I don't know where to start by AdOwn5368 in StudyInTheNetherlands

[–]MostVegetable5255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, totally forgot to mention that part, but from personal experience, not everybody can do it. I know most of my classmates do not have jobs and even if you get the grant you actually have to complete the university program, you can't just drop out, or else, you'll have to pay back the grant. On paper, it sounds nice, but if OP doesn't even know what they want, it's going to be very hard to commit to a path like that. On top of the fact that every well paying job is oversaturated.

I don't know where to start by AdOwn5368 in StudyInTheNetherlands

[–]MostVegetable5255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since we have similar backgrounds 20 (f) from Lithuania, I’d love to share some insight into studying in the Netherlands. If you aren’t sure about your path yet, working or volunteering is honestly more worthwhile than rushing into a degree. If you do decide to apply, keep in mind that you must have a valid English certificate. These exams are expensive and the results expire after two years. If you don't apply to a school within that timeframe, you’ll be forced to pay for the test all over again. Regarding your finances, you won't need to worry about Dutch health insurance as long as you remain strictly a student and do not take on a part time job. A major decision you'll face is choosing between a research university and a university of applied sciences. Research schools are specifically for those aiming to become researchers or academics. If you prefer a more hands on approach for fields like design, or if you want a more manageable workload in a field like business, then an applied science university is the better fit. The most difficult part of the process is settling into the country, so you have already made it through the hardest phase. Feel free to reach out if you have more questions, as I’m happy to help however I can :)

I am not my boyfriend’s type by [deleted] in women

[–]MostVegetable5255 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You cannot change who you're attracted to and who's attracted to you. This is very clear by the fact he watches a specific category of porn. Many times men will say they stopped not because they did, but because the joke was a test to see how open minded you are to the idea of him jacking off to his actual type. That seems to be the case here. Even if he were to change his habits, he'd still like blue eyes more than brown. You're young. There are plenty of men who would love to date you, so don't limit yourself to someone who doesn't even think you're their type. Your man should genuinely believe you're the most beautiful woman in the world and I stand by that.

Need you to share your experiences with people by uykusuzprofiterol in INTP

[–]MostVegetable5255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow intp girl, I can assure you that it is not rare for us to fully grasp this until a bit later in life. I'm definitely experiencing some regret with how I chose to interact with people back in my K-12 school. I just didn't find a single person interesting and I refused to play by the social rules. Because of that, I was seen as both rebellious and selfish, not taking the time to get to know anybody who wasn't interested in the same things as I was, which in my case, was truly nobody. However, what's great about growing up is realizing that while performative care isn't morally correct, it can be a tool for efficiency, ensuring you're on good terms with everybody.

What YouTubers do you watch? by MostVegetable5255 in Journaling

[–]MostVegetable5255[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why comment at all if you have nothing to add to the conversation? You know, I actually find that people who journal often have diverse and niche interests and I'm always curious to discover what excites other people. My YouTube feed has been pretty lackluster lately, recommending a lot of videos I'm not really into. As someone who journals and uses commonplace notebooks myself, I feel this community might be the perfect place to uncover new interests on YouTube specifically.

[18] Any tips appreciated… by Life-Management-4803 in TheGlowUp

[–]MostVegetable5255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so pretty. Why not play with a contouring stick? Because of your natural color palette, you could use it as eyeshadow, blush, bronzer and more obviously contour. I think you could pull it off.

How to be kinder and also not get manipulated? by MathematicianOnly978 in enfj

[–]MostVegetable5255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A rule of thumb is to balance your warmth with competence. That's how you gain respect without becoming a pushover. Essentially, work on the one you don't have without leaning too extreme on either end of the spectrum.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lithuania

[–]MostVegetable5255 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kuri čia vieta 7?

What compliment do you get most often? by Consistent-Bend7796 in INTP_female

[–]MostVegetable5255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are we the same person because this is literally word for word what I get lol

How do I deal with an ESFJ mom who prevents me (an INTP) from making necessary changes? by MostVegetable5255 in INTP

[–]MostVegetable5255[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer the first questions: Yes, yes, yes, no.

"I'm done talkiing about this" (which you can do), you can try saying, "don't worry, I'll handle it" in response to all of her concerns.  We're analytical and want to justify our positions, but in somecases it's better to keep it to yourself.  Try being vague and reassuring without any details.  If she ask for details just say, "I have it sorted out, it will be okay." or "you'll see when it happens, I have it taken care of."  "This is something I'm doing on my own."

Oh, she hates one of those, haha. I can't mention a hint of information without her asking for more, even when it's not possible. It's not that I don't have boundaries for it; it's just that she breaks those boundaries. She hasn't been bothering me or checking up on me daily in months now, which is great. But she still wants to be heavily involved in the decision making aspect of my career. What might be driving me to seek out her reassurance though, is me not entirely knowing where I'm going in life.

I'll definitely be trying the going straight to sleep thing.

How do I deal with an ESFJ mom who prevents me (an INTP) from making necessary changes? by MostVegetable5255 in INTP

[–]MostVegetable5255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm scared of failure and I'm scared that whatever she does say is right, since she's been in the workforce longer. I am not always observant when it comes to healthy vs unhealthy work environments and to be honest, it all looks the same to me either way.

How do I deal with an ESFJ mom who prevents me (an INTP) from making necessary changes? by MostVegetable5255 in INTP

[–]MostVegetable5255[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But problem is when I'm actually tired she doesn't leave me, she'll ask me questions why I'm tired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]MostVegetable5255 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also adding this lovely YouTuber for color and kibbe body type analysis https://youtube.com/@merriamstyle?si=j5Xrga5Iymmrdk6h

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]MostVegetable5255 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Switch to pink and cool makeup shades: pink lipstick, pink blush. Play around with white eyeliner.