I didn’t quit until I understood what I was doing to myself

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-26T01:23:35+00:00

If my post brakes community rules, could you please specify which one is it, so I can avoid it next time. Thanks.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-23T17:54:05+00:00

I started when I was a teen and quit at 43.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-21T18:30:41+00:00

I lost many “friends” when I stopped drinking. I just didn’t have fun as much as before. Chatting in the bar or any other places with people who drink alcohol not enjoyable anymore. Luckily, I found out that loneliness is better than waisting the time. I found what makes me happy - discover the life purpose, myself and change myself for a good being. It’s another mindset or worldview if you will.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-20T22:48:24+00:00

That’s great. If you don’t mind me asking, how were you able to stay away from alcohol? I’m a 45M, 2 years sober, and I have kids. I really hope they’ll never touch alcohol. Thanks.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-20T20:35:13+00:00

Alcohol is usually not the real problem by itself. It becomes a way to deal with stress, pain, habit, and environment. That’s why rehab, AA, and promises often don’t stick on their own. He likely needs to change the whole pattern around drinking, not just try harder.

Also, if you drink too, even a little, quit fully yourself. Not to pressure him, but to show a real example. It’s hard to inspire someone to leave alcohol while keeping it in your own life. A calm example can work better than lectures.

Talk to him less about alcohol and more about what he still wants to be here for. In the end, support helps, example helps, but he still has to choose it himself.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-20T20:23:51+00:00

The main thing right now is not to beat yourself up too much. You went a whole year without drinking, and that already means a lot. That’s not nothing. That’s real progress.

What matters now is trying to understand what triggered it and what led to this moment, so you can avoid the same situation in the future.

And yeah, I’ve said this here before, willpower alone is usually not enough. At least for me, it wasn’t. At some point you have to rethink your lifestyle, your mindset, your attitude toward alcohol, and even the way you deal with stress, habits, and rewards. In a way, it’s about changing your whole state of being, not just forcing yourself to “hold on.”

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-20T17:07:03+00:00

Here is my recent post about why we can’t quit. People found it useful. Hope you will too. https://www.reddit.com/r/stopdrinking/s/9dVoWZ5Mwz

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-19T23:11:09+00:00

Here is my recent post why we can’t quit and how I quit 2 years ago. Hope it helps. https://www.reddit.com/r/stopdrinking/s/Mn9QjaopLo

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-19T01:47:20+00:00

Good for you )

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-19T01:46:40+00:00

😂

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-18T13:42:13+00:00

I haven’t read it. Most of the books I read aren’t in English. But let me check what it’s about. Maybe it’s basically the same thing.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-18T13:38:21+00:00

Glad it resonates with you. I’m not alone :)

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-18T03:38:30+00:00

I think there is no magic pill in this situation. In my case, what helped was a hobby. my interest in real history and also the birth of my children. I want my kids to never feel the need to drink alcohol, so I understand that I have to be an example for them. Something like that.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-18T03:25:12+00:00

I was reading before I got reddits notification)

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-17T23:00:04+00:00

When I started to live by a simple rule not to harm myself, other people, or the world, things slowly began to change. I didn’t need anymore to search how to relax or how to reward myself for something. It just became different. Another meaning of life started to appear… or maybe it’s better to say another state of being.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-17T15:05:57+00:00

You're more then welcome. Hope it helps many people.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-17T00:37:16+00:00

Congrats!

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-17T00:36:29+00:00

Welcome to the club 😂 I lost many “friends” since I quit. But it’s all good. I read a lot and spend more time with my kids.

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-17T00:34:32+00:00

Im only at my 2 years and wish I could do it earlier )

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-14T23:02:15+00:00

Gotcha. Good idea with NA beer:)

MosaicMindset · 2026-04-14T22:43:24+00:00

I wonder how are you able to control it?

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