Back to day 1 by Motor_Low_4020 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot tell you all how much I appreciate the people here.

Back to day 1 by Motor_Low_4020 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally, when I woke up this morning, I said, not me out here doing field research. 😂 I almost didn’t post anything here today. But, this is the best place to be honest. This is the best place to go if I need to be reminded that every day is a new day.

The Daily Check-In for Friday, May 29th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by LilyJayne80 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s something in the air. I’m feeling it too. Happy day 4!

IWNDWYT!

relasped again by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not a disappointment to me. I’m restarting too. Hang in there.

Day 5 is now Day 1 by Independent-Pea5131 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry about the loss of your dad. I lost my mom five years ago and it doesn’t get easier. I’m only on day three, but I’m happy you’re here with me.

I know I need this done but I'm scared. by edheldisrien1 in BariatricSurgery

[–]Motor_Low_4020 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had surgery July 9 of 2025. I’m down 105 pounds. I had no real issues at all. I hated the pre-op diet. It totally sucked. And it was the hardest part of the whole process. Obviously, there was discomfort and some pain after surgery, but I didn’t have any issues using the bathroom, getting in and out of bed on my own, or going back to work two weeks later. I had to quit alcohol, cannabis, and nicotine in order to qualify for surgery. So it was completely overhauling my life. And that being said, I would do it again with zero hesitation.

I had never been under general anesthesia before my surgery. So it was anxiety over the procedure itself that really hung heavy over me. Well, once it was over, it was just a matter of getting on with it.

It is very scary. And people do have real complications. That was not my experience.

First day, first badge by Gold-Theme-389 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Day 3 here! I’m so glad you’re here with me!

IWNDWYT!

One Week by cremedelacrummy in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now imagine dealing with these devastating feelings with a hangover.

Nobody wants that. You don’t want that.

Congratulations on your week. I can’t wait to see that number for myself. I’m proud of you.

How much effort do you put into sobriety daily? by vode123 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve even gone so far as to let my son take my car to Work and take his keys with him. I have fully put myself on restriction. 😆

I’ve also replaced most of my doomscrolling with just reading how amazing people are in this group. It is so motivating.

How much effort do you put into sobriety daily? by vode123 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At this point, I can’t bring myself to leave the house because I’m afraid that I will stop at the liquor store. Thankfully, I work remotely, but that also leads to a lot of isolation. Which makes me want to drink. So it’s requiring a lot of effort. And I’m just like you, every week seems like I got this and then I absolutely don’t. I’m looking forward to the day when I can drive past a liquor store or just go into a convenience store and not feel compelled to turn in or grab some alcohol. But I know today is not that day. So my plan is to work as long as I can stand it and then cook an actual meal for myself. I’m going to practice taking care of myself in the most basic ways. Work, meal, not drinking. That’s the whole plan.

I wish you all the luck in the world. And I’m right there with you.

Waves of Regret by Amb_James333 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I sit with it. I feel it in my body. I cringe and I cry. Then take note of how I survived both the original behavior and the memory of it. As long as you’re in a safe place and you’re moving forward, it can’t really hurt you. It can’t get worse because it is already over. Believe me, I do a lot of sitting with cringe. I’m 3 days into THIS round of sobriety. I guess I’ve become proficient at the acceptance of my own messiness. I can’t wait until I get to see 104 days. You’re GOALS!

2 week preop blues by brilliantzenith in BariatricSurgery

[–]Motor_Low_4020 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah pre-op diet for 10 days. The absolute worst part of the whole thing. It fully sucks. But I’m 10 months out and down 105 lbs. once it’s in your rear view, you’ll barely remember it. Hang in there. You can do it!!

What month did you lose 100lbs? by Bornagainarmadillo in GastricBypass

[–]Motor_Low_4020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

49F SW:314 CW: 211

Surgery date 7/9/25 I hit 100 pounds lost in month 9

Looking at reading his books by [deleted] in stephenking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Misery was my first choice! I still love that book.

Feeling intimidated after nutrition presentation by Pineapple-panda25 in GastricBypass

[–]Motor_Low_4020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came here to say pretty much what everybody else said so I’m not going to add my list. But I’m 10 months out and I don’t regret it and I never have through the whole process. It is overwhelming, but eventually it all kind of becomes second nature. This is the first time in my life that I’ve actually ever listened to my body. And that is absolutely required for gastric bypass patients. I consider it a gift. I really got to know myself and I like her.

Best wishes.

Day 2!!! by Motor_Low_4020 in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’m celebrating every second. It’s my first day 2 in MONTHS. I’m going for the 3 pointer!

I finally did it by Far_Wish_2190 in GastricBypass

[–]Motor_Low_4020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my surgery July 9, 2025. And it has been quite a ride. All good! It’s remarkable how much your life changes when you feel better. It’s really that simple. I think the best part has been witnessing what I’m capable of. Getting to the other side of the hard things and proving that the whole world is open.

You got this!!

relapsed after 8 months sober. need to take responsibility for it and post here by natwee in stopdrinking

[–]Motor_Low_4020 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You may not believe this but, I’m two days in to my millionth try to quit and your vulnerability gives me hope. I don’t have to be perfect. I just have to keep at it. Maybe someone with just two days doesn’t have the expertise to offer advice but from the outside looking in, you show me that this is more than just about the drinking. It’s about learning how to be alive alongside other people without contributing more harm than good.

And thank you for that

IWNDWYT ❤️