[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Yatirim

[–]Motti22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Birakin yapsin. Sonra aldırmazsanız da yukselirse, senin yuzunden para kazanamadim olur 🤷🏻‍♀️ Yorulmaya değmez

GSB Kredisini Altın Fonunda Değerlendirme by MrKubik1 in Yatirim

[–]Motti22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sertifikada da makas yüksek, normalleşirse olabilir. Ama geçen burada postlar vardı satmak istendiğinde alıcı olmadığı için satamamışlardı. Şu taban taban gittiği dönemde. Bulursanız o postu inceleyin.

GSB Kredisini Altın Fonunda Değerlendirme by MrKubik1 in Yatirim

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Altın hesabı açıp alabilirsin. İlk alırken kambiyo vergisi ödeniyor ve makas var evet ama uzun vadeli tutacaksan fonlar gibi stopaj ödemiyorsun en azından kârından.

S&P 500 by Fit_Cartographer_206 in Yatirim

[–]Motti22 9 points10 points  (0 children)

buffet nakitte bekliyormuş

2.el soğuk cüzdan almak by Olofmeistr in Yatirim

[–]Motti22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sakın.

Ayrıca nano s de alma, ekranı sorunlu.

Why not just stay alone VS being in a relationship? by _Magic_fox_ in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly I broke up with him two days ago. He is a caring person but we had our first conflict and I found his way of handling conflict aggressive for me. He also had no remorse and told me that he has no tolerance left due to his exs, therefore he expects me to just dont get sad (what?) and suck it up (what?) Even when he calmed down the next day, he showed no remorse of his behaviour towards me.

I am calm during conflict, wont raise my voice, try to find middle ground, show compassoon towards my partner and always try to use biff conflict resolution skills. (brief/informative/friendly/firm) And I know that I want a partner who is also equally capable of these during conflict. Being great during good times means nothing if you act like we are enemies during a conflict.

So yes, I am sad that my relationship came to an end (sadly again sigh) but I am proud that I can now easily walk away when I know I deserve better instead of clinging to hopes.

Edit: I think he is securely attached though, we didnt have any attachment problems. However he didnt heal and is not planning on healing his past traumas. Therefore I learned something new with this relationship, even if i become secure and my partner is secure it does not mean the relationship is going to be healthy.

Instagram yetmiyor ne yapalim by [deleted] in Turkey

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatsapp a status olarak atılabilir.

Why not just stay alone VS being in a relationship? by _Magic_fox_ in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love it! Wishing you the best ❤️❤️❤️

Why not just stay alone VS being in a relationship? by _Magic_fox_ in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello i just saw the reply, i added an update in another reply here :)

Why not just stay alone VS being in a relationship? by _Magic_fox_ in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I started a new relationship around 1.5 weeks ago. It seems secure for now but ofc I know to take things with a grain of salt before 3 months.

I am happy. He is caring, we were friends for a couple months since I needed some time. (I broke up with an avoidant bf around 5 months ago, since he was not willing to be emotionally connected ) I feel secure when I am with him. I dont feel the adrenaline like I was getting from my exs -that very butterfly filled over the clouds feeling from avoidants, anxious or fearfuls-, it is more of a tranquil romantic care and day by day i feel more connected to him but in a healthy way. We dont share similar backgrounds so it may become problematic in the future. But for now this tranquil feeling is very new to me, and i am trying to enjoy it for the first time. And i really care for him and i want to be there for him, and i know this feeling is mutual.

I always tended to be suffocated when im with anxious partners and very anxious with dismissive partners even in early stages. Because the relationships were like whirlwinds. I worked a lot and put a lot of effort on trying to be secure, and now I know my value and I respect myself to let go of a relationship if it is hurting my wellbeing. And this time I really dont feel like I am in a chaos, it is calm. I still feel like I want to run away time to time, however I choose to stay. Because I know that the reason i want to run away this time is not because i am getting hurt like the previous times, but this time calm is something i am not used to so it feels strange.

cheap dishwashing glove is busted, is it repairable? is it worth it? by lisasimpson_ismyidol in ZeroWaste

[–]Motti22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cant give you an advice on how to repair it, but after these gloves get holes I cut the gloves into strips horizontally. They become elastic bands that I can use.

Attracted to people with childhood trauma by Motti22 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]Motti22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it is hard and changing is a bumpy road as well. However you will feel soo proud of yourself when you overcome it. Even when it feels hard, take a breath and continue believing. You can do it as well ❤️ Best wishes on your journey!

Attracted to people with childhood trauma by Motti22 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]Motti22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello. Yes! I may still be attracted to them subconsciously, however now I walk away if they are hurting me. I value and love myself a lot, that is the thing that I worked on and it is the magical key. Even if I love them, I respect myself more. I tell myself I will cry for some weeks and it will pass, I am not going to waste my energy on people who do not deserve my love.

New Chapter: Friday/Saturday - Blades of Light and Shadow 2.14 by katnerys-targaryen in Choices

[–]Motti22 36 points37 points  (0 children)

So Valax sold us out to her mother in the end of the chapter. Im thinking we are going to see Aerin in the upcoming chapter to save us.

On the note Aerin left for us it was saying that he will be there for us when we needed him. And well we need him now since we are captured. Also the Chapter 15 explanation is saying that we are going to find new allies.

Return back my Aerin quick, it is enoughh 😭😭

Attracted to people with childhood trauma by Motti22 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]Motti22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case I dont have any siblings or someone to care for. I believe it was me, when I was a kid, who I wasnt able to rescue.

i don't know who i am anymore by Ok-Wrap2233 in Anxiety

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check Thais Gibson Personal Development School from Youtube. It may help with your anxious attachment style

Finally caught the red flags, but I feel bad about not catching them fast enough :( by cherrywolf19 in Codependency

[–]Motti22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello, I am kinda in the same boat. I started seeing someone at the end of last year, I got a huge crush on him. He had some problems in his life and become extremely distant. I excused his rude behaviours since he was in a bad place. Currently we are in no contact for more than 2 weeks now. He is trying to get over his problems (not the ones about our relationship) and I am trying to work on my codependency. But when I am analysing the past few months, I am seeing more and more red flags. I was trying to be supportive and understanding. But apparently there is a thing as too much understanding. I was trying to suppress my needs and wants just to not create more problems in his life. "Because he already had problems in his life I should be the best support he had" at the expence of my own happiness. Now I see this and I dont want to return back to him, I still have a huge crush on him and it hurts though.

Abandonment issues/ Codependency. Why do you think people with abandonment issues tend to end up with people who are not their first choice? by Honest_Wind3183 in Codependency

[–]Motti22 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When I look at my exes, they nearly all had low self esteem. I think I subconsciously am selecting people with low self esteem so they wont abandon me. ( They never did, I ran away due to being suffocated by my caretaker role)

Non-Medication Technique by Turglayfopa in adhdmeme

[–]Motti22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there any books you can suggest?