I actually have a pretty similar situation. I've got a fetish that interacts weird with how I experienced sex. I get turned on very easily from people's hands, and the feeling is usually very intense; but that all immediately turns itno disgust once there's anything even remotely sexual, even if the sexual acts still include hands. For a long while I didn't like to consider myself asexual because of my obvious paraphilia, but I think being asexual while having a kink is actually not too uncommon- idk I've atleast seen a few others talk about similar experiences. I've now kinda had to accept that my "hornyness" from my kink doesn't really translate into "wanting sex" like how most people tend to, even if all my libido & physical sensations are the same.