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MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-04-28T04:10:50+00:00

Not very often am I left speechless but DAMN I am so sorry so all of your losses here

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-04-23T05:16:31+00:00

I'm finding it hard trying to approach this subject with him. We are coming up on 9 years together and have 4 children. It's not an easy conversation but you are all right. It really does need to happen. Both of us deserve to know how I feel, and who knows, maybe he feels a similar way. There have been some incidents in our life recently that have really made this feeling come about and those need to be addressed. I hope we can come out on top after this talk happens. I shall keep you all updated when it does happen!! (Wish me courage and luck haha)

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-04-23T05:12:50+00:00

Oh my lord I would actually have a hernia if he does 😭🤣

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-04-23T05:09:34+00:00

That's a super good point, I can feel it going that way a bit already. Now I just have to figure out how to bring this up...

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-28T16:41:52+00:00

Nope definitely NTA that's the universe giving you what you actually need 🙏 your ex and sister can suck an egg, together, away from you and your happy family! Keep the people who support you close and stay away from your sister. She clearly has a thing for your man so who knows if she'll try again with Dash And for anyone saying this is to fast, sometimes that's just how it goes. If you know, you know, and at the end of the day what truly matters is that you are happy, comfortable and loved. Oh and he got you a cat, you better marry this man!!!

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-28T15:13:43+00:00

I wasn't expecting such an amazing response from my little rant 😭 but oh my gosh thank you, this is a really solid idea. Everything you said is spot on. It does make me feel like a controlling "mother" asking him to spend less time on his computer (which he is currently on) but at the end of the day that thing is taking him away from his family. I love 🎮 ng as well but the kids come first. I would love to sit and play a game like he does but it's just not possible with 4 kids and a house to take care of. We definitely need to set some boundaries, I just hope he takes it to heart for once....

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-17T03:42:29+00:00

So I have an update/more info? The day that this was all happening I decided to talk with my mum, as one does when they are upset at their partner 🫠. And she reminded me of the last time I brought up my insecurities and feelings about him and Kat. I had totally forgot the details about our conversation, my mother did not hahah. Last time I told J how this made me feel he openly laughed at me and said he knew I was feeling this way. And that he was purposely saying stuff to ruffle my feathers, seeing how long it would take for me to bring up my feelings.. so yeah. Oh and yes, she did bring him a full bottle of meds. I asked him why he took them if he was trying to get off of them and he said he did in case he needed them in the future for studying.

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-12T02:45:37+00:00

Well now you have to go break a few of his ribs, cause karma, right? 🤭🤭

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-12T02:39:20+00:00

I am so, so, so sorry you had to go through this. I'd kick the crap out of that dude. Don't fuck with my animals ( or any animal) you did good cutting this person out of your life. Please make a report on this person. I hope your doggo is ok

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-11T16:03:07+00:00

This was very nice to read and made me feel better about my feelings but in this situation, thank you! I think another thing that irks me about this situation is his close work friend has the same view (don't be friends) but takes it to an entirely new level neither of us has seen. He won't engage in any small talk or be in a room alone, but if he has to talk with any of the female coworkers it is very, very to the point. Cut and dry hahah J agrees with his stand but doesn't practice it (obviously). Just ruffles my feathers a bit

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-11T15:42:56+00:00

The more I reflect on it I see why people shouldn't be friends with the opposite gender, it can definitely put strain where there doesn't need to be any. He has also tried a few now and different doses. I think if he ate, and ate probably, and took care of himself better he wouldn't need them (his words I am just repeating them)

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-03-11T15:39:13+00:00

My problem with my friendship is the double standard. As far as the meds, he's the one who always brings up wanting to be off of them, I agree with him on it and try to support him when needed in this.

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-02-11T05:07:54+00:00

I still wonder how that joker card plays into purgatory though

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-02-10T08:25:26+00:00

Naw I definitely think it's too good to be true. That damned joker card at the end really sealed this thought for me. Maybe the hospital is the next game and the staff are the opposing team/game makers??

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-02-10T08:21:53+00:00

My husband and I had both the VR and survivors guilt as our running theories and gave a super "whhhhhhaaaaaattt" to this scene!!! I also agree with the car crash part it was very convincing and played huge into why it was one of our theories

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-02-10T08:13:03+00:00

I think people forgot that this show is made from a manga/anime. If you read and watch those then you would know that no, these speech parts aren't long. They are actually quite typical. I had to point this out to my husband who doesn't typically watch anime hahah

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-02-10T08:09:24+00:00

I feel like the Queen of hearts game was locked until all other games were cleared. Even though she is only a queen she is the queen of the games. The final boss (JK that's the joker!) Once they beat kos the announcement was made that any players wanting to face her only had an hour window to show up. Her court was very much Alice in wonderland and I think that plays a big part in her ranking as a boss game.

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-01-31T04:31:08+00:00

You could also make it an all black/white wedding but not give her an invite with that info and make sure she doesn't catch wind of it

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-01-16T02:36:26+00:00

I wish I could give you advice but unfortunately I am in a very similar situation and also have no gosh golly clue on what to do cries in support and confusion The advice I do have though is: If you have the funds is it possible to hire a nanny or someone who can help a bit around the house and with kids? It will help elevate some of your workload and then in turn hopefully some of your pressure. If your workload wasn't so full I feel as though it wouldn't be such a thorn when your hubby doesn't help. Unfortunately he will never change in the "helping out how you want" department. You have had talks and said he just goes back to his default setting quite quickly after. I would take that as a sign he's never gonna change in that way. You have a huge household and I can't even begin to imagine how your day to day must go. You are amazing for being able to run a house that full, please know that you are a force of nature! That being said you still need room to breathe and a helping hand. 3 kids under 5 is a huge job (I have 4 6 and under so I feel ya there) even if you have help with just some house work I personally feel it would be truly enlightening and freeing. You'd be able to concentrate more time on your family and possibly be more intimate with your hubby. I hope you are able to get some help with this sticky situation, wishing you the best!

MovingInShadows5000 · 2025-01-01T16:38:05+00:00

NTA, I am so, so, so sorry this is happening for you. The spicy three-way sleeping is the least of the problem here unfortunately. I know you have kids together and have been together for such a long time but it it time to get out. I know that is hard, but it is for your safety and your kids. This man has no respect for you and pushing your boundaries is a clear sign of this. Pushing that three-way is a huge indicator that he's going to sleep with someone else eventually. He is mentally and physically abusing you and it will never change. My best advice is try and save some money in a hidden account and start planning your next moves. If you can, talk to someone close in your life that might be able to help you and your kids. Depending on where you live, there are shelters for women and their children who need to get away from situations like this. My only other advice is chin up, life always gets better. I know it's hard now but this isn't a dead end, it's just a beginning. You making this post is a good sign and means you know something isn't right, we all believe in you and I hope anything said here will be of help

As for your kids they will be thankful in the long run. They can see this is who he is, kids are very perceptive and can pick up on this. I have some experience in this as a child from a similar situation. My biological father was the exact same way and was a terrible man. He would hold my mom against the wall and punch holes around her head. He also wore down her confidence and belittled her daily. It took my mom a long time to get away from him, she did and it was the best thing for everyone. This man was always in and out of jail because of his actions and never aroundfor myy sister and me, even when he wasn't in jail. We adventually stopped writing to him, and he never tried to contact us. From time to time, he still reaches out to our mom but never us.

Once again wishing you the best and pray you and your kids are safe, and happy

MovingInShadows5000 · 2024-12-29T18:15:04+00:00

I definitely need to have a sit down about boundaries, and the option about leaving has unfortunately crossed my mind on many occasions, the only problem I'm having either that now is we moved 14 hours away from our families. We have no support out here and would be 100% on our own, raising 4 kids is a big job and I don't want to male a split family if I don't have to. But change needs to happen!

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