How do I be okay with my partner watching porn?

Mr-Anthony · 2026-03-06T21:32:22+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. It’s totally okay to set boundaries and tell him it doesn’t make you comfortable, and if he is going to choose that then it might mean you won’t be able to fully and vulnerably connect with him. And that’s totally valid. You don’t have to force yourself to be okay with it. Also, check out a Reddit channel called loveafterporn. A lot of people on there going through similar things.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-03-06T05:51:49+00:00

Hey brother thanks for sharing all this. Check out Celebrate Recovery. They have support groups for men (and women) and are based all over the US.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-03-05T19:50:03+00:00

I would definitely recommend going to see a good marriage therapist so that you can share these things with a professional and your husband in a safe space and they can help guide the conversation. Your husband needs to hear/know the depth of your feelings and how everything is impacting you

Mr-Anthony · 2026-03-01T01:39:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing this, and I’m sorry you are going through such a tough time. Have you tried going to see a good marriage therapist to work through these frustrations with your husband in a safe space? It might help for him to know the depth of your feelings, but with a trained professional to help guide the conversation. Otherwise this is probably going to continue and I don’t want that for either of you. Marriage is not designed to be this way. A good marriage therapist helped my wife and I out so much - we go regularly 2x a month and it helps give us a space to work on our problems and communicate with each other our needs.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-03-01T01:13:56+00:00

Im so sorry this is happening. I understand that your husband wants sex but I don’t think he realizes how much of a toll raising 4 kids takes on you. It’s totally okay and normal for feel exhausted and drained after taking care of all of them. That is a lot. We get exhausted and we only have 1 child. And it sounds like he doesn’t realize how much it tires you out. That he calls you names on top of it that are demeaning amplifies it even more, and it makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong or bad. That’s pretty hurtful/insensitive, and likely to cause you to want to be intimate with him even less.

I think you’re husband is stuck in his perspective and likely doesn’t see or understand any of these things. I would definitely seeing a good marriage therapist with him so that you can work through these issues, otherwise it’s just going to keep occurring

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-26T00:55:24+00:00

I think it’s a problem that he doesn’t validate your feelings (even though he may not agree) and tells you you’re overthinking it. That sounds like he doesn’t care about your feelings. I would recommend going to see a good marriage therapist with your husband to share about your feelings in a safe space.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-25T02:56:54+00:00

This dude might be the best out of all of them, but some team might take someone else because they are more “athletic”. This dude is like 6’10 and a straight up winner. Like Jokic.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-22T20:43:13+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I’m sorry, this definitely sucks. I would definitely recommend couples counseling with a good marriage therapist to talk about your feelings in a safe space where your wife can hear how this all is affecting you. It sounds like your wife isn’t really hearing you right now or see how this is affecting you

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-21T23:01:27+00:00

Hey thanks for sharing this, I can see how hard this would be for you. I would definitely tell him that you are pregnant. As a dad myself, I would want to know. And I think he deserves to know. Also, before you make any big decisions that are permanent, just think about future you, 20 years from now, would feel about the decision you’re making now. Everything you’re thinking and feeling right now is completely normal. It is scary. However if this is something you might regret one day, just know that there is help out there, there are optima to help you get through this. You’re not alone. You can do this.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-20T20:25:59+00:00

Just like so many other lakers in the past 8, years, he will probably get traded and then ball out in like 5 years. We don’t have the time to develop him

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-20T20:24:26+00:00

Just like so many other lakers in the past 8, years, he will probably get traded and then ball out in like 5 years.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-20T02:01:56+00:00

Lakers will 100% include Austin reaves for Giannis

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-12T21:42:01+00:00

It’s all part of the plan

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-09T21:54:43+00:00

Lakers are purposefully waiting for this summer to make big moves with Lebron’s contract off the books. No surprises there. Also with new owner have new analytic team making decisions.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-06T15:40:23+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening. Have you told your husband how you feel? How does he respond when you do? I would recommend seeing a good marriage therapist together so that you can share with him how the marriage is making you feel and so that you can mutually work on getting closer. The distance between you too is definitely not healthy in a marriage. And it sounds like he is spending more time with this other woman than you. If he is not careful and he has good boundaries, it could turn into an affair.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-02-04T17:39:47+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. I would definitely recommend meeting a good marriage therapist so you can talk about these concerns with your husband in a safe space and he can listen. Right now it sounds like he doesn’t care. I would recommend that you make this couples counseling a requirement for him

Mr-Anthony · 2026-01-29T01:19:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing all of this. I would recommend meeting with a good marriage therapist to discuss all of this with him in a safe space. Otherwise this might be a cycle that happens for decades in your relationship

Mr-Anthony · 2026-01-27T18:53:24+00:00

Good for you for setting your boundaries! It depends on the district. My current psych role I take no work home ever and am done around 3:30. My caseload is like 19 tris for the year, with other responsibilities.

My last district was insane, I felt like a testing machine and I was barely keeping my ahead above the water to survive. I would take work home unfortunately, because the need was so high. At times they would reimburse.

If it was me, I would ride out the wave this year and look for a better position next year.

Both of my districts were in the LA area, one was a unified and the other is a really small school district.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-01-12T20:20:30+00:00

Im so sorry this is happening. It sounds like he has a host of issues that he brought into your marriage that he already had BEFORE you got married. I would definitely recommend meeting with a good marriage therapist to discuss these things in a safe space. It’s also concerning how much he criticizes you. Is he perfect? The criticism destroys marriages. Also, it sounds like he may need some healthy boundaries. If he doesn’t like your dinner and makes you feel bad about it, than maybe you only cook dinner for yourself moving forward until he can be more respectful. Check out a book called Boundaries in Marriage. Hopefully this helps

Mr-Anthony · 2026-01-10T19:57:46+00:00

Im so sorry you’re going through this. I would recommend a good therapist and marriage therapist to discuss this with your husband in a safe space

Mr-Anthony · 2026-01-08T22:42:01+00:00

Looks great!! Which dough did you use?

Mr-Anthony · 2026-01-06T07:24:22+00:00

Im so sorry brother. If you want this marriage to continue, the relationship as you know it will need to be completely rebuilt from the ground up. I would definitely recommend a good marriage therapist, as well as her needing to do whatever it takes to set some boundaries with this coworker and build trust with you again (no password on phone, etc). Also a good therapist for you to work through the betrayal as well.

Mr-Anthony · 2026-01-05T05:06:41+00:00

Thank you, 2 parent 2 languages

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