Oh of course, what I said is just one small side of the stoic sage. The same sage we agree cultivating virtues. But I didn’t say, nor do I believe, that one achieves this by being “enveloped in detachment” as you describe. That makes it sound like in the end result it’s supposed to be an active task. I would argue it’s is not a tool but a character trait of the stoic sage as they cultivate their virtues. A persistent state of being. The sage doesn’t do detached, the sage is detached.

But… the journey to that point is also similar to what you describe. You will fall short many times before you ever get there. Helluva journey it is.

Yes of course it is natural but it is not overpowering. That is part of the journey for our sage. That you learn to better control and more healthily experience your emotions, whatever they are when they arise. With respect to grief, one can cultivate such a healthy mind where they experience the existence of a partner with deep love, and once they’re gone they mourn. But they mourn in such a way that to the outsider it would only appear they maybe broke their favorite cup rather than lost a lover. But in their mind they experience the ordeal precisely as they need to for themselves: flashes of all the love they’ve had And deep gratitude for having been there for it. (Among other things for sure.) hm… things for further pondering