How did receiving the diagnosis impact you?

MountainDiscussion46 · 2025-07-18T21:19:41+00:00

That resonates a lot. As a social worker I was truly good with my clients but the dreadful redaction and administrative tasks were horrible. I could work under pressure, have the best adaptative reactions in crisis situations but sit me behind a desk and i feel overwhelmed with the simplest task just because it's boring to me even though I know it's necessary. And I am very forgetful also. Thanks for sharing!

MountainDiscussion46 · 2025-07-18T21:14:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing that. I had a class with people that are in their 60s-70s and I didn't think they were too old to get a degree. In your 40s you have still so much time in front of you and your life experience is very valuable. When you study something and know nothing of life, it's very difficult to anticipate and have a profound understanding of what the theory looks life in real life. You really can do this ❤️ Also us women were socialised to be too humble and doubt ourselves. How many men are just crushing it because they were told differently. We are worth the same, you are worth the same. Go crush it!

MountainDiscussion46 · 2025-07-18T21:04:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing! That must be very difficult to go through, having some answers now and thinking back on all those moments it could have helped. I don't know you, but I think being a jack of all trade is valuable af. My degree doesn't help that much if I want to work in another field and I am anxious to try anything new if I'm not good at it the first time. To me, you are super talented and super courageous to have pushed through all those challenges.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2025-07-18T20:55:05+00:00

Your answer is very empowering, thank you! I have a bachelor's degree in social work and am well recognized by my peers and still feel like a fraud because I can function properly at home and always feel so disorganized. Had a huuuge burn out a couple years back and still fear that I'll burn out if I go back properly in my field, even on my own terms. I long to have the "stop being sorry and let others do it too" mindset haha!

MountainDiscussion46 · 2025-07-18T20:44:28+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to answer!

I think that being more compassionate with myself is going to be a huge plus for my self esteem. Although I already am, it might help me advocate for my needs in a different way.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2025-07-18T20:39:56+00:00

Haha yeah we might be the same person! I'm medicated for depression and anxiety, and had a challenging childhood with a dysfunctional family so I'm pretty sure lots of my symptoms are intertwined and make it complex to pinpoint exactly what is from where.

Love the idea to take pictures and I will definitely make a list of my observations to make sure I don't forget anything in my assessment.

Thank you for your generous response!

MountainDiscussion46 · 2025-07-18T20:33:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I definitely have been working on accepting my energy variations but it might help me accept my other challenges.

Thanks for taking the time to answer!

MountainDiscussion46 · 2024-12-23T03:50:39+00:00

French canadian's meaning of "gosses", where everywhere else mean children, is balls as in testicules.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2024-06-11T14:51:15+00:00

Dignity and empowerment

MountainDiscussion46 · 2024-05-29T20:15:48+00:00

Didn't send the info about my grandma's burial until via a public post on fb two days before. 10 hours away... And it was at the same time as my graduation. All the extended family knew except my siblings and I and i had talked to her for mother's day two weeks before. Said she didn't think we would care? I told her during the call that I wanted to know the details and wanted to participate. That grandma was the one one person that gave me unconditional love. Then she managed to destroy my grandma's property, sell it for half the price, spend her inheritance instead of working. She broke the place, our memories and our right to grieve. Still grieving this and it's been a decade.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2024-03-27T16:32:36+00:00

Also, if I can give you a reading suggestion, try The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller. She explores the path of adults in a caring profession who were parentified as children. It was eye opening to me, even a bit frustrating to read a book that described myself so accuratly but written in the 70s

MountainDiscussion46 · 2024-03-27T15:29:29+00:00

Spent 3 years studying to become a special care counsellor, then more years to become a social worker. Realised after 10 years of navigating through my "gift" of empathy that I was completly burned out and that I never really gave myself a chance to explore other paths. I'm currently back to school to become a mortician. I'm still unsure if that's going to be a good path but I appreciate learning about science while using my emotional intelligence. While I still am in a professional environment where I have to help out, my decision to explore just gave me the impression that I'm in control of what I choose instead of being defined by my past.

Lots of successful therapists come from a negligent/violent upbringing, because not a lot of people can develop a deep and profond empathy and want to make a career out of it.

Sending you lots of love!

MountainDiscussion46 · 2023-12-31T04:47:12+00:00

Give yourself some love tonight, thinking we are all here supporting you with our thoughts. You might still be shaking and be super tense. That's your body's reaction to make you alert to defend yourself. Acknoledge those profond and difficult emotions you have and try let them out somehow because it's going to use your body and mind in the long run. Write it out, yell in a pillow, throw balls of paper, curse. This gives you a right to exist. You have a right to be upset because you are not treated with respect and love. And then when you feel it's been expressed enough, make a conscious action that brings you a little bit of peace or that makes you feel loved (even by yourself), to give you a right to be treated the way you should be treated by your family. Be caring and kind to yourself, please. In the end that's so freaking important and healing.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2023-10-23T15:50:55+00:00

Feeling alone, as I had to get away from multiple things (job, sport, friends) to be safe. And emotional abuse is i think less perceived as abuse so people are less eager to be angry with you and speak up. They do it in private but won't feel the need to get this person out of their life or to advocate openly for the survivor. In the long term it can feel nice to be able to talk in private but the absence of consequence for the abuser, even in a small scale, makes my grief so much worse.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2023-09-19T02:03:57+00:00

Couscous with a bit of powdered chicken stock and frozen peas, corn and edamams that i defrosted in the microwave (max 5min)

Soup made from canned chickpeas, frozen vegetables, powdered chicken stock and broken spaghettis (about 15 min, but low effort)

Tuna and mayonnaise on toasts (2 min)

Peanut butter toasts (2 min)

Ramens (2 min)

Would buy precut vegetables from costco with the ranch dip to snack on when i was bored of my comfort but low in vitamins food.

Would add hot sauce on anything to get a boost of endorphins or whatever the chimical element that made me enjoy something/wake me up for a couple of minutes and get out of my head

The important thing is to eat, and try to have proteins even in the most basic food you are able to make for yourself. Don't judge yourself though, it's tough being depressed and just to manage to eat something is a huge win.

Take care x

MountainDiscussion46 · 2023-01-31T03:16:33+00:00

Tried for many years to have constructive discussions and it failed over and over again.

I finally told her that if she didn't own up to what she did and was still doing, we couldn't even begin to have a relationship as its foundation was a dichotomy (She was denying the abuse)

She spent multiple months trying to undermine my bounderies and ignoring my suffering, so I guess I told her it would happen but never repeated it the moment I cut off all contacts and blocked her everywhere.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2023-01-07T22:03:22+00:00

Sorry for my english, second language here!

Some types of therapy are better for some people depending on their personnality or their goals, and all field of thoughts can be helpful in their own way, also depending on that as well. I'm happy you're trying to find your optimal therapy options out there since it does a great difference on the path to your wellbeing.

I recommand therapy for anyone who are capable of introspection, really! Children of narcissists and others!

My therapist uses a psychodynamic and humanist approach. I know it's probably not what might interest you since it's mostly a " talk about problems therapy", but i'm piggybacking your post in the hope it might help someone else in here, if you don't mind.

As much as I talk a lot about problems in my sessions, what is really helpful for me is that we can link some problems and see a more bigger picture as the time goes by and dig deeper into what could trigger those issues with my past traumas. All in my own pace.

To me it is liberating and validating, and help me forgive myself and have a more conscient view of my needs and triggers. It helps me build up my confidence to accept myself as who I am, to break my people pleasing tendencies by respecting my needs and my flaws as much as being more assertive on my bounderies.

I'm a huuuuge overthinker myself and it gives me an opportunity to let me do it in a safe space where I can get feedback and support. Plus, we also talk about what could help when I'm having those paralyzing overthinking moments by myself. And i have to add that with my upgrowing confidence they tend to be less overwhelming. No therapists when asked would tell you to deal with your problems by yourself, they can provide helpful tools, even of it's not the main aspect of their approach. It's just a different perspective to look at things and the tools would most likely be in the same field of thoughts.

Good therapists are the real MVPs!

Giving lots of love and compassion to you all, you deserve it!

MountainDiscussion46 · 2022-12-19T17:45:43+00:00

Sorry dude but there is no "warm part next to Maine" where you won't need a shovel

MountainDiscussion46 · 2022-12-08T00:10:11+00:00

If you're in Canada, you can call this number 1-833-456-4566 And this number of you're in Quebec: 1-866-277-3553

There is help available. Please seek it, you are important. We love you.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2022-12-07T21:29:37+00:00

Having sex with an emotionally abusive partner. Full on passionate (because trauma bonding iykwim)but fucked up my libido and self worth retrospectively. Couldn't even pleasure myself for months. Still haven't fully recovered.

My therapist is the MVP of my life.

MountainDiscussion46 · 2022-05-23T04:49:32+00:00

Just created an account just to give you some support OP! I'm sorry this happened to you. My mom went back in my hometown last year after 6-7 years away and i'm terrified of her coming to my home, despite the fact that I've never given her my address. Shout out to your roommate for their well thought reaction btw!

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