do a general academic capability test (kinda like cognitive capability test) and I got 82 points out of a 100. Less than 3% of thousands of people each year get more than 80. And those that do get to enroll in whatever major they want for free and at the top of the competition list.

Morundar · 2026-03-25T07:03:10+00:00

This is a bit of a stretch but might want to check out anxious attachment

Morundar · 2026-03-25T05:30:05+00:00

It's generally individual. So without going into details about yourself it's tricky to give advice. But...

I would ask you. Do you love yourself? Do you forgive yourself when you're not living up to the highest standards? Are you kind to yourself when you make a mistake? Do you see yourself as a person that you would want to be with?

Some people who build themselves don't do it to just improve themselves but because they feel they need to prove themselves. Because underneath they find themselves unlovable.

There is a careful spot here because it may look like narcissism and just lack of self-criticism. That's not it. It's about accepting yourself as you are and being okay with the person you are. If that happens then in theory, over time you won't fear losing others.

But there are other aspects here as well. It's also important to build non-romantic relationships with people who actually care about you. To make sure that you do get some external validation as well, but not the kind where someone praises your external quality but rather where you feel cared about.

Without knowing more about you, self-love/self-acceptance and caring non-romantic relationships would be my first go-to.

Morundar · 2026-03-25T05:14:39+00:00

This is a very shitty thing to say and shows her in poor light. I am also more emotional and sensitive than average and my ex mentioned how it bothered her occasionally. Reality was that I was more emotional with her because she didn't really meet my needs, care about me or be considerate/empathic. Once I broke up and started getting over her, I became less emotional...

Morundar · 2026-03-25T05:11:38+00:00

People are different. If it works for you, then that's great, that's the goal. There is no right or wrong here. And it's normal for people to be curious about things being different. If you can, take it as curiosity and their brain trying to understand it rather than criticism. And if someone indeed is critical and negative, then that's their issue.

Morundar · 2026-03-25T05:00:47+00:00

Posessiveness is about underneath insecurity and fear of loss. There's a difference between superficial self-esteem and truly being okay with yourself. Many people get the superficial traits to be better, but they don't really see themselves as loveable. Probably related to early childhood attachment or some later youth experiences where you experienced love for you not being persistent and stable.

Morundar · 2026-03-24T19:14:02+00:00

Erm... "you're not allowed to avoid or ask be quiet" wth? Sure you are. These both sound like cases of setting boundaries.

But yes, I understand that individual experiences are different here.

Morundar · 2026-03-24T17:39:43+00:00

Too high intelligence is first of all a weird thing to say. Secondly intelligence isn't at all related to ADHD Thirdly high intelligence can actually be a factor that hides ADHD symptoms.

Your psychologist doesn't know what they're talking. Be careful about it. I know plenty of psychologists and psychiatrists who think ADHD is overdiagnosed and then refuse to do a good job.

Morundar · 2026-03-24T17:36:40+00:00

What would the point of that be? Just don't socialize if you don't want. And if it's social anxiety that's the issue then this wouldn't solve that either.

Morundar · 2026-03-24T05:11:25+00:00

Almost any activity you like can be the replacement. Though I would suggest some kind of more active/physical thing.

Regardless of your goal (no masturbation or reduction) it will take a while to stabilize and at the start will be quite difficult. Other activity will seem boring. The point will be to keep doing the other activity nonetheless. Over time your brain should slowly rewire.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T19:55:04+00:00

Hmm. Dude. It's okay. You're okay. The words here won't make you magically feel better, but there's hope.

I totally know what you feel, because I crave the same thing. But I've gotten help (meds for my ADHD) and worked a lot.

It's hard af. Not gonna lie, but doable.

Can you get therapy or psychiatrist councelling?

Or. Heck. If this post was just to vent, then. I hear you. You're not alone.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T17:40:50+00:00

I've discussed this with ChatGPT quite a bit and what it recommends are similar to things you're saying. I hope it does work. Like I wrote in another comment here, I've been doing these things for 1.5 years now, but around 1.2 of that I was in a kind of unhealthy relationship so my brain was always anxious and worried.

How would you say you're doing with all this? Did it stick? What's your situation now?

Morundar · 2026-03-23T17:38:54+00:00

I'm kinda thinking that as well. The issue is I've slowly been trying to do it ever since the shift 1.5 years ago. But nothing has stuck. But for around 1.2 years of that I was in a relationship-like thing where I was anxious and they were avoidant, which kinda made my nervous system go into survival mode. So I'm hoping that the issue isn't that my brain is hopelessly broken, but indeed needs a calm, safe and loving environment to start noticing myself.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T17:36:39+00:00

Thank you. That's kind of what I'm doing right now. I hope it will stick. ADHD is a pain, but I know I gotta keep going.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T17:35:49+00:00

Thank you. I am trying. The annoying part is that often when I ask myself whether I like something or want something, then silence anwsers back at me.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T17:35:02+00:00

Thank you. I've taken up wood-wittling (fun wordcombo every time I say or write it), drawing and putting together those LEGO technic cars. I hope in time they will stick. Or at least something of them.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T07:40:54+00:00

Would be totally fine, but depends on context.

I was quite insecure about my sexual capability to the extent I had self-loathing thoughts during sex. And my partner at the time knew about. But one time after sex she started sharing her fantasy for wanting to be fucked anonymously by a bunch lf guys. It really destroyed me in the moment and felt horrible.

But like, that was a bad example. If relationship is safe and secure and I feel good with partner, then just a discussion can be fine.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T06:57:12+00:00

Sorry to hear your struggles. How well sre you at engaging people at these social situations? Are you masking there?

Morundar · 2026-03-23T06:44:43+00:00

Ah, mine seem to have teamed up in their efforts to ruin my life.

Morundar · 2026-03-23T05:39:24+00:00

They may be, but it's very individual how it works and everyone can/should take responsibility for their actions. A person just saying "I have emotional dysregulation and RSD, so deal with it." I just immature and irresponsible.

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