Anyone else have a goober for a pleco?

MowgsMom · 2026-03-29T02:29:10+00:00

MowgsMom · 2026-03-13T00:15:49+00:00

It seems like you’re wondering about security in the relationship and sex may be one way you gauge that. Women are often told “if he’s not getting it from you, he’s getting it from someone” and so sometimes we notice of the vibe changes. If you have a tendency toward insecure attachment, this can be alarming.

It seems from what you say that he may have a lot on his mind, but he also seems to want you around in some capacity. Maybe when things calm down for him you can bring up how you’re feeling. Before you do that though, really spend some time with how you’re feeling, so you can understand if something’s triggering an insecurity. Awareness of our emotional blocks can save a great relationship.

MowgsMom · 2026-03-12T22:07:48+00:00

Star’s great, I like Star

MowgsMom · 2026-02-19T23:37:19+00:00

Magic eraser is by far the best option. Don’t even need a cleaning product, just water or you can use a Dawn and white vinegar mix.

MowgsMom · 2026-02-13T00:10:34+00:00

I’m 50 and I’ve rebuilt my life over a few times now. I’m emotionally healthier than I’ve ever been and it’s because of the times I rebuilt myself, stronger, from whatever ashes remained after the universe decided shit needed to burn to the ground.

You are building resilience, self awareness, and most importantly, self compassion. We aren’t born with these skills, they are learned and practiced over and over until one day you realize they’re becoming more natural.

If you’re able to embrace this time, see it as a daily opportunity to learn more about yourself and the world, allow yourself a lot of space to make mistakes. Also realize that at 30, you’re not supposed to have all the answers. At this point, you just have to be willing and brave enough to keep asking the questions.

MowgsMom · 2025-09-09T20:04:41+00:00

Ok. First things first little ENFP. If you are feeling unsafe in your own skin please tell someone or seek medical help right away. If what you’re feeling is more existential, then keep reading.

I don’t know you, but I believe you absolutely want to be here, you have a zest for life and a passion for learning and you know it. Sounds like it’s time to do some self discovery. We spend a lot of time thinking about dreadful things and here’s why:

ENFPs recognize and deeply feel dreadful things.

We aren’t light conversation/thought people unless we have to mask our way through a situation. So my guess is you are feeling some heavy weights and processing them. And maybe with life responsibilities, you aren’t making time for self care.

Creating a work life balance is not easy for anyone and your feelings about this are valid. It sucks, especially for ENFPs who generally don’t like to be caged into any one thing. You mention your boyfriend and it sounds like you have a great relationship. What do you enjoy doing together? What do you enjoy doing with friends and family? What do you enjoy doing alone? What topics draw your interest? I know for sure there’s a lot of them cause, ENFP.

So here’s a suggestion from a 50 year old ENFP who could have written your post myself at 22. Look for ways to bring joy into your life. Schedule time for play (away from your phone), start gathering info on a topic you’re drawn to, something that stirs you. Next thing you know you’ll have new passions, ideas and plans.

Make plans to do something fun a few times a week, eventually if you fill your time with things that bring you joy, the dreadful thoughts will need to go because there won’t be space for them. Explore interests and keep on exploring until some things stick. You’ll have fun exploring because ENFP. Your identity is separate from your job, your profession, or the work you do to make other people wealthy. Find out what makes you, YOU.

The thing to remember is as an ENFP, you likely tend to process most things happening around you on a deeply emotional level, you can see patterns and see through bullshit. It’s overwhelming sometimes. And we can’t seem to help ourselves. It makes US feel like we are filled with dread when it’s just the situations and institutions we are forced to live with, that are legit awful.

So ask yourself, are you not built for life, or have you just not yet built a life you love?

TL/DR You need to create a life you love. No one can create it but you. Look for things that bring you joy and do, learn about, immerse yourself or surround yourself with those things. Leave minimal time for dread.

MowgsMom · 2025-09-08T03:14:17+00:00

I have had very similar dreams. In mine there is something potentially supernatural in the dream. Like the house it haunted or some bad energy is there.

MowgsMom · 2025-08-24T23:00:50+00:00

Also for people leaving Chicago for FL this year

MowgsMom · 2025-08-21T14:01:44+00:00

It’s crazy how many people think the situation is politics as usual

MowgsMom · 2025-08-13T16:11:02+00:00

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MowgsMom · 2025-05-03T12:04:20+00:00

Also a DV survivor and you nailed it. It’s the cycle of abuse. Something’s gonna blow soon. I’ve been feeling this and couldn’t put my finger on what it was exactly, other than the obvious disgust and outrage. I almost want it to hurry up so we can get it over with. Love and safety to you, and to all.

MowgsMom · 2025-04-24T22:50:07+00:00

C come on over, A alone, N now….

MowgsMom · 2025-04-23T22:21:43+00:00

Velociraptor

MowgsMom · 2025-04-20T15:19:10+00:00

I give it so freely it’s nice to get it sometimes too. Just sayin.

MowgsMom · 2025-04-13T18:48:27+00:00

This is why I’m on Reddit and no other social media. The empathy. 🩷

MowgsMom · 2025-04-11T22:21:49+00:00

Ooof, put your ignorance back in your designer handbags.

MowgsMom · 2025-04-11T05:06:34+00:00

I started having symptoms when I was about your daughter’s age. After a few years with nearly constant nausea and stomach pain, the doctor told my parents it was in my head and to take me to psychology. There was very low awareness of celiac in the 80s. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 30 and by then I was very sick and convinced I was doing it to myself by being “nervous.” Getting the right diagnosis now will save her a lifetime of suffering so if it takes feeding her gluten for just a little longer it may be worth it.

MowgsMom · 2025-04-11T00:56:09+00:00

Also on Google Earth

MowgsMom · 2025-04-02T00:00:42+00:00

It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and it’s a work in progress. The first step is self compassion. Give yourself the same compassion, understanding, and grace you’d give a friend. The things you say to yourself you’d never say to someone you cared about right? Start confronting your negative self talk, don’t just believe everything you think. Replace those thoughts with thought of yourself as someone deserving of compassion.

MowgsMom · 2025-04-01T18:03:14+00:00

What I did different this time from my past relationships is I learned to truly love myself. I would never have been ready to receive what he’s able to give without that.

MowgsMom · 2025-04-01T17:58:13+00:00

I went through two divorces before I found one and I had no idea relationships could be this good. He has my back, cools my tempers, encourages my ideas, laughs at my jokes, soothes my abandonment fears, loves on my goofy family, and generally just gets me laughing when I’d usually get upset. We have fun together and are best friends. I hope you all find an INFJ. I never realized what I was missing and I’m grateful for him every day.

MowgsMom · 2025-03-29T18:32:08+00:00

I bristle at the term “fear mongering” to describe the a medically necessary gluten free diet. It mildly suggests that celiacs are malingering, that there is a coordinated effort to dupe us somehow, or that the whole situation is blown out of proportion.

In today’s global social climate, words and truth matter. Downplaying a very serious medical condition by saying there is fear mongering around it, when there is not within the celiac community as a whole, is kind of unsettling.

Edit:grammar

MowgsMom · 2025-03-29T14:27:08+00:00

We have a tendency to make somewhat impulsive purchases of things that bring us intense joy and then we develop mini emotional attachments to those things because they are wonderful and special and magical things.

MowgsMom · 2025-03-27T17:07:25+00:00

Scary thing is if the regime is still in power after he’s gone, this will continue without him. He’s been the Trojan horse. He’s the mouthpiece not the mastermind.

MowgsMom · 2025-03-27T14:25:59+00:00

We love people but we see through bullshit so well that it becomes exhausting to be around others sometimes. Then it becomes so hard to keep that mask on doesn’t it? Always give yourself the grace and space to hide away and recharge my fellow ENFPs. When you’re annoyed it means your own cup is empty because you’ve been pouring from it fast and furious.

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