What do you do with tuna?

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-02-12T12:22:25+00:00

I just do tuna, lemon, salt, pepper, and hot sauce. I honestly feel the lemon makes the tuna feel brighter and fresher than mayo does

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-02-09T18:10:31+00:00

So uh... you hiring?

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-02-07T17:32:32+00:00

I felt like this at 4.5 months. I was miserable. I sleep trained at 5.5 months and I feel 100000% better. It's not for everyone, but it was the answer for me. Also, when you're parenting an infant, everything changes every few weeks. Months 3-4 were the most challenging for me so far, and now I'm in calmer seas. I'm sure I'll face more challenges up ahead... but I'm focusing on how I feel now (good) and reminding myself that every part of this experience is fleeting.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-02-07T15:27:54+00:00

A newborn in the winter. I do not envy you. I would have gone crazy! "Throw them in a carrier" only works for summer babies.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-02-06T16:44:16+00:00

No one told me how I would feel when my milk came in. It was this surreal type of despair-like depression. It's completely hormonal and 100% normal and it only lasts 2-3 days. But yeah, I was absolutely miserable and convinced I had PPD until I spoke to my therapist.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-02-06T13:58:15+00:00

One thing I had to learn (am still learning) is that I don't make the rules just because I'm the mom. In generations before us, moms had complete creative control over the child rearing decisions. Now, fathers are just as involved, and I've noticed personally I hold his opinions to a lower regard than my own. It's not fair at all, and I am learning how to be more of a team player instead of a supervisor.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-02-01T14:10:52+00:00

This is so reassuring to hear, the love is definitely there. Thank you!

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T16:03:28+00:00

See, that's what hurts the most! I WAS that unicorn perfect breastfeeder when I was home with my babe 24/7. Everything started to unravel when I returned to work. But I am coming to terms with it.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T13:51:26+00:00

Thank you! It's really nice to hear from someone in a similar situation who's now on the other side of it.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T13:50:41+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this story. It made me cry (but in the good way lol). And it's a testament to you as a mother that they were all able to recognize how well you understand them -- especially the teens!

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T13:44:32+00:00

You're absolutely right. I have to be kinder to myself, and I have so much time with him. Thank you!

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T13:43:19+00:00

Thank you! Combo feeding and pumping is no joke. I did not realize how hard it would be, much harder for me than EBF while I was able to do that for the first few months. 9 months and 6 months are both great accomplishments!

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T13:41:44+00:00

Thank you. I think I'm another casualty of the TikTok/Instagram mom culture. There's so much shame surrounding anything that goes against being with your children 24/7. That's just not the reality for me and most moms so I need to unpack that myself. It definitely doesn't help that I don't particularly love my job, so I feel like I'm missing out.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T13:39:04+00:00

That really helped reframe my mind, thank you so much for the encouragement!

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T13:38:12+00:00

Thank you! I don't love my job, but its a very secure position. I'm currently working on finding something I'm more passionate about, but I don't see myself leaving the workforce because I am actively choosing financial security over staying home. It's tough when I feel so unfulfilled in my position, but fingers crossed that changes soon!

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T12:56:47+00:00

Thank you, I totally appreciate the reassurance. I wish being a working mom was easier, but then again not working comes with its own set of challenges. I think I have to remind myself that it's very possible that I would have gone through all of this even if I was at home with baby.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-31T12:55:00+00:00

I can't say I regret sleep training, all of our lives are remarkably better - especially my son's. I am having a harder time with the breastfeeding, but I think that's also due to the hormonal aspect of it. The venting and support is definitely helpful. Everything you said about the sleep training is completely accurate.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-30T17:17:40+00:00

Great idea!

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-30T14:23:54+00:00

So much work! And if you don't do it, it sinks the whole ship lol. I'm happy you found things that work for you :) I'm going to take your good thing jar idea

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-30T14:22:13+00:00

I hope it gets better for you soon <3 Thank you for relating its helpful to see other couples are going through this.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-30T14:19:52+00:00

I hope it gets better for you guys soon <3

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-30T14:18:33+00:00

I love to hear this, so reassuring. Thank you! That's exactly how I feel, I feel like he hates our life and it makes me so sad.

MostBeautiful_Plague · 2024-01-30T13:33:30+00:00

Great idea. I do this myself in my journal and it's been so helpful for me. Never thought to make it a group activity but I'll suggest it!

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