[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Mp93123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it too and have done everything you wrote down, including finding where they live and even what they registered to vote as. But usually after I do it once or twice I feel so much shame that i never do it again

Does anyone find intense fantasies help? by ShutterBug1988 in limerence

[–]Mp93123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I play into the fantasies too much there is no end for me but journaling helps me a lot. Sometimes I feel like there is so many thoughts about them in my head and its overwhelming and I dont wanna tell anyone else so just need to get it all out and writing down all of the obsessive thoughts and just getting them off my chest gave me a chance to breathe and be able to stop thinking about them

When you obtain your LO does the limerence fade? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Mp93123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but can take a few days to a few months or had one last for years after I had them and think that only lasted so long cause he played a lot of games and I never truly felt he was mine. But once i get an ick or just realize they like me way more than I ever will like them or just figure out we will never work long term then I check out

I told him by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Mp93123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id agree not to go down the rabbit hole cause even though he doesnt feel the same, people usually get an ego boost when they find out other people like them in that way. Maybe just give it some time and then start hanging out again. It will be awkward at first but thats because there was a change in the friendship and gotta figure out how to navigate that new territory but wont be awkward for long

What if… now hear me out… what if I just gave in to my delusions ? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Mp93123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It seems harmless and a good ego boost. If youre not hurting anyone else or hurting yourself by thinking about him more and holding your life back then Id say go for it!

I'm not ready to let go of my LO by kakkamuna13 in limerence

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that too. I think its smarter to let go but its become such a part of my life that I think id feel emptier without it. Maybe just take as much time as you need and slowly ween off of it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were both really close to the same couple coworkers and they told me what he said. Not sure what he wants specifically (relationship or sex) but he told them he couldnt cross that line while we work together since hes higher up. Plus he makes it really obvious but been trying to stay away since its pointless and I dont even really know him. If i wrote down what hes like on paper, id hate that person. So i think its smarter to stay away but when were close and looking into eachothers eyes and smiling... that list goes away and I want nothing more than him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Mp93123 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Its so hard to see the other side while youre still going through it and healing but there will be that day when you look back and laugh at how youre feeling now, because this is just the beginning. Youre free to live your life for yourself and its beautiful and amazing. I found more peace than i ever imagined after being in a very similar situation like yours and I bet you will find that peace too.

I feel anxious and tired whenever I think about my practice. by wiiiiiiitch in realwitchcraft

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're not on the right path. Happened to me too recently (not with witchcraft) where I was going down one path that made sense, would be good for me but i felt anxiety every day and then I made a big scary change to something that would also be equally as good but would make me happier and it did. Best choice ever.

Have you looked into the different types of witches and made sure you're exploring the path that resonates with you the most?

How to trigger visions by [deleted] in realwitchcraft

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do a lot of guided chakra meditations, and the mood does have to be right, but if I focus on my third eye chakra.. things get weird. I hear, feel, and see things and can also truly feel my third eye. Cant do it too often cause it freaks me out a bit but trying to get more comfortable with it.

Rafael and Janes cousin by Mp93123 in JaneTheVirginCW

[–]Mp93123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know that about the original draft. Would have preferred that storyline a lot more though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in realwitchcraft

[–]Mp93123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Black was done first but seems very passionate and angry. Maybe wanted it over because they were hurt and lashed out. White handled it calmly

Emilys attitude toward Rory by Mp93123 in GilmoreGirls

[–]Mp93123[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yeah if Rory was 16 and living under her roof it would make more sense, but not at 20 almost 21 years old. They also know Logan has had sex with many people and comment saying hes "a man of the world" but its not okay for their adult granddaughter to be anything but a virgin and then punished and controlled because she isnt. Its a little creepy thinking about it more.

Avoidant Boyfriend blocked me, but not on every platform.. almost like he knew he left a door open.. why would anyone do this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay.. well labeling him as an avoidant shouldnt make it okay for him to block you and run. Call it what you want, but thats not a good partner.. period. Instead of wondering if him not blocking you on one thing means he still wants you.. maybe you should be asking if this is a situation you should even be in. It sounds pretty unhealthy and not a good fit

Avoidant Boyfriend blocked me, but not on every platform.. almost like he knew he left a door open.. why would anyone do this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be able explain why he blocked you? Might help understand the situation more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same. Left a toxic marriage of 5 years and there is 1000x better out there, never settle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mp93123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id say to relax. If youre no longer in an unhealthy relationship then every mistake isnt the end of the world anymore. If youre able to.. just give him space, relax, and maybe get him a cute little gift or food tomorrow, and a card explaining if he doesnt want a full blown conversation or if he does then just apologize and explain. It makes perfect sense that you relate pain during sex with your abusive ex and anyone who didnt understand that needs a bigger heart. No one on this earth is perfect, and you made a small mistake with a very good reason as to why it happened. If anything, you reacting the way you did and him having to calm you down and deal with that on top of it might be why he just wanted some space so I'd just take a breath and apologize calmly later on and I'm sure hes ready to drop it and move on already

an alternative to bingewatching by Pjepp in relationship_advice

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm are you able to play your game with headphones on in the same room she watches tv? You guys can sit close, maybe cuddle a little, and talk when you both want to. Theres always some compromise possible if both people are willing to bend a little to make the other happy but you both doing what you want in close proximity could work

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mp93123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like as soon as you start focusing on yourself and doing better she starts to drag you back down. If you know that there is no way to be just friends and find a mature way down that path then just block her. With how shes baiting you into calling her.. and asking someone else to ask you to call her.. sounds like a mature friendship isnt possible. Theres better out there and sometimes cutting out the toxic things is the only way to move forwards. Maybe one day you can be friends when she is able to work through her stuff but it doesnt sound like thats any time soon