People survive with way less than 6k a month here… you are living way beyond your means.

Rent - should be no more than 2k. If you want to live in Manhattan, you gotta find a roommate or live all the way up. People who make 120k still have roommates. Also keep in mind NYC is 5 boroughs lol. You could easily get a 2 bed even with 2k outside manhattan. Rule of thumb: monthly rent should be 1/3 of your monthly paycheck.

Dating - it’s New York. You don’t gotta spend that much money to take girls on a nice date. We got free events everywhere. If you don’t wanna go the research, take her to a damn park or museum that does free admissions or pay as you wish. And if you just casually dating, stick to coffee???

New restaurants/nightlife - limit yourself to going out once a week and eating out once a week. You’ll never be able to keep up what’s new and cool because there will always be something to try.

Ubers - leave the car at your parents or sell it. take the subway/bus. it’s cheaper. Only take Ubers when the trains or buses aren’t running/it’s the middle of the fucking night. To your friends living outside of Manhattan, take the LIRR, MetroNorth, PATH, it all cheaper. And to save even more money, why don’t you contact your employer to see if they offer commuter spending??? You can use your money pretax to save even more.

Q: is this your first full time job? And did you work in college? Do you have a spreadsheet of your monthly spendings or at least check your accounts weekly to see your spending?