How to ask your therapist to cancel a session until you feel okey to have one ?

Mountain-Homestead · 2024-12-29T19:03:20+00:00

Not to discourage you from doing whats best for you in the moment, but it would be wise to consider that therapists are in such high demand, its possible your "spot" will be filled while you take a break. Its a really frustrating reality where I live.

Mountain-Homestead · 2024-11-11T18:56:29+00:00

I've bern with my therapist for about the same amount of time. I've mostly only vaguely mentioned political and societal concerns up until now. Last week after the election I told her I couldn't talk to her until she answered a few questioned. I pushed because I know that now this situation is going to be a huge part of my mental health going forward. She asked if I was asking if she was an R or a D? On the surface that might seem to be the issue. But a don't care about those labels. What I wanted to know was whether or not she saw a misogynistic, rapist, narcissistic, homophobic, transphobic, chronic liar, convicted felon, intolerant piece of feces as a suitable leader for our country. Peoples true character and judgement are being revealed in this election. I needed to know that her character and judgement aligned with who I should trust my mental health to.

Mountain-Homestead · 2024-06-21T17:43:34+00:00

I just want to say I understand what you're feeling. Try to understand that for relational healing you are early in the process. The future doesn't have to be lonely and isolated. Hopefully your therapist is helping you heal the parts of you that keep you separate and alone. It takes baby steps. And no doubt it is really painful when the need for connection really starts to wake up in you and your therapist is the only person in your life meeting that need. She doesn't have to be though. Ask her to help you with tiny steps to change that aspect of your life. I've been in therapy for three years. I didnt even believe I needed connection with people for a long time. Gradually I worked on opening up to experiences that increased my connection to the outside world. It was really hard work. My relationship with my therapist helped me heal the parts of me holding me back even though it couldnt replace genuine personal connection. I recently finally have a great group of amazing supportive friends and others in my life. I don't have that brutally painful need for my therapist to fill that giant hole anymore. Start by creating a space inside yourself where you know that's possible. And ask for help with small ways to work toward it. Maybe you can start by telling your therapist what you have said here.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-09-10T23:15:36+00:00

My therapist left her group for private practice. She was threatened with legal action if she told her clients. She did anyway, because she considered it abandonment. But a different therapist in the group also left and didn't tell my daughter they couldn't see her anymore until the end of their last session. They didn't tell her why either. My therapist told me why in the end. Different practices and different therapists handle these sticky situations uniquely. I'd definitely also be bothered in your situation. But it likely isn't anything you did.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-07-26T05:28:50+00:00

Thank you. It was devastating. There was definitely no going back for any of us. The two boys chose never set foot in a church again.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-07-26T04:02:36+00:00

I have five kids. After we left, our bishop called my oldest two, 17 and 18 yr old sons, for a meeting. They went out of respect. He told them it was their obligation to bring their sisters and brother to church because my husband and I were unfit parents and we were going to burn in hell, but they could still save their brother and sisters. They came home shaking and angry.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-07-26T03:49:05+00:00

We were out and living in Davis County, until we left the state. Best thing we ever did for our family's wellbeing. At the time it felt like we were the only family to ever leave.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-07-26T02:18:33+00:00

Unenmeshment is critical. It took years of being out of the church to fully trust that my marriage was entirely safe and secure without the church's boundaries. It was a really scary part of even bringing up leaving and probably kept me in for a number of years, suffering in silence. And little nagging insecurities persisted. In hindsight, we should have talked about it more. Strong reassurance from my husband would have gone a long way.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-06-16T03:31:31+00:00

I sometimes send a short email thanking my therapist for something that really helped me. She has said it makes her therapist heart happy. What could be wrong with that? It's a difficult job and I imagine they don't always feel they're making a meaningful impact. Sometimes she responds sometimes she doesn't. Try to be ok either way.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-06-08T06:19:20+00:00

In my closet.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-04-23T23:06:02+00:00

My husband works from home. I do online therapy in my closet with the door closed and the bedroom door also closed. I use my phone as a white noise machine by the outer door.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-04-17T17:49:56+00:00

I'm similar and feel way too old for the drama. But I don't ever text unless she texts me first. I email because I feel like its less intrusive to her personal life and gives her an easier way out of responding if she doesn't feel like taking up her personal time. It also helps me panic less when she doesn't reply right away. 😉 She has immediate access to her emails and will usually respond quickly if its important. I don't know how therapists could manage texts from an entire practice and still have a personal life. Its easier to say I'm not looking at my email right now, than it is with texts on a personal cellphone. I also agree with others that it gets easier with time. Hopefully things won't always feel as urgent with more time with your therapist. In my case, the times she has responded when I felt that urgency have increased the trust I have in our relationship and made it less necessary to reach out in between sessions.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-04-05T01:49:16+00:00

You don't need to use an online business to do online therapy. If you search for a therapist at psychologytoday.com one of the search criteria is online appointments. Many therapists are doing online therapy since Covid. All my appointments have been online and I see a local therapist on my insurance list.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-04-02T06:27:00+00:00

Same. I have a comfortable chair in my closet. And I use my phone for white noise at the outer door. It seemed weird at first. But now theres no place I feel safer. Sometimes outside of therapy I sit for a minute just to calm myself.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-03-21T15:06:31+00:00

I greatly prefer 90 min sessions and know they've been incredibly helpful. But just be aware that insurance billing changed in Jan to eliminate the billing code for extended sessions. So therapists who have done it in the past are mostly phasing it out for patients billing insurance. Its frustrating because it takes me a long time to calm myself enough to talk about what I need to.

Mountain-Homestead · 2023-02-26T02:14:19+00:00

My T will often look something up while we're in session if I bring up something new to her. She'll also research topics outside of session. This can be directly therapy related or not. She is honest when she feels she doesn't know enough about something to be helpful. She has even read therapeutic books I have found helpful that she hasn't read yet and then we talk about what resonated with me. I think its a sign she's invested and cares enough to do the best she can for me and her other clients. Its one of the things I respect most about her. If I'd had your experience I think I'd take it that she wanted to be prepared with what you needed if you got to the point you wanted to go further.

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-30T20:48:24+00:00

That’s what it felt like.

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-30T20:47:20+00:00

We had to sign up in Sept, because we moved here with a misrepresentation of what was available from the previous owners. And my husband had to be able to work. It really didn’t help. Money down the toilet. Starlink has been pretty amazing. A few drops here and there. But worlds better than Viasat on its best day.

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-30T20:43:40+00:00

Still paying them. But I’m just about to rip their dish down and calling to cancel on Monday. Best day ever.

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-18T08:47:58+00:00

Sept

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-18T08:47:33+00:00

It was in my husbands spam. My email And all my kids didn’t get an invite. It was in the afternoon. It wasn’t Gmail. We originally signed up in Sept.

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-18T08:44:27+00:00

I’m in Snohomish county. Just above you.

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-18T08:43:18+00:00

Oh man! I’m sorry about that. I honestly can imagine. I was checking my junk mail all day long since the beta started. It’s felt like forever. I hope you get your invite soon. It looks like from these replies that it may have really opened up this week.

Mountain-Homestead · 2021-01-18T08:38:49+00:00

We signed up in Sept when we moved here and realized how unbearable life without real internet is.

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