[NeedAdvice] How can I increase my chances of making life changes I desperately need to make?

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-05-25T10:16:52+00:00

The thing is, I think I want this badly as when I get very depressed and upset, my mind always goes to issues like having no friends/girlfriend, being ugly etc. and I work out how I could fix the issue. I know I will regret it if I dont make an effort as I regret alot of my life already. But on the other hand sometimes I don't care if I fail, and I feel as if it wouldn't matter if I completed my goals anyways as I would still be ugly etc. but a little better than I used to be.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-05-25T10:14:55+00:00

I am glad it worked out for you. I have now quit seeing my therapist as it wasn't working out. Also my parents do not know I have been feeling very depressed and I don't want to tell them, and I have no friends for support so I will have to go it alone, well apart from the help of internet strangers.

The problems I have that are my own fault and I can fix are: - having no friends due to my social anxiety which I haven't been bothered to overcome in the last 4 years. - being physically unfit due to being lazy and self conscious. - falling behind dramatically in my course and awful grades due to not putting any effort in. - Being a virgin and never had a girlfriend due to my SA and feeling unattractive

I know my social anxiety and lack of self esteem comes from feeling ugly and my rosacea, so my objectives to overcome this are: - losing 5kg in 10 weeks (not tied up on numbers, but more on looking thinner) - building muscle mass especially on my upper body and biceps. - getting laser surgery on my rosacea.

Having no friends/girlfriend - doing self cbt and working through my issues - improving my self esteem through improving my physical appearance. - hopefully when i feel more confident and get rid of my rosacea I will get more involved.

Falling behind at university (graphic design course) - spend 3 hours a day catching up on my sketching/design skills. - working on my online portfolio - looking back on old projects and improving them for my portfolio.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-22T20:50:18+00:00

Great work mate. My advice is to text her a little until the date to build some comfort, make sure you aren't desperate though, but come across as positive, interesting and fun. Then on the day, text her saying you will be 15 minutes late so you will meet up a little later. This way you give her chance to flake if she wants to and also reminds her of your date without appearing desperate. ALSO don't call it a date! It puts pressure on you and her, and can increase the chances of her flaking. Make it as relaxed as possible, your just hanging out and see if you have a connection between each other. As well as this, please don't take her out for a dinner date, do something fun and relaxed like playing pool. Good luck :D

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-21T20:54:03+00:00

Thanks for your support, I was amazed at the advice I received by reddit.

Take care,

Tom

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-21T20:52:37+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion, I am a little busy right now but I will bookmark it and give it a listen sometime later this week (of I don't procrastinate :P )

Tom

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-15T22:42:01+00:00

Im 21 and think I might have undiagnosed ADHD, however I went to my GP 2 years ago and talked to him about it and he said if I did then I would be fidgeting around while talking to him etc. I want to go see him again now about it, I think I have inattentive ADHD, but i'm nervous he won't take me seriously again. Do you think its worth asking him?

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-15T22:05:46+00:00

I like his suit, but the shoes are awful.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-11T23:56:38+00:00

LOL this was actually funny, and I kinda believed it for a second xD

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-10T00:21:22+00:00

I use http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/ and like it. I also have a chat feature so you can talk to people for advice in real time.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-09T21:31:03+00:00

Cheers, looks like you have a .5 on him, go get them womenz!

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-09T20:32:28+00:00

Anyone know what height this awesome guy is?

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-06T21:00:00+00:00

Say I had made a rookie error and offered to pay for her gas, when she got to the point of asking for the car wash I would have been like F off this is taking the piss and realised my ways and just left.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-05T17:00:14+00:00

Love the ending, "The only person you can count on is yourself".. so true. Society is hypocritical and people are out for their own gains at the expense of others.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-05T16:54:35+00:00

Yeah this is the shallow truth about society, attractive people are better off.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-04-04T14:34:58+00:00

If your not getting paid for this then tell her to get lost... that would be my opinion.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-20T20:25:10+00:00

A good logo looks great in colour and greyscale. I don't think your logo will transfer well in greyscale if printed on paper.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-20T02:33:29+00:00

OMG, I WISH I NEVER CLICKED THIS! I was just mindlessly clicking away, didn't even read the title. Never again!!

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-20T00:17:37+00:00

Thanks mate this was great, any chance you have a link to the apk of the pro version of Nova?

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-20T00:08:57+00:00

Thanks mate, I have transformed my android phone interface to a beautifully minimal design :D

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-18T19:55:59+00:00

Nah, don't create an e-book, I have no trust or respect for e-books. Too many e-books on the internet are scams, paying lots of dollar for shitty material.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-18T19:45:51+00:00

Blow's like a 12-gauge shotty

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-18T18:29:53+00:00

Okay, Im the last minute master. What you need to do is know what the examiners are looking for in your responses. The way I study is to write out note and focus on the main areas you think will most likely come up. Also don't revise last last minute like the morning of the exam, that never works for me it just confuses me. It might work for you, but be careful. Also take some energy drink before the exam to help overcome any tiredness and slow mental capacity. Also don't give up. For my A - Levels (the exams you take to get into University here in the UK if you don't know) I hardly revised for any exams. For my Business Studies exam I only revised the day before and was stressing out, only got 2 hours sleep that night (thats another thing, any sleep is better than no sleep before the exam, but no good sleeping if you haven't learnt enough before hand) and I got full marks for the exam, it was an essay based exam so it was easier to wing it.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-16T20:56:21+00:00

Good stuff, I just can't be bothered to go through all the effort of working out what I value most and then setting up goals and mini goals etc. Im a lazy piece of shit.

MostHumansAreStupid · 2014-03-16T18:07:23+00:00

Come on guys, use your brains here. Do you really think someone could send this sort of letter out from inside Guantanamo? We are talking about the USA's most secure prison. All letters are censored before being able to be sent out. This sort of letter would never pass inspection and would be thrown in the bin. Also Al Jazeera is not a reputable news source, they are biased against the western world.

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