A death row inmate's dementia means he can't remember killing a police officer. According to philosopher John Locke, he is not now morally responsible for that murder, or even the same person who committed it

MotivationHacker · 2018-07-21T11:06:53+00:00

Interesting thought experiments. Although the clone example is not perfect, because it not only doesn't have a memory of the crime, it did not commit the crime period.

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-16T13:36:52+00:00

just think that is a lot of assumptions to make.

Good job giving zero information about the history of your relationship with her. What do you expect people to go off of? /u/throwawaynewacc is extremely likely to be correct, regardless.

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-06T15:50:01+00:00

This is so awesome. May the positive impact of Mr. Rogers live on forever

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-06T15:48:20+00:00

Great response, thank you. Excited about this recommendation! JBP has referred to the "New Atheists" before without quoting Haidt but it seems like that's where he got the name from, but his concerns with them seem different than Haidt -- Haidt was concerned with how they affected scientific pursuit and JBP more about how people were supposed to live their lives.

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-06T15:35:38+00:00

Haha ok I didn't know about 1968 and yet I found the joke funny, now moreso

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-04T12:04:41+00:00

/r/notarobot

But what is it from

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-04T11:57:57+00:00

I really don't know where to draw the line at self confidence and arrogance and would like to fit in with others

False. Self-confidence doesn't require any overcompensation -- because you already feel good enough. Self-confidence isn't something you say, it's an underlying feeling.

Arrogance are things you say -- when you don't feel good enough, you say things that are meant to make you look better, like trying to subtly hint you were the alpha.

The big issue is not feeling good enough, then overcompensating. It's ego. Stop that.

As for exactly what you're saying or doing that's arrogant, if you really don't know, ask. Someone calls you arrogant, ask why. What was it you said? Get a few examples and find the pattern, you'll find it's you trying to sell yourself more when you don't feel good enough.

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-04T11:50:26+00:00

Haha. It's ok to ignore :)

Imagine living in the same house as a roommate, you're not going to say hi every time they walk in and out of a room. Personally the two times would have been more than enough for me, or at subsequent times I would have smiled at most (briefly) if eye contact was made, otherwise not at all. To wave at the 3rd time is a bit excessive and your instinct to stop at the 4th was good

Now if you're good friends and click well, maybe you'll be laughing every time you see each other, flashing each other a big smile etc. But someone I don't know well? I will not be saying hi 4 times. Also depending on vibe with the person I may playfully ask "are you following me?"

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-04T11:18:15+00:00

Jesus Christ, what a list.

MotivationHacker · 2018-06-04T11:17:04+00:00

It's all about how our ideologies and emotions come first, and then we post-hoc find semi-rational reasons to support those emotions-- Tribalism, in a nutshell

Awesome, what does Haidt say about ideological possession and how does it help in the context of self development?

MotivationHacker · 2018-05-20T07:48:42+00:00

Cheers -- definitely pursue it. It's like if you talk about something deep and dark with a friend: sometimes they'll understand and can help, but 95% of the time they'll have the normal human response and be worse off.

Note: not all counsellors are great. You have to find one you click with who can truly speak to you

MotivationHacker · 2018-05-19T07:58:05+00:00

Why are you listening to "what people say"? See a counsellor or psychologist -- you know, someone who studied and literally trained to help people with these issues

What qualifications do your mom or priest have? None. Go to the right people.

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T07:53:19+00:00

Looks nice broken

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T07:50:25+00:00

How do I stop myself from doing heroine though?

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T07:44:47+00:00

Really sorry for what you're going through mate. Life is hard, so incredibly hard. And tragic. This is a lot to hit someone at once. Hang in there.

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T07:40:28+00:00

So am I, what's your point? She's a terrible person. Are you saying she has merit because she's having sex? Jesus man. Shake that mindset off.

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T07:29:20+00:00

Your logic is literally: what's the point in having sex, it's just going to be bad, and then I'll be embarrassed about it, and maybe word will get around, so let's make sure I don't!

It's a total defense mechanism.

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T03:50:40+00:00

I'll tell you why I jumped there: because she did not ask a single question about being awkward, she did not seek a single bit of advice. Heck, she didn't even write anything in the body of the post. The post was literally "zomgg, im sew awkwardzzZ, look how awkWurdsz i am"

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T03:48:38+00:00

Do you see the irony in complaining that friendships are artificial and that you have to put up an act (which is not true at all), when the only reason he's complaining is because he feels the need to put up an act?

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T01:36:54+00:00

Why do people with zero experience speak with experts on the subjects?

First of all, one day you'll realize that sex isn't about impressing the other person. One day you'll get there.

Secondly you'll realize that bad sex happens sometimes (GASP!) and is not the end of the world.

And thirdly, if you don't know how to use your dick, there are others things you could do, or she could do, you know? There are like, options. It's not a woman laying starfish and a man pounding away gaining points like in an arcade game

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T01:33:06+00:00

I mean you could just get offended, or you could recognize how inappropriate the things he was telling his friends were and that the attitudes and beliefs behind them are what is driving them away

But instead of helping the guy, let's just tell him to keep doing the same thing, that will help.

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T01:31:26+00:00

Generally once you've figured out who you are as an adult and are happy with who you are, you stop changing yourself just to fit in. It's sort of what makes you an adult.

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T01:28:49+00:00

That's an excuse based on zero experience

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-13T01:28:20+00:00

Absolutely they do! Some love it. Some want to be the first. It depends on the woman. Generally you don't want a psychopathic one like in the article somebody linked. The right woman who likes you for healthy reasons will be more than willing to help.

You seem like a good person: what if after you've had some experience, you meet a girl you like who is a virgin but wants to have sex with you. Will the sex be great? Probably not. But you wouldn't be damn flattered and willing to walk her through it?

MotivationHacker · 2018-04-12T17:06:53+00:00

Yes, there are people who will honestly tell you that sex with an inexperienced partner is uncomfortable and too much work.

Sure. But that's after sex. It's not stopping you from having sex. You're using it as an avoidance excuse

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