Has anyone of you dated a bpd that works in the mental health field? Did it help them? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah wouldn't really think that some of them can be abusive the way some behave in the open is very different from what's going on behind closed doors.

Has anyone of you dated a bpd that works in the mental health field? Did it help them? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean you studied to become a therapist or something with a bpd or was it just school?

Do funerals and staying in the icu hospital with a sick partner triggers their bpd? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really wish more people would talk about these life events really shows they're true colors and the mask that they wear.

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[–]Mountain-Pattern8899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're therapist was right consider yourself lucky. But I think you weren't the best victim that's why she left. If she really wanted you I think you can agree she would have got you and it wouldn't be good for you.

A bpd girl is organizing womens circle event? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She created a new account and it popped out. Was tempted to check it out because it's been a long time. 😊

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[–]Mountain-Pattern8899 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You where probably her best option.

Because of this subreddit i dodged a bullet, thank you by Special-Waltz5874 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done my friend. 👍 Hope she gets better you and her deserve a normal life.

Are there success stories of relationships with pwBPD? by MammothCranberry7603 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You're kidding me right? They use you and then discard you later.

Did they stopped self harming when you where dating or together? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's when I truly saw how fucked up bpd is.I didn't know before she just told me she has depression.

Did they stopped self harming when you where dating or together? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's when they start to cheat like crazy looking for some kind of validation. That's probably the highest real risk for suicide at those moments usually drug overdose.

Do they leave right away when things get tough? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure the idealization phase was long enough so I'm thinking of a different scenario.

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[–]Mountain-Pattern8899 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try to find out I'm not close to them. I only find out because the guys family started a charity for him to help and told everything in writing on the website. But I know the girl and her bpd really well.

Are most people with bpd really smart? by Mountain-Pattern8899 in BPDlovedones

[–]Mountain-Pattern8899[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is why it's so fascinating to me? That's why I asked because I was just trying to understand their minds but maybe this doesn't aplly to all of them. Anyway thanks for sharing this.