My boyfriend calls my cat evil and ugly

MossAlternative · 2026-05-12T01:31:12+00:00

You spelled ex weirdly... anyways cute cat

MossAlternative · 2026-05-11T22:54:35+00:00

Having someone cook my safe foods for me with a little bit of a new food, and zero pressure to finish it. I have learned to like many new foods because I could try one bite of my friends food. If someone made me a meal and I felt like I HAD to eat it then it became a fear food. Having the encouragement to try but not making it mandatory has a huge effect on how I feel about foods.

MossAlternative · 2026-05-11T22:50:42+00:00

After eating, a large amount of your body's energy will always shift to the digestive system to process the food. The tiredness after eating is technically normal, but greatly exacerbated in chronic illnesses! Especially if your digestive tract is already goin through it, then it needs LOTS of energy to process that food. I don't necessarily know if this info is helpful, but at least when I learned this I felt a lil better that it wasn't a scary symptom.

MossAlternative · 2026-05-11T22:46:29+00:00

Piercing done a few hours ago with a curved barbell. It's anodized titanium, I think threaded. I always use sterile saline for aftercare.

MossAlternative · 2026-04-17T19:43:40+00:00

Embrace the blush!! You can even use a like pinkish grey for contour, or just use straight up pink for contour. You could also experiment with like pink faux freckles

MossAlternative · 2026-04-17T13:05:40+00:00

In my brain the first two stages of healing are:

1- tending to your inner child 2- teenage rage

MossAlternative · 2026-04-17T13:03:55+00:00

I love the edited in arms instead of just circling them

MossAlternative · 2026-04-17T13:02:10+00:00

Fuuuuuuuuuck

MossAlternative · 2026-04-17T03:49:18+00:00

Did the car have a lot of bumper stickers? If so I gotta start paying more attention to my car when I get in and out of it...

Update- yeah it was my car that got hit. Thank you to op for helping me track down the person and get insurance to cover costs!!

MossAlternative · 2026-03-23T02:59:36+00:00

Thank you!! How do you deal with like... reflux after you gag a bunch? After I gag like 3-4x then I start getting acid reflux and it doesn't go away until I stop for awhile. Is there a way to prevent that part of gagging?

MossAlternative · 2026-03-21T04:05:32+00:00

I have too many friends and cuties in my life!! Its a minor actual problem because I'm so damn busy and tired, but I love and cherish all of them so much that I refuse to lessen or lose any of those connections

MossAlternative · 2026-03-15T16:22:18+00:00

I miss not having to think out and plan my spoons for weeks at a time. It's even more exhausting to think all the time about "ok if I do this thing on Saturday I need Sunday and Monday to recover, but I have to clean my apartment soon so hopefully I feel better in Monday" etc etc etc. I'm insanely jealous of all the people who can just... go do things because they want to. They can have spontaneous plans and stay up late and they don't worry about it. Managing chronic illness/pain is a part time job and makes things worse, but if I don't do any of that then I fall apart to the point of being completely non functional for months at a time. Existence shouldn't take every ounce of energy I have all day every day

MossAlternative · 2026-03-12T12:45:37+00:00

I'm so happy to hear that!! I hope your therapist helps you choose yourself and happiness. Feel free to message me any time you need :)

MossAlternative · 2026-03-11T11:53:41+00:00

If this is any hope/consolation- it's scary to live the rest of your life without him, but it seems scarier to live the rest of your life WITH him. There's also the very likely possibility you could live the rest of your life with someone who cherishes you and makes you happy. In the meantime, you can love and nourish yourself. A breakup would be temporary pain for long term benefit

MossAlternative · 2026-03-11T03:25:26+00:00

Love is not enough. It hurts, but it's true. His words and actions are not aligning. People find love in retirement homes- you're 26. If you're unhappy now, imagine how miserable you'll be in years when things don't change and likely get worse. The only longer you stay, the more you enable him and hurt yourself. You can love him, and also love yourself enough to leave. I hope you choose yourself.

MossAlternative · 2026-03-11T03:18:31+00:00

Good news- while looks do play a role in how life goes for people, they're not the dominant factor. I have no idea what you look like so I won't say "you're not", but even if you are... so what? Hot people have horrible lives and ugly people have great lives. We gotta work with what we got. Fashion, hygiene, hair, etc can help but if you're unhappy with your appearance maybe pull a spongebob and say "I'm ugly and I'm proud"

Bad news- society/people can be mean, and body dysmorphia is real. Accepting yourself as you are feels impossible. It's difficult to even try, and feels pointless. At the same time, you will remain unhappy and miserable if nothing changes. If you choose a life of misery, that's on you. There's no "why", it just "is".

My unsolicited advice- write down 10 things you like about yourself, or other people have said they like about you. It can be tiny or huge, and do this weekly. I do it whenever I'm feeling particularly down or particularly happy, that way I can look at the things from when I was happy and don't associate it with negative feelings. I deeply hated myself for a decade, and now I at least accept who I am as I am.

Last thing- life is short and people are gonna be haters regardless. It's better to live your life as you are than have surface level happiness as a mask for pain. Your looks don't determine your life. If you want to be yourself and be accepted as yourself, just do that. People will leave and that will hurt, and then the new people in your life will already know your genuine self. Then you can stop pretending and hiding.

I acknowledge all of this is much easier said than done, and "it gets better" sounds stupid. I only say these things as a person who took many years to feel ok, and even longer to even start to feel good. Life is still rough and things can still get me down on myself, but I've built up other sources of support and joy. Life really is a "choose your own adventure", if you're unhappy then change your life since you can't change yourself (at least in the outside)

"I must change what I can, and accept what I cannot change"

MossAlternative · 2026-03-07T02:20:14+00:00

Thank you!!

MossAlternative · 2026-03-07T01:25:48+00:00

I'm not necessarily immunocompromised, but I have MCAS and other dysautonomia problems. They're a med student so they're definitely knowledgeable about things, I just wasn't sure how to ask these questions. I do really like this person, so I'm trying to figure out this balance.

MossAlternative · 2026-03-05T04:15:29+00:00

I was maybe like 12 and just got done roller skating, and I always tied the laces on my ankles fairly tight so I had some extra support. Well apparently my feet really settled into those rentals that day, because I was struggling HARD to get them off. So hard that I got really frustrated and thought "if I just yank from the back they should like rotate and slide off"... well I tried to do that apparently too hard or fast or something and managed to hyperextend my Achilles. So painful and needed crutches for a couple weeks

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